Over the weekend, I moved house. Well, I live in London; you don’t own a house unless you’re a multi-millionaire. I moved flat.
I’ve been trying to follow Tom Torero’s example and live light. I remember watching Fight Club years ago and amongst the masses of gold that you can get from watching that film, one of the quotes that struck me most was from Tyler Durden, Brad Pitt’s character. He said:
“What you own, owns you.”
So, since then I’ve been trying to reduce the amount of stuff that I own, because psychologically, having possessions ties you down and reduces your options.
Get Rid of Your Possessions
If you had a whole house full of stuff you could say “Fuck it all” and blow the house up if you were an exceptional person. Most of us are not exceptional though, we’re either average or we’re on the road to being exceptional.
Average people will keep stuff for sentimental reasons. For example, a guy’s mother or an ex-girlfriend gave him this particular item. Or maybe he thinks that this thing that he’s trying to avoid throwing away will be useful at some point in the future.
So he accumulates rubbish.
This means that if the opportunity arose whereby this guy could change his life for the better by living in another town, city or even country, he would find it hard to commit to doing so because of his attachments. Not just that, but if he has a house full of stuff, he’s got to find some way of moving it all. Moving it from one part of the same city to another is bad enough, but moving it all to another country would make you think more than twice about going. It’s expensive and it’s a nightmare to organise.
But if you had little or no possessions, you could move at short notice and with little effort or expense.
The Same Old Story
When I read pickup forums, it seems to be a regular occurrence that someone complains that there aren’t enough women in the place that they live to make it viable to do cold approaches on girls. They’re scared of getting a bad reputation or talking to the same girl twice.
The advice I always give is to move to a bigger city.
The excuse that usually follows is to do with being attached in some way to their current location. I don’t know about you, but if I want something enough, but I can’t get it immediately, I’ll work out what steps I need to take to get myself closer to that goal and take them. Even if I don’t get instant gratification. Even if it takes years. If I can see that taking a logical train of steps will get me from where I am to a situation I’d like to be in, I will take those steps.
So, you want to move to another city, you can do one of three things:
- Detonate your possessions, like Edward Norton’s character in Fight Club.
- Hire removals vans and move everything you own.
- Get rid of your possessions and move light.
Coming back to Tom Torero, he pretty much lives out of a bag because he travels a lot and never seems to be in one place more than a month at a time. This is one end of the extreme. Me personally, I am working towards generating a passive income stream which will enable me to travel in the same way. Whilst I’m doing that I’m slowly getting rid of possessions.
How to Live a Life of Minimalism
How do I accomplish this? The first thing I do, is take stock of everything I own, one item at a time and ask myself “Have I used that thing in the last year?” If not, it’s almost certain to go in the bin.
For example, I had a massive collection of CDs. I listened to a small group of them regularly but some of them I never listened to. I ripped all the ones I listened to a lot onto my computer as audio files and then sold the whole collection on Amazon and eBay.
I recently bought a Kindle Paperwhite, which is allowing me to do the same thing for my book collection.
Then I look at all the stuff that I own which has sentimental value. Usually, I kept these items because they were given to me by someone that I care about or it marks some achievement in my life.
One example was a glass sculpture that had been given to my Grandfather when he retired. When he died, I kept it to remind me of him. I realised that I didn’t need this object to remind me as I have his memory in my head, so I got rid of it.
Another example is a big bunch of trophies I had from winning sparring competitions when I used to train in Kung-Fu. It gave me pride to look at them and remember how hard I trained and fought to win them, but I realised that I didn’t need them as the memories and pride were in my head, so I took a picture of them and then got rid of them.
If you move into a place that is furnished, you can also get rid of your furniture and cooking utensils.
You probably don’t wear 80% of your clothes either. Take the ones you don’t wear to a charity shop.
That leaves you with maybe a laptop, kindle, mobile phone, some clothes and toiletries. When you achieve that level of minimalism, it’s going to feel like the weight of the world is removed from your shoulders. It will feel like real freedom to go anywhere and do anything you want spontaneously, which I think is the real aim of life.
This weekend, I moved everything I own in three days, just by putting stuff in a suitcase and transporting it to my new flat on the Tube (London Underground).
I sold my car last year because in London you don’t need one. The Tube will get you anywhere you want cheaper and quicker. I had to do a few journeys, but I saved myself a lot of money, stress and lifting.
I moved to a place which isn’t so big that there is unused space, which saves me money and allows me to get a place closer to the centre of the city.
This is where logistics come in, because now, instead of being forty-five minutes and eleven stops away from Oxford Circus (London’s Daygame Mecca), I am now ten minutes and four stops away. That means that when I want to take a girl back to my house to consummate my seduction of her, there is less resistance.
As my main goal (besides personal freedom), is to fuck hot women, it makes sense for me to do everything within my means to increase the possibility of that happening.