Before you even go out to meet girls, you need to have an idea of what you’re looking for. If you don’t have much experience with women, this is usually quite a small list of preferences, most likely revolving around looks. For example, you might like a girl who has:
- Slim build.
- Red hair.
- Not too many freckles.
As you meet more women, go on dates, and experience relationships of varying length and seriousness, your initial list of preferences expands, gets more defined and can sometimes change dramatically.
More often than not, you start looking beyond a girl’s physical characteristics. By this time, you’ll have met a lot of girls and have accumulated an extensive mental catalogue of traits that you would like and not like in your ideal woman.
Most guys just have this list in their heads. After all, it’s in a man’s nature to be constantly checking girls out and comparing them against his mental catalogue for suitability. Some write it down. Either way, it is important that you meet enough women for your list to become well defined.
“Know thyself,” it is said.
In our case, “Know thyself and know thine woman”.
Once you get to this point, will become a lot more discerning about which of the girls you meet qualify to become your girlfriend or join your harem.
After getting to know a girl, you are able to compare her to your list. If you have satisfied yourself that she possesses a high percentage of desirable and a low percentage of undesirable characteristics, you will probably decide that you want to see her again (after fucking her of course).
Give Her Great Sex
It’s important you really satisfy her in the bedroom department, because if you don’t, she’s not going to stay around. So if you find yourself having a bunch of one night stands with girls when you’d actually like to see more of them, this is an area you need to improve.
I’m not going to go over this, as there are a number of good resources out there. Check out:
If you’re able to keep the girl around and you fuck her a few times, she will start to become emotionally attached to you and your connection will become more secure. This is where the challenges of keeping the relationship alive and challenging begin.
Guys who have been in relationships before know that after the honeymoon period of three or four months is over, it is easy for both parties to become progressively more bored. Attention wanders and not longer after, the relationship ends.
This happens for a number of reasons, but if you have sex covered, the main area is that of respect and authority. It is important that your girl respects your authority.
Whereas at the beginning of the relationship, she may be feminine and submissive, after a while she may start to refuse your requests, mess you around and be generally annoying. She may start to diverge from your list of characteristics rather than become closer aligned to it.
This is normal. For a girl, it is important that her man remains strong-minded. You have to remain the dominant, outcome-independent leader that she first became interested in. She will probe you to ensure you are solid and resolute. The equivalent with guys is that we are constantly looking at her appearance to reassure ourselves that she is staying slim and good-looking.
Whether we realise it or not, we’re actually making sure that she remains a good option to bear and rear offspring. We’re genetically programmed to do this, so we do it unconsciously, whether we’re interested in marriage and children or not.
What she’s checking for is proof that we’re still an Alpha guy whose genes are good enough to ensure that any offspring will be strong enough to survive birth and thrive in life. Again, she is doing this unconsciously, so never let these so-called “shit-tests” bother you. She’s genetically programmed to do this.
If you find that she is beginning to diverge from your list, it is undoubtedly because that you’re no longer meeting the majority of the characteristics on her list.
When it comes to relationships, at the top of the list has to be that you are the dominant player in the relationship. There is no such thing as equal footing in a relationship. There is always one person who is “wearing the trousers”. If you want keep fucking this girl, you need to make sure that it’s you.
This is where Domestic Discipline comes in.
After the relationship has bedded in, your girl will start to do things that are not acceptable to you, in an attempt to see how far she can push you. She’ll slowly try to take command of the relationship until she’s the one in charge and you are the chump.
The good news is that she doesn’t actually want to be in charge. She hates making decisions and has absolute disrespect for a guy she can push around, so it is your job to ensure that none of these little pushes remain unpunished.
When I talk about punishment, I really do mean that you should punish the girl. I’m not talking about beating the shit out of her, locking her up or subjecting her to physical or psychological torture. But it is important that she is disciplined for her misdemeanours.
The process for administering the discipline is quite simple but very specific. You need to follow these steps dogmatically or they won’t have the desired effect.
