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Always Be Closing.

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That clip is from the film Glengarry Glen Ross. If you’ve not seen it, see it. The clip above is part of the most famous scene in the film, where Alec Baldwin’s character admonishes the sales team responsible for selling property on the Glengarry and Glen Ross estates on their failures.

That brings about one of the things that I want to talk about in this article.

Some Guys Are Just Not Trying Hard Enough

The number one reason that anybody who has become good at game got where they are is persistence. If you go out every week and practice hitting on girls, it is almost certain that you’ll get laid sooner or later, because it’s a numbers game. The more girls you talk to, the more likely it is that you’ll find one who likes you, whatever you do to fuck it up.

But that’s not the point of game. Numbers game isn’t a game, it’s just bull-headed persistence and luck.

You need to combine that persistence with a desire to improve.

You have to go out regularly and you have to analyse your game to work out where you made mistakes. Then the next time you go out, you have to ensure that you have a game plan for that day. Let me give you examples from my own beginnings.

When I started, out I knew that game was just a skill. In order to learn that skill, I had to find resources that would help me learn it and I needed to take massive action to put into practice what I learned from those resources.

I didn’t want to go on a bootcamp, because I knew from past experience that although the bootcamp experience gets you approaching and gives you that feeling of confidence with women for the weekend, unless you keep that momentum going, the effects fade quite quickly.

One of the reasons I chose to concentrate on Daygame is because there is a blueprint which takes you from zero to hero. You’ve just got to internalise it and implement it. They have plenty of free videos which explain almost every stage of the process and a bunch of products that you can buy to give you more in-depth information should you need it.

Be Methodical

So, I knew that I wouldn’t be able to run before I could walk, so I concentrated on taking baby-steps. I looked at the Daygame blueprint and said to myself, “Okay, what is the Attention Snap?”

The Attention Snap is the first stage of the Daygame blueprint, and the most vital to get right. I worked out from watching Yad approaching that in his case, the Attention Snap was doing a Yad Stop on a girl and saying “Excuse me, can I say something really quickly?”

So, I went out on the street and practiced the Attention Snap over and over again until I could consistently get a girl to stop.

At first I’d freak the girls out. I analysed my actions and realised that I was doing two things wrong:

  1. I was literally jumping in front of them. I modified this to be more a more smooth jog so that I came into their line of sight gradually.
  2. I was getting far too close during the stop. I modified this so that as I was jogging around in an arc as I passed her, I held out my arm to stop her and used that as a guide to keep me at the right distance.

There were a few other things to improve, such as making sure I was smiling, speaking slowly and loudly, giving direct eye contact, having good posture, etc. but eventually I was satisfied with that part of my game. Then I started working on the next part, the Prehistory.

As you can see, I gradually built my game bit by bit, making sure the foundations were solid first before progressing. I knew that eventually I would get to closing and that I just needed to be patient, methodical and analytical.

So to reiterate my point, don’t just go out every week, do exactly the same thing and expect to get different results. You’ve got to work out where you are going wrong and adjust what you do then next time you go out.

Also, don’t have a big list of things to modify the next time you go out. Pick one thing and work on getting that one thing right. If you’re trying to fix multiple issues at once, you won’t know what modification has had which effect. Make one change and try it on multiple girls, then you will be able to pin-point where you’re going wrong and think of other things you can do to try to fix it.

Closing is Fucking

Now we come to the main point of the article, closing. Check out this clip from Boiler Room, a great film about stock market brokers selling dodgy investments by cold-calling clients.
Two things come up from this clip. First of all, what is closing?
In sales, closing a deal is convincing the prospect to buy whatever it is that you’re selling. But, further than that, it is the exchange of the buyer’s cash for the product or service being bought.

If you compare this to game, closing is fucking the girl. Let me say that again, but using a bold font.

In game, closing is fucking the girl.

Many guys think that taking the girl’s number (number close) or kissing her in the street (kiss close) is a close, but it’s not. The only close that matters is the fuck close. If you don’t have sex with the girl, you didn’t close her.

