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Unwrapping the Box.

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I’m no biologist like Tom Torero or Richard Dawkins, but the more time I spend with women, the more I learn about our built-in impulses and desires.

When I was young and had never even kissed a girl properly, my mind was full of the ideas that the media and our education system had put there. I thought you had to be respectful and subservient to a girl. You had to spend your money taking her to the cinema or buying her meals, flowers and gifts before you could be her boyfriend. And then after a few weeks or months of being her boyfriend, you might be able to suck her tits.

Mind Cage

All the time that my mind was forcing me into this little cage, my body and my nerves felt like they were being pushed to the breaking point with an uncontrollable energy and desire to fuck every half-attractive girl I saw. Some of the younger teachers at my school were objects of desire. I’d imagine my English teacher naked or wearing the skimpiest translucent underwear whilst I was reading Shakespeare to her. Back then I thought my lust was invisible but thinking back now, it must have been palpable and openly self-evident. I have no idea how she was able to withstand it.

In an act of outrageous courage, fuelled by an desperate desire to be free of my seemingly unquenchable virginous lust, I went up to the most attractive girl in my college year and asked her straight out if she wanted to “go out” with me. She had long dark hair, bright green eyes and that perfect combination of a slim body and disproportionately large, round breasts.

Her answer was a flat-out “No”.

I had built up so much importance in this one event that the weekend after, whilst walking home after a drink-fuelled night, I broke down in tears, filled with thoughts of self-worthlessness and suicide. This is the only time in my life I have ever thought of killing myself. How cruel our teenage desires are!

Learning Game Teaches You Who You Are

We are given such an uncontrollable drive to fuck as many hot women as we can, but our minds are caged into thinking that we have to follow a torturous and virtually impossible route to fulfill our appetite.

This is not true.

You just have to flush out all of the nonsense that has been put in there to control you and act upon your desire. I’m not saying to go out on the street, grab a girl and fuck her there and then, because I’m sure there are some idiots out there who might take everything I say literally. No, you play the game but you play it by your rules, not theirs.

I’m sure that Game has existed forever. Everyone has heard about Don Juan and his life of seduction. I’m sure there have been others throughout history. But these guys either spent years on their own honing their skills, or they had a mentor to teach them the conquest of women. This is how it has been for centuries.

Until the advent of the Internet.

Now, your mentor can write an article or film a video and teach not one, but many students in one go with the same amount of effort. The number of accomplished seducers practicing in this generation dwarves that of any time past. The pooling of knowledge means that the lay count of any advanced seducer nowadays will undoubtedly have far surpassed that even of Don Juan himself.

Knowledge Through Experience

So, what has changed for me in the interval since I was that horny teenager doing his first approach on a girl in college and the man I am now?

Well learning Game has given me a skill-set which has enabled me to meet a lot of girls. In doing so, my mental image of what a girl thinks and feels has changed dramatically. I don’t put every chick on a pedestal anymore. I now know that women want to be fucked as much, if not more than guys do. They’re just better at hiding it. But on top of my new-found understanding of women, I have a greater understanding of myself.

As an English guy you are taught to be polite and show respect at all times. It is severely frowned upon to behave otherwise. Other cultures have it worse. I can name a big bunch of Asian countries where it is common for guys to be virgins until well into their mid to late twenties and live their entire lives as provider chumps. It is hard to change your mindset and can it take many years, especially if you don’t  start dating a lot of girls until late on in life.

I didn’t get good enough at Game to be able to date two or more different girls per week until I was 37 years old. If I’d started when I was 18, who knows where I would be now? But gradually, my English politeness has been been stripped away. Instead of going to the counter of a sandwich bar and saying:

“Can I have a cheese and tomato sandwich with a packet of crisps please?”

I now say:

 “I’ll have a cheese and tomato sandwich. Give me a packet of crisps too.”

When I’m with a girl, instead of getting up and pouring myself a glass of water, and kindly asking her if she wants one too, I’ll say:

“Get me a glass of water.”

When I talk and think like this, I feel like I am connecting with something in myself that feels true. I just feel that I am closer to what it means to be me. I believe that I am unmasking my real self.

The Box

Just imagine that the way you are supposed to feel and act as a man is a box that is given to you at birth. Let’s call this your genetic predisposition. Inside the box is peace of mind, self-confidence, contentment and righteousness. Between birth and your first knowledge of Game, layers and layers of thick paper are wrapped around your box. You can no longer open it and you have no idea what is inside.

Behaving and talking like I showed you above feels like unwrapping the box and opening it.

For my first few girlfriends, when I was still a chump, I would rarely initiate sex. I would have to receive overt signals from her that she was in the mood. I had no clue how to make a girl horny. I would never just grab a girl that I was seeing and act out my desires on her.

After learning Game and fucking a lot of women on a non-monogamous basis I have unwrapped the box of my masculinity and desire. I don’t just do standard Missionary style for a start.

