You’ll never succeed unless you make a concerted effort.
What do I mean by that?
What I mean is you need to decide what you want and then you’ve got to work on it and work on it until you achieve it.
If you can’t remember the last time you achieved anything worthwhile, it’s most likely because either you didn’t choose something specific to aim for or you did choose something but gave up before you achieved it.
I’ll give you two examples.
Why You Fail
I’m always looking for ways to improve and gain a competitive advantage. Usually the best way to learn is from people who have been there and done it.
A good place to find information from good people is by reading their blogs. I can’t tell you how many blogs I’ve read which have excellent content but the number of posts never reaches double figures. The author doesn’t gain a readership and gives up before he gives people a chance to find his material.
Victor Pride didn’t even get a comment on any of his posts until he’d been writing for four months. His website now commands the attention of hundreds of thousands of readers every month.
The same is true of the majority of guys who discover game. They do a lot of reading, watch a lot of videos, browse a lot of forums but never get down to talking to women in a sober state.
Of the small minority who do go out on the street, the majority of those guys fail even to do an approach. Of the ones who do manage to get approaching, many give up before they get laid. Why? Because to get good at seducing women takes effort and persistence. Hours on the street, hundreds of approaches. None of the best PUAs in the world picked it up straight away. They went out and ploughed. They slowly improved and learned.
The Roller-Coaster Effect
I may hear you say:
“But it’s so hard! I get discouraged! I’ve done 400 approaches but I’ve still not gotten laid!”
Just think of it like a roller-coaster. You get on and the ride starts. But you have to wait ages for the cars to be dragged up to the plateau of the first slope. However, you eventually pass the peak and start to drop, and this is where the fun begins.
With Game, you can see the peak coming up if you know where you are in the structure, so there is no reason to be discouraged. Just keep putting in the hours and you’ll get there. Besides, the fun is in seeing yourself improve. Learning and mastering the skill of seduction, seeing and understanding more of the Matrix is the best part. Actually, fucking gets lame if you do it too much, so enjoy the process not the goal.
Change is Inevitable
One final quote that always helps me when I feel like I’m on the road to nowhere, is this one from the Buddha. You don’t have to be Buddhist to agree with this. It’s self evident. But it’s one of those truths that you don’t think of when you’re stuck in the forest and can’t find your way out.
“Everything arises and passes away.”
When he says everything, he literally means everything. Thoughts, people, nations, worlds. Everything. Nothing stays the same. Given enough time, everything will change. Even seemingly solid and indestructible stone can be eroded by wind and rain, it just takes time.
The same applies to you.
You may think that because you’ve been trying for X days, weeks or months and haven’t achieved what you’re aiming for yet, that you never will.
This is not true.
Your current state of failure has arisen. And it will pass. Eventually you’ll reach the plateau and will be able to roll down the other side.