A kiss close is pointless unless you’re then going to instant-date her and take her home, because it raises her buying temperature too much and buyer’s remorse is almost inevitable. See all that sales terminology? You make her want it too much, but you’re making her want it now-now-now, so you’ve got to pull the trigger now-now-now and get her to your bedroom as soon as possible, to do a real close.

A number close is a good thing to learn, and should be a part of your game arsenal, but it’s not a real close. It’s just a way to enable you to re-engage with the girl at a later point. You should use it for any of the following reasons:

  • Because you don’t have time to attempt to lay her that day.
  • Because she is too busy or unwilling to spend more time with you at that moment.
  • Because you’re out number farming and are concentrating on getting as many numbers as possible to play with.
  • Because you’re still not experienced enough yet in the dating and seduction stages of the game and want to learn those step-by-step before trying for same-day lays.
  • The girl isn’t hot enough for you to invest an extended period of time in seducing her.

There’s probably a couple more that I’ve not thought about, but on the whole, you should always be thinking about the lay. You’re not going out with the aim of taking a girl’s number. You’re not going out with the aim of having a nice chat or a cup of coffee with a girl. You’re not going out to stroke your ego. You’re going out with the aim of having sex with a hot girl. Everything else you do is a tool to aid you in the pursuit of that goal.

Persistence and Frame Control

The second thing that came to me from the clip is persistence. Most guys I take out just let the girl dominate the frame.

Towards the end of that clip, Ben Affleck’s character tells the group “Either you sell the client some stock or he sells you a reason why he can’t”.

The same applies to your game. If you’re talking to a girl and the girl’s still standing there, keep pushing the interaction towards the close. I’ll be out with a protege and he’ll see a girl he likes so I tell him “Go and speak to her then”, so he’ll jog over and open her. Then a few seconds later, I’ll see him jogging back and I say to him, “She looked like she was into you, how come the interaction was so short?” It’s usually one of two things. Either:

  • The girl said something that the guy took to be a rejection, but in actual fact was just her testing his resolve.
  • The girl was still a little shocked at being stopped and wasn’t able to think of something to say, so her mind made her blurt out a standard reply like “I have a boyfriend” or “I’m late to meet my friends”.

Kudos, well done. Most guys can’t even approach. But when you’ve got over that initial approach anxiety, there’s no reason for you to eject from an interaction unless she physically walks away. And even then, there are a few things you can do to try and save the set.

If you’re talking to her and she’s still standing there with her legs crossed and she comes out with some reason to discontinue the interaction, take it with a pinch of salt and continue with your conversation. A woman is looking for a leader. She expects you to lead the interaction and ignore any token objections that she throws at you.

Write this rule indelibly in your mind: Judge a woman by her actions, not her words.

Now before anyone tells me that this is harassing women, you’re wrong.

You’re not grabbing her wrist and forcing her to talk to you. You’re just ignoring objections and pressing on with your agenda. If she walks away, let her. She’s showing with her actions that you’re not doing a good enough job of seducing her. Let her go, learn from the experience and resolve to do better with the next girl.

If she’s still standing there, she’s giving you permission to continue gaming her. Stay calm and unflustered and progress through the blueprint towards the close. And as I’ve said before, if you have the opportunity, escalate to your bed. Take a number only if there’s no way of taking her straight to a coffee shop. Always be closing.

That’s it, I’m done.

How to Avoid Common Relationship Mistakes.

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The vast majority of guys who get good at game eventually get to a point where they meet a girl that they really like. So much so that even if they had previously made a solemn vow to remain a playboy for their remaining years, this girl makes them at least consider a return to monogamy.

I’ve been in relationships before learning game and I’ve been in relationships since learning game. With each girl that I spend time with, I’ve learned more about how to get what I want from the relationship.

With this article, I aim to spell out two things that I do now that I didn’t do before, which have made a massive impact on the quality of my relationships. In a future post I’ll go over a few of the others, but these are two of the most important.

Abundance

The main problem that guys who are not regularly meeting and fucking new women have is a lack of abundance. “No shit”, you may say. And I agree with you because from the outside, it’s obvious.

If you don’t have a woman and you don’t have game, the answer is also obvious: Learn game.

However, if you learned some game and settled down into a monogamous relationship, your number one problem is how to keep that feeling of abundance.