If I want a girl in another position, I don’t ask her nicely. I grab her legs or her waist and twist her around until she’s where I want her. I don’t just give her nice kisses while fucking her, I grab her hair and put my hand over her mouth and tell her to “Shut the fuck up”. I talk dirty to her and tell her what I’m going to do to her. I tell her that her pussy belongs to me. I make her ask for permission to suck my cock. When I act this way, I can tell that she loves it. Whether she’s a European chick or an Asian chick. Whether she’s an extroverted or introverted chick.

Why?

Because of her own genetic predisposition.

Even if she has been brought up to believe that the feminist imperative is all-important or that men have to be subservient chumps, there is a part of her that knows the truth and is uncomfortable with what she has been taught to be right. When you treat her like you really want to, she can feel it deep inside. She can get a glimpse of what’s inside her own box. And she wants more.

I can look into the box now and see myself reflected.

Four Tips to Experience Satisfying Relationships.

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Before you even go out to meet girls, you need to have an idea of what you’re looking for. If you don’t have much experience with women, this is usually quite a small list of preferences, most likely revolving around looks. For example, you might like a girl who has:

  • Slim build.
  • Red hair.
  • Not too many freckles.

As you meet more women, go on dates, and experience relationships of varying length and seriousness, your initial list of preferences expands, gets more defined and can sometimes change dramatically.

Look Deeper

More often than not, you start looking beyond a girl’s physical characteristics. By this time, you’ll have met a lot of girls and have accumulated an extensive mental catalogue of traits that you would like and not like in your ideal woman.

Most guys just have this list in their heads. After all, it’s in a man’s nature to be constantly checking girls out and comparing them against his mental catalogue for suitability. Some write it down. Either way, it is important that you meet enough women for your list to become well defined.

“Know thyself,” it is said.

In our case, “Know thyself and know thine woman”.

Once you get to this point, will become a lot more discerning about which of the girls you meet qualify to become your girlfriend or join your harem.

After getting to know a girl, you are able to compare her to your list. If you have satisfied yourself that she possesses a high percentage of desirable and a low percentage of undesirable characteristics, you will probably decide that you want to see her again (after fucking her of course).

Give Her Great Sex

It’s important you really satisfy her in the bedroom department, because if you don’t, she’s not going to stay around. So if you find yourself having a bunch of one night stands with girls when you’d actually like to see more of them, this is an area you need to improve.

I’m not going to go over this, as there are a number of good resources out there. Check out:

If you’re able to keep the girl around and you fuck her a few times, she will start to become emotionally attached to you and your connection will become more secure. This is where the challenges of keeping the relationship alive and challenging begin.

Guys who have been in relationships before know that after the honeymoon period of three or four months is over, it is easy for both parties to become progressively more bored. Attention wanders and not longer after, the relationship ends.

This happens for a number of reasons, but if you have sex covered, the main area is that of respect and authority. It is important that your girl respects your authority.

Dominance

Whereas at the beginning of the relationship, she may be feminine and submissive, after a while she may start to refuse your requests, mess you around and be generally annoying. She may start to diverge from your list of characteristics rather than become closer aligned to it.

This is normal. For a girl, it is important that her man remains strong-minded. You have to remain the dominant, outcome-independent leader that she first became interested in. She will probe you to ensure you are solid and resolute. The equivalent with guys is that we are constantly looking at her appearance to reassure ourselves that she is staying slim and good-looking.

Whether we realise it or not, we’re actually making sure that she remains a good option to bear and rear offspring. We’re genetically programmed to do this, so we do it unconsciously, whether we’re interested in marriage and children or not.

What she’s checking for is proof that we’re still an Alpha guy whose genes are good enough to ensure that any offspring will be strong enough to survive birth and thrive in life. Again, she is doing this unconsciously, so never let these so-called “shit-tests” bother you. She’s genetically programmed to do this.

Disipline

If you find that she is beginning to diverge from your list, it is undoubtedly because that you’re no longer meeting the majority of the characteristics on her list.

When it comes to relationships, at the top of the list has to be that you are the dominant player in the relationship. There is no such thing as equal footing in a relationship. There is always one person who is “wearing the trousers”. If you want keep fucking this girl, you need to make sure that it’s you.

This is where Domestic Discipline comes in.

After the relationship has bedded in, your girl will start to do things that are not acceptable to you, in an attempt to see how far she can push you. She’ll slowly try to take command of the relationship until she’s the one in charge and you are the chump.

The good news is that she doesn’t actually want to be in charge. She hates making decisions and has absolute disrespect for a guy she can push around, so it is your job to ensure that none of these little pushes remain unpunished.

When I talk about punishment, I really do mean that you should punish the girl. I’m not talking about beating the shit out of her, locking her up or subjecting her to physical or psychological torture. But it is important that she is disciplined for her misdemeanours.

The process for administering the discipline is quite simple but very specific. You need to follow these steps dogmatically or they won’t have the desired effect.

The Discussion

The very first thing you do is sit down with her and tell her that you have noticed that she has been behaving in an unacceptable fashion. You will tell her that you are talking to her about it to address and correct the issues that you have noticed.

You go through each issue and explain to her why it’s not acceptable to you and ask her if she has a good reason for her misbehaviour. If she apologises and you think she is genuinely sorry, you can choose not to punish her for it. However, if there is a recurrence of the same issue, you must punish her for it next time, or she will think you are weak and will proceed to walk all over you.

