If you’ve been practising Daygame with enough focus, eventually you will manage to get all the way through the blueprint and get a girl’s number. The amount of approaches this requires depends on who you are. You could get your first number on your first approach, or it may take three months.
If you keep working, putting in the time and approaches, it will happen. It’s inevitable, like death and taxes. When you do eventually get your first number close, you can look back at the hard work you put in and give yourself a big pat on the back.
But what happens after you start getting those digits?
You should split your strategy. What I mean is, that you should continue to work on your street game and you should begin to work on your seduction game. I call the part of the game between getting the number and laying the girl seduction, so if you see that term in this post, you’ll know what I mean.
The mistake a lot of guys make when they get a handful of numbers is to either drop or neglect their street game. In fact, you should still be putting the same focus into your street game as you did before you started getting numbers. There are many reasons for this. The two main ones are:
- When you start getting numbers, a high proportion of these will be low quality.
- You need to have a conveyor belt of prospects.
In the early stages of your journey in learning to seduce women, when you text a girl whose number you obtained, you will likely get no response or at best a limited response. This is because although the quality of your game is sufficient to build enough interest in the girl for her to give you her number, it’s not good enough for her to respond to your efforts to go further.
There are a number of different reasons for this, which I’ll go into in a future post, but usually it boils down to either not enough attraction or not enough rapport. The point is that you should still be going out regularly, walking the street and talking to girls. Yes, you now know how to push an interaction through the blueprint and get a number out of it, but now you need to start fine-tuning each section so that when you start texting girls, they will give you better responses.
Sixty Years of Challenge (I know, weird name, but great seducer) calls this your magic number. When you’re out on the street, you will meet three different types of girl:
- Yes girls,
- Maybe girls and
- No girls.
No girls are the best because they don’t waste your time.
Yes girls are pretty awesome because when you meet them, all you have to do is not fuck up and you’ll get laid.
Maybe girls will make up the majority of the girls you talk to and this is where the game is played. The higher your skill level is, the lower your magic number will be. For example at the moment, I average one number for every two maybe or yes girls that I talk to. A newbie will have a ratio of one number for every 250 girls. He’s still getting girls’ contact details; they’re just a lower quality, hence his magic number is higher.
After you’ve been gaming a while, it becomes clear that it’s a numbers game. You’re just trying to change the odds. Even if you didn’t have any game at all, you would get laid eventually, if you just talked to enough girls. The good thing about knowing your magic number is that you know approximately how many women you need to talk to, to get laid.
This is because you will also know how many numbers you need to get a date and how many dates you need to lay a girl. Then, if you know how many approaches you do per week, you know how often you’ll lay a new girl.
It doesn’t always work exactly like this because what usually happen is that you’ll fuck a number of girls in a short period and then have a dry patch. These are the peaks and troughs of your game roller-coaster and are one of the things that build up your emotional control.
Then we come on to having a conveyor belt of prospects. What I mean by this is trying to have a constant flow of girls that you can use to work on your post-number game.
It’s easy to get over-enthusiastic about getting your first numbers. Like I said in this post, getting a number in itself has no meaning; it’s just another link in the chain of events that lead from meeting a girl to fucking her.
Because for months after you start getting numbers, you will get a lot of flakes (girls who lose interest), you will exhaust all of the numbers you collected very quickly. You will also make mistakes in text game and in your dates and lose the girls that way, so you need a flow of new girls to practice your seduction game on in order to improve your chances of getting laid sooner rather than later.
I’ll go into text game and the seduction of phase in future posts, but for now, make sure you keep going out and talking to girls.
In the future, once your overall magic number gets really low, you can transition from going out all day at the weekend to just talking to girls whilst doing your shopping or on your lunch break. That’s not going to happen in your first couple of years though. You need to fine tune your game first.