Why is it so important?

Let me run a scenario past you. Answer ‘yes’ or ‘no’.

If you were in a relationship and for one reason or another, that relationship stopped right now and you never saw your woman again, would you be confident of being able to fuck one or more completely different women within one month?

If you answer ‘no’, you don’t have abundance.

If you answer ‘yes’, you do. Now, if you’re in a monogamous relationship, you’ve basically made an agreement, spoken or unspoken, with your woman that you will not sleep with or have romantic liaisons with other women. Can you see how making this agreement is like tying a noose around your neck, swinging the rope over a tree branch and giving the end to your woman?

If you don’t have abundance, you’re not in charge of the relationship, the woman is. If she knows or even senses that you don’t have access to other pussy, she’s going to make you pay for the pussy that you get from her, because all of a sudden, it’s a scarce resource. And whether they know it consciously or not, women know deep down that what we want most from them is regular sex.

So, what’s the solution? There are many.

Most guys faced with this situation just decide to live with it. They have no game nor any knowledge of the red pill so they think that their only option is to live in a world where pussy is a reward for expensive gifts, dinners at restaurants, holidays, marriages and children.

Some guys have less integrity and tell their women that they’re monogamous but in fact meet and fuck other girls on the side. These guys also have little or no game and either meet these girls by chance or pay for the pussy. Either way, these guys have absolutely no self-respect. Don’t let this be you.

Then there are guys who never become monogamous. They have game, they have pussy on demand and have plenty of abundance. This is a charmed life to live, but all of the guys I know of, or have read about who live like this complain of regular periods of burn-out or game-revulsion. They get sick of chasing pussy and have to spend a couple of months at a time away from game, doing something else entirely.

There is also Polygyny, but that’s so rare, that it’s like seeing a unicorn.

The final alternative is to see the woman monogamously and have some game, but keep that game sharp by still gaming other women. I don’t mean gaming other women, dating and fucking them. I just mean gaming them. Approach attractive women in your day-to-day life, run game on them and take their number. Maybe send the initiator text to make sure your game is good, but go no further.

This way, you are faithful to your woman, but you are keeping your skill-set fresh and you are getting enough validation from other women to know that if and when your relationship cracks apart, you have immediate options. You can even occasionally flirt with other attractive women when your own woman is present.

When you do this, she will often surprise you by picking up a new pair of semi-transparent underwear to tempt you with or even spontaneously unzipping you for a crafty blow-job in a semi-public place. Abundance is extremely important.

Leadership

The second thing that you have to be in a relationship is the leader. In every relationship, there is always one person who is in charge. There is no democracy in relationships. Sure, the leader consults with with follower, but in the end, someone is always wearing the trousers. Make sure it’s you.

Here are some examples of things that you should be doing to ensure that you’re the one in charge, not her.

When she asks you where you want to go to eat, you tell her which restaurant. Picking a restaurant that she likes will please her, but you make the decision.

What will please her more is that she is relieved of the burden of having to make a decision. Women hate having to make decisions. They hate taking responsibility.

This is why part of learning to be a man is to make it normal to make decisions and be responsible for your life and to some extent, the life of your woman.

If she asks you what film you should go to see at the cinema together, tell her. She will probably have mentioned at some point that she likes the look of one film or another. You should have been listening and made a mental note. If you’re memory’s shit like mine, keep a notebook and write the name of the film down, so you can remember.

It doesn’t matter that you’re not necessarily going to see a film that you want to see, what matters is that you’re making the decision. And she’ll be extra passionate when the time comes for her to spread her legs later that night.

If you’re walking with her in the street, trying to get to some arbitrary location, you should never allow her to walk in front of you. Always keep her at your side or behind you. If she wanders in front, call her back. If she asks why, tell her “I’m in charge here” and hold her hand or her wrist.

The only time I let my women walk in front is when I tell her to. And that’s usually when she’s wearing a particularly nice skirt, so I can see the way her arse moves while she’s walking. And I tell her that. I like to see her blush.