After the discussion, you need to count up the number of agreed-upon transgressions and either give her corner-time or a spanking. Try corner-time first. If it’s not a good deterrent, you can escalate to spankings.

Corner-Time

With corner-time, you tell her to sit or stand facing the wall. She is not allowed to talk to you or partake in any other activity during her punishment. Normally you should give her five minutes per transgression.

While she’s serving her punishment, you can go about your life as normal. If she turns around or does anything but look at the wall in silence, you warn her. If you have to warn her twice, you escalate to a spanking.

The Spanking

With a spanking, you sit down in a chair or on the bed and tell her to lie with her stomach across your legs. You can either do it with knickers on or knickers off. I prefer knickers off, as the sting that she gets from skin-to-skin contact is more intense and immediate.

You hold her down with your hand on the back of her neck or on her back. Then you proceed to spank her buttocks, one at a time, alternating from on to the other. I usually use just the palm and of my open hand, but you can use a slipper or paddle if you wish.

Unless this is a repeated misdemeanour, you should use approximately 50% of your strength. The aim is to create a stinging sensation, not to injure her. This isn’t abuse or torture, it is a punishment. The pain subsides less than a minute afterwards and will remain for a couple of hours as a warm sensation in the buttocks, which serves as a reminder.

As a rule of thumb, I will administer six spankings (three for each buttock) per transgression. It’s okay if she sobs or cries out during the punishment, but it is not okay if she struggles. If that happens, you must tell her that if she struggles during punishment, you start again from zero. Then you do exactly that.

When you say you’re going to do something, always carry through with it.

After you have completed the spanking, you release her and let her tidy herself up. Then you tell her to sit facing a wall for two minutes to concentrate on the feeling in her buttocks and to think about what she did to bring on the punishment. You can go and make a cup of tea for yourself.

One note of caution though: You must not engage in spankings as a form of discipline and spankings as part of a sex-act at the same time. You can’t have both in a relationship. If you do, your girl will become very confused and the effectiveness of the punishment will be diminished or destroyed.

Comfort

After either corner-time or a spanking, you must sit down with the girl again, look at her in the eyes and ask her to tell you why you punished her. If she is reticent, you should repeat the misdemeanours to her and then ask her to repeat them. Do this in a calm and neutral way, with plenty of eye contact.

Once this is done, you need to comfort her. Women are emotional beings and this experience will have a profound impact on her. That is the intention.

But you need her to understand that you’re not punishing her because you dislike her. You’re doing it to ensure that you both have a good relationship. She has to understand that you are the boss in the relationship and that she has to be well behaved at all times. It’s usually unnecessary to verbalise this, but this is the overall vibe.

The way that you comfort her is to get physically very close and soothe her. I usually lay her on the bed and put my arms around her. I put her face against my neck and stroke her hair. I tell her stuff like:

“It’s over now.”

”It’s okay.”

“Everything is going to be fine.”

“You did very well, you’re a good girl.”

She will usually be sobbing and may be shaking a little. This is normal. After a while she will calm down and it will be almost like nothing happened. It’s strange how women can go from one extreme to another in a blink of an eye.

Frequently, she will be extra-eager to please you after a punishment and will suck your cock or cook for you spontaneously. If you make Domestic Discipline a normal part of your relationship, she will become a devoted and loving partner. You will notice that shit-tests reduce and your sex-life improves.

To Reiterate

If you follow these guidelines, a relationship can remain fun and exciting for both you and the girl you’re spending your time with. It will create a deep and lasting connection between the both of you. In effect, you are increasing your masculinity and her femininity at the same time, and it is this polarity that creates attraction between you, like a magnet. So, in a nutshell:

  1. Know what you want in a woman.
  2. Give her a great sexual experience.
  3. Be the dominant partner in the relationship.
  4. Discipline her for her misdemeanours.

Emotional Control.

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When you start practicing Daygame, it is all new territory. You may have read a tonne of theory, so you’ll have memorised the standard responses to certain situations, but until you actually put yourself in that specific situation it doesn’t mean shit.

When it comes to learning Daygame, many people think that the question that weeds out the men from the boys is whether a guy can make himself approach or not. And this is true. A lot of guys come and go because they find that they’re unable to ever make themselves do that first approach.

This inevitably leads a guy to a Cypher-like existence but with the knowledge that if he had just a little more willpower, he could be living a life of abundance with beautiful women. If you haven’t crossed this threshold yet, read this post and this post. Don’t be the guy who lives with regret for your whole life, because living like a sheep with a fat, ugly, old wife or girlfriend won’t be a life of fulfilment.

However, once this obstacle is surmounted and you find yourself walking the streets talking to hot girls, you eventually come to the point where you start trying to number close or instadate them. This is another make-or-break moment where you just have to grab your balls and do it but, as with the approach, once you’ve done it the first time, it’s not that much of a big deal thereafter.

If your game was tight or she just liked you anyway, it will go smoothly. She’ll come with you for coffee or she will agree to go on a date with you a few days later.

