Archives for April 2015

Don’t Be Too Available

21st April 2015 By Mort Leave a Comment

As I alluded to in my previous post: Always be Closing, game is a sales process. You’re selling yourself to the girl.

If you’ve ever had to buy a new Television, Washing Machine or Car you’ll have come across professional salesmen.

I bet you can remember things that they did or said to put you off. For example, they were far too pushy, too needy, they tried to sell you something you didn’t want to buy. Maybe you just didn’t like the way they looked.

When it comes to selling yourself to a girl, the same applies. She will react to your game depending how polished it is, how well you tailor your interaction to suit her personality and how well you present yourself.

One of the biggest things that turns a girl off is if the guy is too available.

What I mean is, that when you communicate or sub-communicate that you’ve got no options, you’re going to repel her. A girl wants a guy who has options. Unlike men, girls place a lot of emphasis on the judgement of other people.

If you can demonstrate that other people like you and want to be with you, this will make the girl that you’re interested in more interested in you.

Watch this video, it’s from Swingers, one of my favourite films. This is an example of what not to do.

Obviously, we don’t call girls after we get their number anymore, this isn’t the 90’s. We send a text message. However, inexperienced guys will always want to get into a conversation over text with the girl once they’ve gotten those digits.

NO!

Keep texting minimal. Be unpredictable. Leave long gaps before replying to her messages.

Imagine that instead of sitting in front of your phone waiting for her to reply to your text message, you have a far more interesting life.

Imagine that you’ve got half a dozen girls texting you all the time to come over and spend time with them.

Imagine you’re out with your friends and don’t want to be disturbed, so you’ve got your phone on silent.

Imagine you’re busy working on your business or you’re in the gym.

If all of this were true, you’d finish what you were doing and see a bunch of messages and missed calls on your phone from girls. You’d quickly send replies to the ones who interest you and then forget about it and do other stuff.

Now, if you’re not in that situation, act as if you were.

This will sub-communicate to the girl that you have interesting stuff going on in your life which is taking up all your time. You’re in demand. This is exactly the kind of guy she’s looking for. Not some lonely loser who devotes all his waking hours to her and dotes on her.

The same applies to all of your interactions with girls. Don’t be too available.

When you’re talking to the girl after you first meet her, always give a time constraint:

“I can’t talk for too long because I’m supposed to be going to meet my friends.”

When you’re on a date:

“I can’t hang out for too long tonight because I’ve got stuff to do before I go to bed.”

When you’re seeing a girl:

“I can’t come over on Saturday, I’ve got a big meet-up with my old buddies from college.”

Be elusive. Don’t be too available. Have (or appear to have) an abundant lifestyle.

If you follow this rule, you soon will have.

New book: ‘How to Meet Girls’.

12th April 2015 By Mort Leave a Comment

If you’ve been reading my recent posts, you will have seen the announcement I made a few weeks ago saying that I was in the process of writing a book. Well I’ve finished the book and it has been released internationally on Amazon for Kindle readers.

I’ve titled it ‘How to Meet Girls‘.

The main purpose of the book is to help guys get over what is usually the most common stumbling block:

The approach.

I don’t know the exact statistics, but if I were to take an educated guess, I’d say that nine out of ten guys who try Daygame fail to even approach a girl. I know from personal experience how hard it can be to get over that initial Approach Anxiety and I want guys who are still stuck there to be able to learn from my experience.

The book is a comprehensive guide to overcoming AA and perfecting your approach. It covers inner game, outer game and the techniques necessary to approach a girl in any given situation. Not only that, but it has illustrations outlining key concepts. It’s not aimed at pick-up artists per-se, so I’ve avoided using any game terminology to make it accessible to as many guys as possible. However, it does teach you everything necessary to get you from that point of being scared of girls to being able to talk to any girl you want.

I’ve released it on Amazon in Kindle format, at a very reasonable price. There will also be a print-on-demand paperback version in the next couple of days, also from Amazon.

If you’re still having problems with this area of your game, I recommend picking up a copy, as it goes into depth on the skills and mindset you need to get out there talking to girls. Once you’ve overcome Approach Anxiety once, you will know that you can do it again. Then, every time you talk to a girl thereafter, it becomes easier and easier. It’s key to learn and perfect this part of your game, because it is the base upon which you will build the rest of your skills. Once you can approach, all you have to do is put in some time and effort and you are almost guaranteed to get laid.

Here is the link to get your copy of the book: How to Meet Girls: Meet and Talk to Attractive Girls Without Fear or Hesitation.

How to Approach a Girl

5th April 2015 By Mort Leave a Comment

There were days when approaching a girl in the street wasn’t ‘possible’ according to game-lore. If you wanted to meet a new girl, it had to be done in socially-acceptable venues such as bars and clubs. Even then, you had to stand in front of the girl, twist your head to look over your shoulder at her and then give her your opener. Since then, game has evolved. Guys aren’t so scared to be direct any more. Now we’re approaching on the street, in shops and in other not-so socially-acceptable places.

But I still see guys doing this:

Don’t do it! Don’t approach girls from an angle. If you approach from an angle, she’s just going to walk past you. Why? Because she can see your lack of conviction and therefore knows that you don’t have any balls. What heterosexual girl wants to date a guy with no balls? If you approach from an angle, you’re weak. If you approach from the side when you have the option of approaching from the front, you’re weak. If you approach from behind, you’re just a creep. If you want to appear to the girl to be an actual man, you approach like this:

This way, you are totally blocking the girl’s path. I can see some of you guys squirming in your chair as you read this. You’re the ones I’m talking to. The point of being a guy is to be dominant and decisive. If you don’t walk right up to her, directly from the front, she’s not going to respect you. This is the mindset you should have: You see the girl and you damn well go up to her and claim her. There’s no chance of escape for her. She’s your prey.

I’m going to link to a video from one of my favourite films below; ‘Swingers‘. The main character, Mikey has just made a half-arsed attempt at number-closing a chick at the bar. He’s walking back to his table in defeat, when we join him:

As you see, the quality of your approach depends on your mindset. If you go up and don’t believe you have the right to talk to that girl, you’re not going talk to her. She’s just going to walk on by. So, understand, you’re a big wolf and she’s just a little frightened bunny. You go up to her directly from the front and dominate the interaction. No excuses.

This is why a lot of guys give up after they’ve tried direct game a few times. “It’s too hard!”

Damn right it’s hard, being a man is hard. It’s not about learning a bunch of techniques, it’s about strengthening your mind. After all, that’s what a woman wants; a strong man. Strong inside and out. Build your body and build your mind, or preferably both at the same time.

Did you know that the mind and the body are linked? There are stories of guys lifting cars away from injured passengers because in the immediate aftermath of the accident, their minds were no longer limiting their real strength. There’s a truth that lifting weights builds your confidence. In order to constantly increase the weight that you can lift, you have to first tell your mind that you can do it. If you don’t believe that you can lift a heavier weight, your mind stops your body from being able to do so. Mind affects body, body affects mind.

So, believe that the girl will stop and you’ll automatically approach from the front.

When you do that, she’ll stop and wait to hear what you’ve got to say.