Lead her physically as well as mentally.  Put your palm in the small of her back and push her softly to direct her where you want her to go. Occasionally hold her elbow when you cross the road. Don’t overdo the physicality, be laid back. Just show her that you have concern for her welfare and that you’re there to lead her safely to wherever it is that you’re going to.

Lead her in the bedroom. When you’re tired of one position and want to do something else, move her or tell her to move. If you want to do the missionary position, put your hands between her thighs and spread her legs. If you want to change to doggy style, grab her legs, twist her over on to her belly and tell her to get on all fours. If you want her to suck your cock, push down on her shoulders and tell her to get down on her knees.

You’re leading. She is following.

These two things will make a relationship a lot more pleasant. Try them and you’ll see.

How International Dating Gives You Balls of Steel.

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One thing I have noticed is that when you have a problem that needs solving, often an answer will come from seemingly nowhere and assuming your senses are open you can accept and benefit from it. This happens all the time to me and I think it is a direct consequence of deliberately putting myself in a state of openness. Be open to new ideas and experiences.
 
As you may know if you read my last post, I’m writing a book and that has taken up a lot the spare time that I was using for blog posts. I actually have ideas for three upcoming posts but no time to write them. A large chunk of additional time is being taken up applying for new jobs, speaking to agencies who are offering me work and going for interviews.
So it was with delight that I got an email from Sebastian of www.globalseducer.com, who was offering to write a guest post for me. I’m a little sceptical when I get emails like this, but Sebastian suggested five different topics for the post, so he obviously has a lot to say. I inquired about one topic and he replied with a finished article!
One thing that I’m working on at the moment is increasing my income through getting a better paying job which in turn will give me extra funds to finance my side-businesses, which in turn will provide a passive income stream. Once this grows to a reasonable monthly sum, I intend to quit my main job and go travelling around the world, seducing the hottest women I can find.
Sebastian seems to have already reached this goal, so he is the ideal person to talk about the effect that travelling the world has on a would-be womaniser. I hope you enjoy the article.

How International Dating Gives You Balls of Steel

I can confidently say that one of the main reasons why I got successful with women is because I decided to travel all around the world in search of the most beautiful girls that this wonderful planet has to offer.
The decision to leave my tiny home town behind me and to embark on a journey that led me through Eastern Europe, Asia and South America was the best decision I ever made. When it comes to your personal development the benefits of dating women from all over the world are nearly limitless.
Malicious tongues would probably say that the only reason why I travelled all around the world in search of romantic and sexual adventures was because I couldn’t get laid back home. Well, this is absolutely not true.
Despite the fact that German women are often labelled as unapproachable, I was pretty successful in my home country. I had plenty of opportunities to settle down with a nice girlfriend, but somehow I wanted more.
I already got over a lot of my fears, but I knew that I still had a long way to go if I wanted to become really good at this. Fortunately, my one year of travel allowed me to become better with women and more comfortable in my own skin than I would have ever thought.  Let’s have a look at the reasons why international dating gives you balls of steel.

You Have to Overcome Your Fear of Women

I don’t know from which country you are but in case you are from any country in the Western hemisphere you don’t even know what it means to be surrounded by breathtakingly beautiful women.
I learned how to seduce women in a country that is known for its cold and unattractive girls and until I travelled to Poland I really thought that I had overcome all my fears of women. I was really convinced that I didn’t have any approach anxiety anymore. I was wrong.
The moment I stepped out of the airport in Warsaw my heart started to beat like never before. There were beautiful blond women everywhere. I couldn’t believe my eyes and when I travelled to Belgrade and to Russia the women became more and more beautiful. As a result of that my approach anxiety got worse and worse.
I still remember how I wasn’t able to say a correct sentence when I stood in front of this incredibly gorgeous model in Russia. You might think that you are completely fearless and that you can approach every girl in the world but the only way to find that out is by testing if you can also approach a Russian model or a Colombian salsa instructor.

You Leave Years of Social Conditioning Behind

We are constantly conditioned by society and most of the time you probably don’t even realize it. You are conditioned to buy certain things, to live your life a certain way and you are also conditioned to belief certain things about the world.
In case you have never travelled to another country chances are high that you still believe that every Thai girl is a prostitute and that all Russian women are gold diggers. Travelling the world in search of beautiful women allows you to leave exactly those poisoned beliefs behind you.
Once you have seen how the world really is and how amazing women are, who you wrongfully judged before, the less fearful you will be. You will forget about the fears that our society, the media and sometimes even your parents gave you and you will start to become fearless and excited to experience new adventures.

You Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

Did you know that international dating is the best medicine when you want to become more confident by stepping out of your comfort zone? Travelling without the goal to seduce beautiful women is already a threat for your comfort zone.
I know so many people who are talking about how they want to travel the world one day. It’s just too bad that this day will most likely never come. So many people decide to stay in the comfort of their home instead of travelling to foreign countries.
What do you do? You take your courage in both hands, travel the world and you even end up dating amazing women. You are expanding your comfort zone way more than anyone else who plans to embark on a trip around the world.
You not only have to communicate with people whose language you don’t speak, you want to seduce them. You not only ask strangers for directions, you ask them to go on a date with you. Your comfort zone will get wider than the belly circumference of Kevin James.
By stepping out of your comfort zone you overcome your fears and at the same time you become the kind of guy that women truly want. I have never met a woman who said that an adventurous traveller is unattractive.

You Fail Along the Way

I already told you that some people would say that the only reason why guys go abroad is because they can’t get laid at home. Well, what if I tell you that this is not only complete nonsense, but that it can also be more challenging to date overseas than at home?
You don’t know the local language and most of the girls you’ll meet speak very poor English. Unless you study the local dating culture before you go there you will sometimes behave in a way that isn’t in alignment with the local dating customs.
When you embark on this journey it is inevitable that you won’t fail along the way. Sooner or later you will meet a woman who shows you the limits of your seduction skills. And do you know what? That’s great!
Those are the experiences that you learn the most of. Every failure will make you stronger better. Dating beautiful women in a country you have never been to allow you to learn more about yourself and about the art of seduction than you ever thought would be possible.

Upcoming Book Release.

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I’m working on writing a book at the moment, which is why blog posts have become a little less frequent than usual, so watch this space.

Don’t worry though, I’m also currently cogitating on another post, so one will be published soon.

Are You Being Conditioned?

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If I told my work-mates that I haven’t watched TV for eight years, they’d look at me like I was a little peculiar.

So, I don’t. One thing I find about trying to better myself is that it becomes really hard for the average person to relate to me. I guess that’s why I prefer to hang around other people with some ambition. People who don’t want to be a sheep like everyone else.

But how do people get like this? How do they become ‘normal’ and how are they kept in a state of quiescence?

Always the same way. They are conditioned over a long period of time.

So, what is conditioning? Wikipedia says it is, “is a process of behaviour modification”.

Therefore, when you are conditioned, your behaviour is modified. Modified how, to what, by whom and to what purpose you may ask.

The main methods of modification are advertisements and marketing, media (TV, newspapers, internet news, magazines, films, radio, etc), our parents, the education system and our peers.

Hypnotised

With the exception of Football (Match of the Day) and Formula One racing, I watch no TV at all. I sold my TV and have never looked back. It all started when I broke up with my girlfriend and discovered self-development books.

I noticed that after I came back from band practice or work, or whatever I’d been doing, she’d always be sitting on the sofa watching some TV programme.

I’d visit my parents and they’d be sitting in front of the TV. They live in Spain, so I Skype them every couple of weeks. The last time I did so, my own mother left the conversation halfway through so she could watch a TV programme that was about to start.

Before I dumped all of them and got new ones, I would visit friends at their houses and the TV would be on. I would be talking to them and their gaze would not shift from whatever was on the screen as they replied to me.

They looked like zombies. They looked like they were hypnotised, with their eyes wide and glazed over, minds wide open, ready to accept their programming. And this is exactly what is happening. TV is the ideal medium for conditioning because when we are watching it, we are in a highly suggestible, hypnotic state.

You’re not a Person, You are a Consumer

In our consumer society, the main manipulators are the corporations. They tell you what to buy. In the UK, we have a couple of TV channels run by the BBC which do not feature advertisements during and between programmes. This is not the case anywhere else in the world, to my knowledge. Every fifteen minutes, whatever you’re viewing is interrupted by ‘special announcements’, devised to make you want to buy whatever products are currently being peddled.