What about if it didn’t go so well? She gives you a boyfriend excuse or says “it was nice talking to you” and leaves. Or maybe, you do actually get her number but after you send your initial feeler text, you don’t get a reply.

Lack of Control

When you experience this for the first time, it can be a crushing emotional blow, leaving you in a depressed state for hours or even days. You may even feel bitter and cheated towards this girl. After all, you devoted a certain amount of time to her, she was hot, she seemed to like you. You were excited at finally getting to the next stage with such a great catch. Maybe you had thoughts of kissing her, fucking her, maybe you even imagined settling down with her, having kids and getting old together.

This happens to everybody at the beginning, to a greater or lesser extent. We’re conditioned for years through films, TV, literature, school, parents and peers to think that the aim in life is to get an education, find a good job, look for and find “the one” special girl, marry her and have kids. This is all well and good if you want to be a sheep, but we all know what happens to sheep.

They get slaughtered.

I’m not going to go into whether getting married and having kids is a good thing or not in this post as it’s a whole other topic altogether. The point is, that once you’re approaching girls, getting numbers and going on dates, the more this facade that the world has tried to paint over your eyes gets peeled away and you realise that this is not necessarily the best way for you, as an individual to live.

Let’s Get Down to Business

So the reason you feel so down when this girl refuses your date request or fails to reply to text messages is because you have built up a level of expectation based upon lies that have been fed to you in the past. You think that because she talked to you for ten minutes, that she wants to spend the rest of her life with you, or at least suck your dick.

No.

This is not reality. You will learn how girls work and what to expect from them by meeting lots of them and going on many dates. Then you will learn to have no expectations whatsoever. You learn to be outcome independent. You will change your mode of thinking from a goal to process orientated state.

So how do you get from feeling angry and sad about her rejection of you to not feeling anything (or more precisely having no strong emotional connection to the event)?

Emotional control

You have already displayed a level of self-discipline, or mental control by pushing past your Ego to make yourself do that first approach. The more times you go up to a woman that you like and try to seduce her, the more you train your brain and exert more mental control.

When you learn to manage expectations and let go of outcome dependence, you are training yourself to control your emotional state. To grow from a boy to a man, both of these hurdles must be overcome and worked on continuously. This is the reason why although so many guys start the Daygame journey, so few of them actually reach the final stages. They are unable to learn mental and emotional control.

Men are used to exerting mental control, as for thousands years we have disciplined ourselves to break through the pain barrier, work longer and achieve more. In fact society rewards us for this. But, as we are primarily logical beings, learning emotional control is so much more difficult. We don’t even like to think about emotions, let alone have to deal with them on a constant basis. Yet, this is what you will have to do to become better with women.

If you boil it all down, when it comes to being good with women, lack of emotional control ends up being caused by the same thing as mental control.

It’s Your Ego

When you feel sad about being rejected by a girl, it’s because you have placed a lot higher value on her than she has actually earned.

When you are beginning, you are coming from a place of lack of abundance. It’s likely that you have had little or no contact with attractive women for months or years. Then suddenly you are talking to girls hotter than you ever imagined possible. They are even spending ten minutes or more flirting with you and showing interest in you.

Over your lifetime of lack of abundance with women, you have given more and more value to obtaining one. It’s like being stuck in a desert without water. One hour after your water runs out, you’ll be saying:

“I’d give fifty quid for a glass of water.”

After four hours without water, you’ll be saying:

“I’d give a thousand pounds for a glass of water.”

After spending all day in the desert under the hot sun, with your lips cracking, your skin baking and your throat parched, you’ll cry:

“I’d give anything for a drop of water.”

This is how it is with women (and any market for that matter). If we want something enough, the more scarce it is and the higher we value it. When you start meeting women, you think you’re about to be given that lovely looking glass of water, because you are so, so thirsty. But then someone comes along and knocks it out of your hand just as you bring it to your lips. No wonder you feel sad or angry.

So, How Do I Learn Emotional Control?

Well, I’m not going to lie to you. There is no quick fix. It’s a long and hard process of continuous effort. You have to look at a woman, completely ignore her beauty and think to yourself:

“What value does she actually have to me at this moment in time?”

She may have a nice personality and you may feel a good connection with her. It may be easy to get on with her and she exudes charm and femininity. But really, what are you getting out of it?

You’re getting validation.

This is where your Ego comes in. If she is spending time with you, she’s fluttering her eyelids and swishing her hair, she’s giving you validation. She’ll probably never say it out loud, but she is sub-communicating:

“I like you.”

Your ego is full to bursting. This is exactly what it wants. You can just hear it in the back of your head shouting:

“Wow, I am a worthwhile human being after all. I know it because this hot chick is telling me so.”

Well, let me tell you something. Kids require validation. They run a race, they make a paper boat, they draw a picture and then they run up to their Mum or Dad and say to them:

“Mummy, Daddy! Look what I did!”

And the parents look at their child with pride and say:

“Good boy, you did so well. We are very proud of you.”

Some people spend their whole lives with this adolescent need of external validation.

But not a man. And more so, not a man who is good with women.

