Before I started my PUA journey, I had three long-term monogamous relationships with two different girls.
The first girl I lived with for almost three years. I knew after six months that she wasn’t right for me but I stayed with her because I wanted regular sex. Even then, after a while, the sex got boring and I would imagine fucking other girls whilst fucking her. I couldn’t leave her though because I had no other options and no trust in my ability to find a suitable replacement.
I find this pretty pathetic now.
The second one I lived with for a couple of years, I let her go and then four years later, met her again, lived with her again and let her go again.
I let her go the first time because it was obvious that we weren’t compatible; in many things, but most of all sexually. The rationale for getting back with her was a massive dry spell I had and a promise from her to be more available sexually. I let her go again for the second time for the same reason as before. We started living together and the sex dried up. And she annoyed the fuck out of me.
Learning Game Gives You Options
After our first break-up I discovered Game, but was mostly unable to approach, so I spent most of my time reading and keyboard-jockeying. I think most guys go through this phase of too much reading and not enough action. Luckily, I was interested in a direct style of game which had an emphasis on inner-game, so in the four years between our relationships, despite having no actual game, I had become a lot more solid as a man. I think this is one of the things that attracted her to me the second time.
After this third failed relationship, I decided that the main problem was that I didn’t have enough choice of women.
Sure, I came into contact with hundreds of women every day, and some of them were attractive enough for me to want to fuck, but I was frozen from taking the action necessary to turn that desire into a reality. It didn’t help that at this time I decided to quit drugs, smoking and drinking. In the end this helped a lot, but not going to pubs and clubs anymore made it difficult to meet women in a socially acceptable way.
This is where Daygame came in. I could just meet women as I went about my daily life.
After getting a wing, I was able to start approaching and after eight or nine months, got my first lay from a cold approach on the street. Not long after, I got two other lays (they always seems to come in bunches). I was having casual sex with three different women in rotation.
Having a Rotation Stops You Getting Bored
I found this situation to be very enjoyable. I was getting regular sex from three hot young girls, but the most important thing to me was that I wasn’t bored.
I’d fuck one girl and then not really care if I fucked her again, but then I’d fuck another girl and the desire for the first girl would come back. It was like fucking more than one woman made both women far more desirable to me than just fucking one would have done. It kept sex exciting and fresh.
The main problem with this scenario was that none of the girls knew that I was fucking other girls.
I like to think that I have integrity and this duplicitous behaviour was bothering me. I knew that I had to do something. I looked for advice and saw a video by a London PUA who went by the name of ‘Skeletor’. He said to be honest with women and tell them you’re seeing other girls. I decided to try it and told one of the girls that I wanted to see other women.
She punched me on the ear.
So I was down to two girls. I told both of the other girls that this wasn’t going to be monogamous, but that I liked them and wanted to keep seeing them. One accepted it and the other had a major strop and didn’t see me for three weeks. But eventually she texted me to say she’d thought about it and wanted to come back to me.
Girls Can’t Handle Polygamy for Longer Than a Few Months
This carried on for a couple of months, then the girl who had originally accepted the situation started to behave weirdly. She send me texts saying “FML”. I was thinking “what the hell does FML mean”, so I looked it up and it means “fuck my life”. I could see that she was a little bit disturbed below the surface and decided to break it off with her.
This left me with one girl, but I was still going out and meeting and dating other women to try to get my rotation back. After a couple of months this girl also began to crack.
She was one of those girls who accepted me seeing other women but didn’t want to know the details. From my experience, girls in rotation are either like this or they want to know everything about the other girls that I’m seeing. I can see the pros and cons of both. If the situation were reversed, I’d prefer to know nothing but at the same time I’d like to know sexual details through fear of STDs. I guess things like this cross your mind when you’re a girl whose guy is seeing other women.
Anyway, she slowly became more and more remote and eventually stop returning texts. I saw her a few days later in public and she just ignored me.
I went through this cycle a few times, meeting new girls, fucking them and adding them to the rotation. I became better at managing the girls, enabling me to lengthen the amount of time that they’d stick around until they slipped off the radar, but in the end, they all disappeared, one by one.
About a year ago, I met a really awesome girl.
