If you’re practising the standard Daygame model, your journey will consist of the initial interaction with the girl and two dates (day two and day three). The ideal scenario ends with sexual consummation at the end of the second date.
Sandwiched in-between these three physical interactions is a non-physical phase where you communicate via text message. The initial interaction is your street game, the two dates are your seduction game and the filling is your text-game.
There are two main reasons for you to text the girl once you’ve acquired her number:
- To keep yourself and your previous interaction at the front of her mind.
- To seed and request the next date.
What you should not be doing in the text game phase is trying to get more rapport with the girl. This is a mistake that beginners often make to try and patch up inefficiently executed street game.
Don’t Overdo It
If you’re having issues with girls not agreeing to dates when you’re texting them, it’s because of a lack of solid rapport in the conversational (comfort) stage of your initial interaction on the street. Trying to fix this in text game is like trying to build a house on sand without first digging deep foundations.
In addition, having long back-and-forth text conversations with a girl you’ve not even kissed yet, let alone fucked is just going to push you into the friend zone. Why would you want to waste valuable time texting a girl all night when she hasn’t given you any tangible value yet?
Sometimes you have to play a long game (in time and distance) with a girl because before you can meet up with her, she leaves your city or country for a length of time. This post isn’t about that. We’re talking about girls who are available to meet you. If you’re doing long game, you’ll still need to keep in touch with the girl for the first reason I mentioned above, but there is more to it than simple text game.
Do the Bare Minimum
A lot of more experienced PUAs will tell you that “text game is easy”, and in a sense they are correct. What they’re guilty of though, is over-simplification.
It’s easy to do too much texting. Despite calling it ‘text game’, you’re not trying to game the girl during the texting phase. You’re just trying to make sure you don’t fuck up. Although it can be really hard, (after all it is a transitional part of your journey with this girl), try to do the minimum.
Even if you don’t have a busy life, it must appear that you have. Of course the best way to do this is to actually have a busy life. Be meeting friends, participating in activities, spending time with other quality women and working on improving your knowledge and station in life.
Then when a girl texts you, you’ve not been sitting over your phone waiting for the message. You missed the message because your phone was in your bag while you were at your martial arts class. Your day is full of stuff to do, so you literally don’t have time to text a girl for more than a couple of minutes per day. You’re the one with an full life and options and she is the one wondering whether the cool guy who stopped her on the street is going to get in touch.
After the initial interaction, I’ll text the girl a few hours later with a feeler text to gauge her interest levels and if she replies, I won’t send another text until the next day. I’ll then have two or three back-and-forth exchanges on different days with her before sending a date request.
I’m not going to go into detail regarding the content of the messages themselves here. My aim is to convey to you that you don’t want to be investing too much at this stage. Once you’ve banged her and decided you want to keep her around, sure, have an hour long chat with her, but not until then.
What to Text Her
The following isn’t a hard and fast rule as each girl is different, so you should adapt. During your first text game phase, you should send (and receive) no more than a couple of texts per day and you don’t even have to text every day. Sometimes it’s good to leave a day without communication between exchanges. When sending texts to the girl, you shouldn’t be asking questions, you should be making observations.
Three types of messages you can send are:
- A message that gives her an insight into your life.
- A call-back message.
- A funny picture message.
In the insight message, you should be telling her something interesting or fun that happened to you that day. If nothing fun or interesting happens to you, either make it up or even better, change your life so that it is fun and interesting.
The call-back message is something that reminds her of an experience you shared with her during your previous interaction.
The funny picture message is usually a picture you took of some amusing event that happened during your day. You can save these up and send them weeks or months after they actually happened.
When she replies to your message, you should either not reply until the next day or try and have some fun with what she says. Try to skew what she said to make it appear like she was trying to come on to you. Tease her for spelling mistakes. Just be fun and keep it light.
The rule is not to reply immediately. Leave it a while before replying. Also, on occasion, break that rule and reply straight away.
When the time comes to send a date request, be decisive and don’t ask her for her opinion or what she wants. Hopefully you won’t have much time free because you are a busy guy, but if not, pretend that you don’t have much time.
Give her a couple of days when you can meet her and ask her which one she prefers. She’ll usually pick one, but if she can’t make either, don’t immediately try to make other plans. Just keep pinging her texts and try again in a couple of days.
If you can’t come to an agreement within a couple of weeks, it probably isn’t going to happen.
After the first date you should do exactly the same thing. You’ve got more material for call-back messages and you can be a little more flirty with her, as you should have kissed her, or at least tried to kiss her. You’ve displayed intent physically so you can afford to continue that subtly through text.
Again, the key is minimalism. Avoid over-investment. Until you’ve fucked her this is still a game of cat and mouse.
And you’re the cat.
Rules of Thumb
If you eventually get into a relationship with the girl, you can have longer text exchanges with her and you can call her, IM (instant-messenger) her (WhatsApp, etc) and Skype her, but not before.
Either way, don’t overdo it; always try to be the one who ends the interaction first and try to balance your pulls (compliments, praise, etc) with pushes (teases, criticism, etc).
Don’t call a girl straight after you get her number. You could probably do this ten or fifteen years ago, but nowadays girls will find that uncomfortable. She’s only going to be happy to take a call from someone she knows well, i.e; her parents, close friends and lovers (you, after you’ve fucked her).