To become this man you need to gradually shift your external locus of validation to an internal locus of validation. You will know that you have achieved this when you no longer seek praise and validation from other people. You value yourself for your accomplishments and you praise yourself when you achieve your goals. You like yourself because you are someone that you respect.

You validate yourself

When you are coming from an internal locus, it does not matter whether the woman is validating you or not. You are simply looking for value. So you really need to look at what is valuable for you in a woman.

For some guys it will be her value as a wife. IE, can she cook? Is she good looking enough for your kids to be beautiful and handsome? Is she intelligent enough for them to be good at school and well-adjusted socially? Does she have the right bodily proportions to bear and feed children?

Some guys will just be looking for lays, in that case it really just matters whether she is beautiful and sexy.

Some guys like me don’t care about kids or marriage but want to have a small harem of women who they can see on a regular basis for a medium to long period of time. In which case, I’d be asking myself: Is she hot? Does she have a good sex drive? Is she submissive? Can she cook? Is she good at giving massages? Does she generally just feel good doing stuff for her man’s comfort and pleasure?

Now you may think:

“But I got her on a date. I’m looking for a lay and she’s hot and sexy. Check, check. 100%. Pass.”

True, but is she delivering this value? Is she giving you what you want? Why do you want this girl to be hot and sexy? Because if she is, fucking her will be a pleasant and enjoyable activity.

Once the girl is delivering her value to you, she becomes valuable to you.

Then and only then can you be sad and cry if you she goes away and you never see her again.

In Conclusion

When you think about it this way, everything you are doing from that first approach up until the point that you start to get the value that you require delivered to you doesn’t mean shit.

“Okay, I talked to you and got your number. So what?”

“Okay, we went on a date and had a nice time? So what?”

“Okay, we went on another date and kissed. Hmm. A promise of delivery of value. But not yet. So what?”

“Okay, we went back to my house and fucked. This girl has value to me.”

This may sound like objectification, and maybe in a way it is. But so what? When we get into Game, we’re not doing it to have nice conversations with hot women.

We’re doing it to get laid.

In fact, the more you do Daygame, the less you care about how hot the chick is and the more value you put on things like charm, wit, femininity and intelligence. This is because beautiful women are everywhere. When you are able to meet them all the time, you realise this and start to come from a place of abundance. This takes practice and persistence, but during the learning process things get easier.

You’re no longer sitting across the table from the girl wondering what she thinks of you. You’re wondering how quickly and what methods you can use to get her to deliver value to you.

You’re no longer sitting waiting for a reply to your text message. You’re off doing you own thing and when you eventually get the reply, you just take the next logical step in the process and get back to more important things again.

So to reiterate:

  1. Work out what you want from spending time with a girl.
  2. Focus on whether the girl is delivering the value you want from her.
  3. Ensure that you have an internal locus and only look for self-validation.

This is the key to emotional control.

Assumption Stacking.

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Assumption Stacking is one of the most misunderstood sections of the Daygame Blueprint. It occurs after you have stopped the girl and delivered your opener. The point of this section is to initiate the conversation and at the same time, to try to distinguish yourself from all the rest of the guys who have ever approached her as a potential mate.

The reason the first thing you will say to her after the opener is an assumption, is because every other guy out there asks a question. Do not ask a question.

The average guy will ask:

  • Where are you from?
  • What are you doing?
  • What job do you do?
  • Why were you walking so fast?
  • Why are you carrying all those bags?

This isn’t supposed to be the Spanish Inquisition. If you do the same thing as the average guy, you’ll just blur into a Beta mist in her mind. She will blow you off and continue doing what she was previously doing, like going to meet her friends for tea and cakes or getting her hair or nails done, or buying new clothes to impress potential Alphas.

How to Make Assumptions

What you will do is mention three things you noticed about her and then make an assumption. Here are three different girls:

  1. “What I noticed about you was the dark hair, the feminine way of dressing and how skinny you are. I think you’re from China.”
  2. “What I noticed about you was the warm furry jacket, the tight jeans and the wellies you’re wearing. I think you work on a farm.”
  3. “When I first saw you, the first things I noticed were your classy-looking suit, your perfect make-up and the smoke coming off your heels. I think you’re a lawyer training for the 100 metres sprint.”

Obviously you don’t have to use the “I noticed…” style of assumptions with every girl you see, it’s just a training wheel.

So, what am I doing here? I’m naming two things that made me decide what it is I’m assuming about her and another thing that is a mild push / tease / joke. When you first meet a girl, she’s going to be a little cautious, so you need to warm her up. Making her laugh or showing that you’re not a suck-up is key.

When you do your opener, you usually deliver a compliment (“I think you look nice”, etc), so this little tease helps to offset that. When it comes to this first assumption, I usually try to think of what I’m going to say as I’m approaching before stopping her. Then I have my assumptions ready when it’s time to say them.

You can make them up on the spot, but this is something that you’d be doing when you have a lot more composure and experience. What will usually happen next is that that she’ll reply to your assumption:

  1. “No, actually I’m from Japan.”
  2. “Uh!? Boots like these are in fashion now!”
  3. “Ha ha! I am a lawyer, but I’m late for a meeting.”