Return to Monogamy
I didn’t actually expect us to be anything more than a one night stand, as she lives hundreds of miles away and was just visiting London for the weekend. I didn’t bother telling her that I was seeing other girls because I never expected to see her again. But she came back down and we did some stuff together and then it became a regular thing. We went on holidays together and we were seeing each other for a whole weekend every two or three weeks. We still are.
Two things make this relationship awesome.
Firstly, I really like her. I went through more than three thousand girls before I met one who ticks all the boxes for me. She’s loyal, she’s good looking and sexy. We have a matching libido and good polarity, because I’m masculine and she’s feminine. She’s creative, she likes to cook for me and mend ripped clothes. She makes the bed. She allows me to make videos of us engaged in obscene acts. She pays for us to eat out and go on holidays. She has a great sense of humour, she dresses well, she buys clothes and lingerie that she thinks I’ll like. I could go on.
Secondly, because we only see each other every two or three weeks, we have time to be away from each other. It stops the relationship becoming too stifled and keeps us both on our toes. By the time the waiting is done and she’s taken the train down to London, we’re overjoyed to see each other again and we fuck like rabbits all weekend. For a long time it was far from boring.
I still went out ever weekend that she wasn’t visiting to Daygame and meet other girls, but the more I saw this one girl, the less enthusiastic I became about going on dates with the girls whose numbers I’d taken. I was beginning to fall for her, despite my solid belief that monogamy doesn’t work.
But now I’m starting to get itchy again.
For the last couple of months, I’ve started to imagine fucking other girls while she’s sucking me. There are only so many new things you can think of to do together. There are only so many places to go. Only so many different ways to fuck someone. I’m beginning to run out of ideas and I’m beginning to stop caring.
I’ve been thinking to myself: “If only I could see two or three real quality girls on a monogamous basis who all know about each other and even like each other.”
Now I know that it’s possible to meet “the one”, and I know that seeing more than one girl at a time will stop you getting bored of each girl, so I think a possible solution to a man’s relationship problems is Polygyny.
In fact after I came up with this idea, I found out that it had been thought of before. A classic example is the relationship that the three main characters (Javier Bardem, Scarlett Johansson and Penelope Cruz) have in Woody Allen’s film ‘Vicky Cristina Barcelona‘. All three members of the relationship live together, fuck each other and like each other immensely.
I know some people are obsessed with the concept of “the one” and some people think it impossible. Personally, I think there are many girls in the world who would be “the one” for me. In my case, it is one girl in every three thousand.
Now, if only I could meet another “one” and somehow magically see both at the same time on a monogamous basis. I know monogamous means “one at a time” but I’m talking about them seeing me and each other exclusively. A relationship triptych.
I Have Hope
I wasn’t surprised to find that I’m not the first person my current woman has been in a relationship with. I’m the second. However, I was pleasantly surprised to find out that the first one was a girl.
“Zoiks! This is perfect!” I thought. “I’m going out with a bi-sexual girl.”
Maybe I can find another “one” and we can explore my ideal scenario. Over a period of time I jokingly and sometimes not so jokingly made suggestions to the effect that we could find another woman and have fun together, but every time, the idea was refuted. After pressing her on the matter, it seems that her first relationship was just a phase of her life where she was finding out who she was and she’s not bi-sexual after all.
This dashed my dreams and I wished that I’d told her straight away that I was seeing other women. I did tell her after six months that I’d fucked other women since I’d met her, but she was kind of okay with it because it was only at the point that she was becoming really attached to me.
So, now I’m stuck. I’m in a monogamous relationship with the most awesome girl I’ve ever met, but I can feel the primal polygamy rearing up again.
I keep Daygaming but I don’t text the girls I meet. I think it’s important to keep practising because I think a split is inevitable at some point. I don’t believe men and women are meant to be together for their entire lives. I won’t ever get married. Besides, still meeting other women keeps me from becoming needy and keeps my flirting and social skills sharp. This is undoubtedly one of the things that keeps her attraction levels high.
I’m not sure what’s going to happen, but I suspect I’m going to be single again at some point, whether it’s weeks, months or years from now, I don’t know.
Maybe then I can give Polygyny a try.