The same applies to billboard posters you see everywhere and advertisements in magazines. Some magazines are 80% or more advertisements and no actual news. One thing you will notice when you look at advertisements targeted at men is it will always be:

  1. Attractive girl
  2. Whatever it is they want you to buy
  3. Some humour (as emotion is what triggers the hypnotic response)
  4. Promise that buying said products will get you the attractive girl

Just look at this Lynx advert or this Guinness advert, or just about any advert targeted at men. Advertisers are cunning. They figure out what it is a guy wants (hot women, prestige, success) and link their product to it. They do the same for women. What do women want? A hot guy, comfort and security, approval from their peers, etc: Gucci advert (hot guy, emotion), L’oreal advert (approval, emotion), etc.

With enough repeat exposure to this, we are conditioned to want to buy it.

Consumerism is not the only thing that is trying to influence the way we think. If you live in a nation (as pretty much everybody does), you will have a class or wealth system (usually these two are heinously intertwined). The rich elite, who unsurprisingly own the large corporations we just talked about need a large group of people to fuel the economy and buy stuff.

Your Entire Life is Planned to Maximise the Profit of your Country and its Major Corporations

If this large group of people (sheep) had an abundant degree of independence and autonomy, they could do whatever they wanted and would probably just leave the country and move somewhere nice and warm, content to sit by the beach and drink cocktails all day. They’d be bored and would spend their time fucking or socialising. All stuff that costs nothing. All stuff that produces nothing.

But what we actually have is conditioning from birth telling you how to live your life.

Here is a table to help translate the views help by the sheep.

Find a wife or girlfriend Spend a lot of money on gifts to impress girls, buy flash cars, gadgets, clothes and other stuff to make you ‘more attractive’ so you can get hotter girls. Also, girlfriend is gateway to wife. Wife is gateway to kids, house, holidays, etc.
Drink alcohol It will make you more attractive to the opposite sex.
Get married So you can have kids, buy a house, go on holidays.
Have kids You are enslaved for the rest of your life. Average cost of a child is £225,000, meaning that you are tied to a job to support your kids and no longer have freedom. You are a slave.
Buy a house You are enslaved for at least 25 years. You have to keep a regular job to pay your mortgage every month or the owners of the house (the bank) take it away from you, leaving yourself and your family homeless.
Go on holidays Take a break from your mind-numbingly tedious job as a wage slave to ensure that you don’t have a nervous break down, which would render you useless to society. Support the economy. Buy more stuff.

I can go on, but you get the idea. All of this stuff is ‘normal’. It’s so ingrained in our brains from birth by our parents, in films, everywhere that this is the way to live. If you start to think differently, you’re damaged goods because you no longer ‘contribute to society’.

Well society isn’t there to help me. It’s to help the people in power stay in power and to help the rich get richer.

Now don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against power and riches. In fact I love it. I intend to get rich myself. Why?

Because money buys freedom.

No wonder the rich work so hard to gain it. But where does the money come from?

The conditioned masses.

How to Gain your Freedom

The solution is to recognise the conditioning and limit the amount of it that you are exposed to.

  • Stop watching TV.
  • Stop reading or watching the news.
  • Stop reading magazines.

Be vigilant when exposed to any media, as you can be sure that nine times out of ten, what you are experiencing is designed to manipulate the way you think. And not in a way which is beneficial to you as an individual.

As a man in the process of development and betterment, whether it be in terms of game, business or anything, your main tool is your mind. The majority of the work you do will be on your mind. Shaping it to have positive belief systems, to take positive action, to think creatively, to be brave, to be individual.

The media wants to stop that. They want you to be scared and confused. They want you to be part of the herd. They want you to look to others for guidance. They want you to do what they tell you to do.

If you want to achieve anything in your life, limit the influence of the mainstream media. Break the habit of a lifetime and be selective in your exposure.

Just by doing that, you will free up extra hours in your week which you can devote to a creative pursuit. One which will enhance your life, not the lives of the rich elite. Eventually you’ll be sitting on a beach somewhere or fucking hot girls or whatever you want.