What really matters at this point is that you’re not thinking what to say next. The important thing is that you’re totally focussed on what she is saying and listening very carefully. What she says at this point will give you all the material you need to really get this conversation going. Your next step is to deliver an Assumption Story based on the information you just gathered.

Stacking Those Assumptions

But what to do if this is the answer you get to your assumption:

“No.”

This is why it’s called Assumption Stacking, because you can stack another assumption on top, but only if you don’t get any information from the first assumption.

Sometimes the reason you don’t get a decent answer from her is because she doesn’t like you. If that’s the case, she will start to walk away very soon afterwards, so don’t worry about that.

More often than not, the reason she didn’t say anything was because her brain was befuddled. There will have been a lot of situations in her life that she has experienced before and she will have a default way of reacting to them, but if she’s never had an Alpha guy stop her in the street and give her a compliment before, she’ll be dazed and shy for a few seconds.

Therefore, take a moment and either look her up and down or cast your mind back to your first memory of seeing her and make another assumption. There are only a few basic areas about her on which you can make a decent assumption. These include:

  • What her job is.
  • Where she is from.
  • What she’s doing or about to do.

So, pick another from the list and make an assumption on that in the same way as your first one. Usually by this time she’ll have come to her senses and will have something to say. Make sure you listen and then go into your Assumption Story.

Whatever you do, don’t fall into the trap of making assumption after assumption for no reason as you’ll just end up seeming like some weird fortune telling cold-reader dude. The Assumption Stack is just a tool to enable you to get a morsel of information about her which you can use to start a conversation, without you having to ask her boring questions.

Assumption Stories

After this, you need to tell an Assumption Story based upon what she just said:

  1. “I went to Japan last year, to Tokyo. It was so crowded everywhere. I walked around a place called Shibuya and there were grown-up girls standing around dressed like schoolgirls. It was kind of hot but at the same time kind of wrong!”
  2. “Well, to me it looks like you’re ready to go feed some pigs or milk some cows. I can just imagine you with a straw in your mouth, pumping away at those udders!”
  3. “I don’t know what it’s like being a lawyer, but I imagine it’s really fun and challenging, like a courtroom drama. You have to save the life of your client, so you present the case, cross-examine the witnesses and shout “Objection, your Honour” to everything your opposition have to say!”

This fun little story warms the girl up because you’re talking about her and her life. It works because everybody is interested in themselves. She can relate to this.

You’re also either displaying knowledge of her background or painting a fun picture of what you imagine her life to be like. These are attractive qualities in a man. This is conversational bait and you can continue from here with some normal chit-chat, spicing it up with attraction when the opportunity arises.

How to Get Yourself Out of Debt.

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Debt is a prison to keep you trapped in a world of no-hope and no-chance. It is a prison that the wolves use to keep you a sheep and therefore under control. If you want to be a wolf yourself and have freedom and success, you need to get rid of debt, get in the black and start making some money.

As Daygame is an offshoot of Direct Game, much of your success will come from turning yourself into a solid, self-confident guy rather than from techniques and pick-up lines. One thing that girls will almost psychically pick up on when talking to you is your sense of self-worth and level of happiness. You can make yourself feel happy when you’re sad but true happiness is radiant and will be noticed by anybody.

Self-worth comes from accomplishing notable things and overcoming hurdles in your life. Your life becomes lighter and more happy if you have no burden of debt. You no longer have to worry where money is coming from and it is like a weight is removed from your shoulders. Women will see this in your eyes and the way you walk and hold yourself.

This is a bit of a long story, but it’s my story and you can see how I went from being just another average sheep to where I am now and how I did it. If you’re somewhere along the same timeline and in similar circumstances it may give you a path to help get yourself out of it the pickle you’re in.

They Prey on the Young and Naive

When I was 18 years old and a fresh new student at University, I had to get myself a bank account to put the cash from my student grant (yes it was that long ago) into. I thought I was good at budgeting, like I thought I was good at everything, but although I was better than most of my peers, it proved to be almost impossible to live as a student and not get into debt.

After the three years, I had resisted getting a student loan (which turned out to be a good thing) but had managed to accumulate the burden of an overdraft. It was still under a thousand pounds, so the monthly interest payments were barely noticeable. But now I know why Lottery millionaires often lose their wealth within months of winning it. They get a large amount of money without having to earn it, so they do not value it. With my education, the money was given to me for free by the government, so it was easy for me to squander it and not care.

In the end, I failed to graduate because I chose a degree more on whim than anything else. It fitted the A-Levels I’d done. Many of my classmates were going into it. It would be a well-paid profession. My careers teacher told me that I should go to University and enjoy myself. I did a Mechanical Engineering degree.

After less than a year I knew that I never wanted to be an Engineer and spent most of my time playing on the then-fledgeling Internet, programming simple text-based games and chatting girls up over email. That should have been a pointer to me as to what I should have been doing with my time. But I felt pressure from my parents to study and graduate with a degree. In the end I flunked and wasted three years of my life.

Get Your Life in the Right Order

If I was the kind of guy then that I am now, before deciding to go to University, I’d have taken a year off, worked for six months and gone travelling. This would have given me time to work out what I wanted to do with my life. I don’t know if I’d be the person I am now though without having gone through everything that follows, so maybe it was for the best.

With a vague idea of travelling and somehow improving my lot, I went to Wisconsin in the US for the summer with the aim of paying my overdraft back by joining a scheme aimed at taking students over there as sales-reps. We had to pay for our own flights and living costs but they would provide us with products to sell. It seemed like a good idea at the time, but it was just a company’s way of exploiting naive young graduates.

We were to sell aerial photographs of people’s houses and neighbourhoods to families by walking around knocking on their doors. I had a great time (youthful enthusiasm got me by) and as a bonus, had a couple of liaisons with the girls in my group during the four months out there.

However, I turned out to be an average salesman and ended up not even making enough money to pay for the bus back to New York, let alone enough to pay for the flights and make a profit. Luckily, it was my Dad that lent me the money in the first place and he wasn’t charging me interest, but I hated having to pay him the money back and it took long months to do it. I just wanted to go out, drink beer, watch live bands and meet girls.

I returned from the US and I had to get myself a job. As I had no experience at anything but sales, I went into that, selling electrical goods like TVs, washing machines, etc. I had a massive interest in music at the time. Music and women were all I could think of, so I thought why not combine the two? Everyone knows that musicians get women. So, with my rudimentary drumming skills, I joined a band with my school-friend who was a guitarist.

Have a Vision and Work Towards It

For more than ten years, I played drums in various bands and lived a stoner musician low-life existence. I didn’t make it in the music business nor did I get laid as a direct result of being a drummer. All I got was ten years of living on the bread-line.

When you have a shit job just to make ends meet, you live month-to-month and you can barely pay your bills and living costs. When you smoke and drink and go out all the time to bars to play or just socialise, all your money goes, plus more. I’d increase my overdraft by a little every month. I bought a computer on credit, to be paid over three years.

After two years my monitor blew, so I got a larger loan to pay off my original loan, plus pay for a new flatscreen monitor. A couple of years later, I got another loan to consolidate that one. I hoped to use the extra cash to buy a van to enable the band I was in at the time to go on tour. I thought that if we could go on tours, more people would be able to see us and we would have more chance of getting signed. What actually happened was that I spent most of the money on getting stoned and other trivial stuff.

During that whole hazy time, I did do one fairly clever thing and that was to get myself back to college and do an evening class on Computer-Aided Design. This got me a job in London which had a pretty good wage. Far more than I’d had in the past. I even started saving up some cash to pay off my loan.

I’d become interested in Game around this time and had started to go out to meet girls, without much success. So, I got myself my own flat which, with housing prices in London being ridiculous, was barely within my means, and I paid for a bootcamp with an eminent pick-up instructor in Croatia (on my overdraft of course). I came back from an amazing experience where I was talking to model-quality girls and going on dates, but I failed to replicate my success in Croatia upon returning to London.

Not long after, the recession hit, my job was made redundant and I found myself on the dole.

Turn Your Life Around One Good Decision at a Time

I had an expensive flat to pay for but I had to stay in London for a little while longer as previously in a moment of clarity, I had decided to do a pre-university course in to try and get myself out of the shit job market and into a good job market.

Being on the dole was good in that I had all day every day to knuckle down and concentrate on my course, but the money I had coming in from unemployment benefit didn’t pay for all of my living costs and it didn’t pay for loan payments and overdraft interest. Money was hemorrhaging from my account and it wouldn’t be long before the cash I’d saved to pay off my loan was gone.

I finished my course, managed to get out of London by breaking the contract on my flat and moved to Nottingham to do a degree in Computing. Once there, despite really strict budgeting for food and having no social life, money was slipping away. In the end, what saved me from the financial cliff-edge was two things:

  1. Selling all of my possessions (including my prized drum-kit) on eBay to pay for rent.
  2. The help of an awesome charity called Elizabeth Finn. They paid me a lump sum to keep me going and also gave me a small monthly payment to tide me over until I got my first student loan cheque. If it hadn’t been for them I’d probably be in prison or dead.

I knew that because I hadn’t used one when I went to university before, the government would give me a loan to pay for my course, but for one less year than I needed. My idea was to get a part-time job whilst studying and save up enough cash to pay for the missing year by the time I came to it. However after a few days on the course, it turned out that the government was going to make me pay for my first year, not my last year. But I’d already started the course, so I would have to pay for the first year whatever happened. I was stuck like a rat in a trap. I had no money, a large loan and overdraft and a degree course to pay for. This was one of the most stressful periods of my life.

Luckily I have awesome parents and they gave me the entirety of their life savings to pay for this course. Also, now that I was officially student, I managed to get a second overdraft with a different bank by lying to them, but that barely kept me going.

Cut the Crap – Get Rid of Your Baggage

I was living with a girl at the time and we were really unmatched to each other, which made daily life really difficult. We were both stressed out at being jobless and poor, we weren’t fucking and she was a massive spendthrift, so combined with the shitty life I was already living, I withdrew into a little shell and spent most of my time playing online games. I got along, barely passing the modules of my course, onward to my oblivion.

And then came the crucial moment where I woke up from my haze and saw what had become of me.

My entire life was a mass of debt and I was constantly failing to stand up to responsibility for my own lack of success. I didn’t realise it at the time, but the scales of my life flipped at that moment. I had been slowly building up a positive momentum for a few years and this one point of my life was when my life switched over from a negative to a positive trend.

I dumped my girlfriend, moved to a cheaper flat, told the loan company that I couldn’t pay them for the foreseeable future and cancelled the direct debit. I stopped playing games, started to wake up early and exercise and worked hard all day, every day on my course work. I had the hassle of the loan company turning my loan over to debt collectors, but they had nothing on me as I had no assets and I was a student. They would call me every week asking for the money, so I told them that I was a student and would pay them off when I graduated and got myself a job.

During the winter I had no heating, so I worked dressed in a sleeping bag and bedsheets. Because I lived in a shitty area, hoodlums vandalised my only mode of transport; my bicycle and they also superglued the lock on the door to my flat, but I worked through it and eventually I graduated.

With distinction.

Turn Negative Experiences into Positive Experiences

I think when you experience a massive amount of hardship and difficulty, it hardens you as a person and makes you more resilient. Looking back, if I had chosen the right path before going to University the first time, I may still be a sheep, tied to a marriage / children / mortgage burden like everybody else. Or I may have gotten to where I am now, but fifteen years earlier. Who knows? You have to start from where you are in life and make good decisions. That’s what I’m doing now.

Anyway, after graduation, I wasn’t expecting much as my previous experience of the job market wasn’t very good. I was expecting nothing when I put my CV on a job site, but after a couple of days I had agencies calling me and I had an interview. That interview lead to a job.

I accepted. There were problems. It was a four hour daily commute, but it paid well enough. I did that for three months. During that time I just worked, commuted, ate and slept. I didn’t have any spare time. Eventually I managed to work up enough cash to pay for a house near my employers and that’s where I came over the plateau and started my rise.

During the next two years I used my experience of living a frugal life and became determined to get rid of this Sword of Damocles that had been hanging over my head for fifteen years. This awful, debilitating debt.

How to Get Rid of Debt

I started saving as much spare cash as I could every month. I read that you could make an offer to debt collection agencies, so once I’d saved up 75% of the amount that I owed to them, I called and offered it to them as a lump sum. They took it. I was delighted. I could feel my burden being lightened, brick by brick, pound by pound.

I’d also read about zero percent interest credit cards. You can buy whatever you want and not have to pay interest on the money until 18 months later. There was even one where you could transfer a lump sum into your bank account. I applied for this and managed to get it. The credit card companies expect you to buy lots of useless rubbish and forget to pay the money off. Then they hit you for crippling interest payments.

Not me though. I’d learned my lesson. I used the lump sum they transferred to my account to pay off my biggest overdraft and closed that bank account. Then I worked out how much I’d have to pay off every month to clear the credit card debt before I had to start paying interest and paid it every single month. Coincidentally, this also allowed me to pay my parents back within the same time-frame, so I remained disciplined for 18 months and just got on with it.

I was almost out of debt, all I had left was the overdraft on my student account. I reckoned it would take me another six months to get rid of and I would be debt free! During this whole period I’d been learning Daygame and I’d started to get good at it, but I wanted higher quality women and I wanted to earn more money and have greater opportunities in life, so after the six months was over, I planned to move to London.

Then something happened. The company I was working for lost a major client and I lost my job (again).

But it was different this time. I didn’t have a massive debt load. I could think clearly and look upon the event positively. I had been at the job exactly two years, so they gave me a large redundancy payment. I saw my chance, so I paid off my last overdraft debt and used the remaining cash to move to London, earlier than expected.

Exponential Upward Spiral

You cannot believe the amount of joy I felt at getting rid of this debt and finally being in the black. After fifteen years swimming in murky water, I finally emerged into the light. A great feeling of opportunity and enthusiasm washed over me.

I got a job fairly easily and despite the steep hike in living costs in London, the amount of spare cash I had after expenses was comparable to living in the Midlands. So, I began to invest money in the stock market and looked for business opportunities to enable me to start making a secondary income. Once you have cash to invest, there are ways to increase your wealth quickly. Check out the following books for ideas:

DeMarco’s book is the one that resonates with me the most and is the model that I am trying to implement at the moment. He does mock the 4-Hour Work Week (4HWW) and Rich Dad Poor Dad (RDPD) because their philosophies differ from his, but there are still important lessons to be learned from both books. For example, 4HWW teaches you the benefits of business automation and remote working and RDPD teaches you the difference between assets and liabilities and the value of hard work. Think and Grow Rich is essential reading to get you in the right mindset for success and is still selling massive numbers of copies despite being more than eighties years old.

Eventually I’ll be making enough from my secondary business income that it will turn into my primary income and I can quit working for someone else and work for myself instead. This will free up a lot of cash by enabling me to pay myself before the tax man, allowing me to have extra cash to invest. Then, eventually I will automate the business as much as possible and spend the rest of my days free to meet and fuck girls and travel the world.

Get rid of your debt, stop being a sheep and become a wolf. Do it while you’re young and can enjoy it.