The very first thing you do is sit down with her and tell her that you have noticed that she has been behaving in an unacceptable fashion. You will tell her that you are talking to her about it to address and correct the issues that you have noticed.
You go through each issue and explain to her why it’s not acceptable to you and ask her if she has a good reason for her misbehaviour. If she apologises and you think she is genuinely sorry, you can choose not to punish her for it. However, if there is a recurrence of the same issue, you must punish her for it next time, or she will think you are weak and will proceed to walk all over you.
After the discussion, you need to count up the number of agreed-upon transgressions and either give her corner-time or a spanking. Try corner-time first. If it’s not a good deterrent, you can escalate to spankings.
With corner-time, you tell her to sit or stand facing the wall. She is not allowed to talk to you or partake in any other activity during her punishment. Normally you should give her five minutes per transgression.
While she’s serving her punishment, you can go about your life as normal. If she turns around or does anything but look at the wall in silence, you warn her. If you have to warn her twice, you escalate to a spanking.
With a spanking, you sit down in a chair or on the bed and tell her to lie with her stomach across your legs. You can either do it with knickers on or knickers off. I prefer knickers off, as the sting that she gets from skin-to-skin contact is more intense and immediate.
You hold her down with your hand on the back of her neck or on her back. Then you proceed to spank her buttocks, one at a time, alternating from on to the other. I usually use just the palm and of my open hand, but you can use a slipper or paddle if you wish.
Unless this is a repeated misdemeanour, you should use approximately 50% of your strength. The aim is to create a stinging sensation, not to injure her. This isn’t abuse or torture, it is a punishment. The pain subsides less than a minute afterwards and will remain for a couple of hours as a warm sensation in the buttocks, which serves as a reminder.
As a rule of thumb, I will administer six spankings (three for each buttock) per transgression. It’s okay if she sobs or cries out during the punishment, but it is not okay if she struggles. If that happens, you must tell her that if she struggles during punishment, you start again from zero. Then you do exactly that.
When you say you’re going to do something, always carry through with it.
After you have completed the spanking, you release her and let her tidy herself up. Then you tell her to sit facing a wall for two minutes to concentrate on the feeling in her buttocks and to think about what she did to bring on the punishment. You can go and make a cup of tea for yourself.
One note of caution though: You must not engage in spankings as a form of discipline and spankings as part of a sex-act at the same time. You can’t have both in a relationship. If you do, your girl will become very confused and the effectiveness of the punishment will be diminished or destroyed.
After either corner-time or a spanking, you must sit down with the girl again, look at her in the eyes and ask her to tell you why you punished her. If she is reticent, you should repeat the misdemeanours to her and then ask her to repeat them. Do this in a calm and neutral way, with plenty of eye contact.
Once this is done, you need to comfort her. Women are emotional beings and this experience will have a profound impact on her. That is the intention.
But you need her to understand that you’re not punishing her because you dislike her. You’re doing it to ensure that you both have a good relationship. She has to understand that you are the boss in the relationship and that she has to be well behaved at all times. It’s usually unnecessary to verbalise this, but this is the overall vibe.
The way that you comfort her is to get physically very close and soothe her. I usually lay her on the bed and put my arms around her. I put her face against my neck and stroke her hair. I tell her stuff like:
“It’s over now.”
“Everything is going to be fine.”
“You did very well, you’re a good girl.”
She will usually be sobbing and may be shaking a little. This is normal. After a while she will calm down and it will be almost like nothing happened. It’s strange how women can go from one extreme to another in a blink of an eye.
Frequently, she will be extra-eager to please you after a punishment and will suck your cock or cook for you spontaneously. If you make Domestic Discipline a normal part of your relationship, she will become a devoted and loving partner. You will notice that shit-tests reduce and your sex-life improves.
If you follow these guidelines, a relationship can remain fun and exciting for both you and the girl you’re spending your time with. It will create a deep and lasting connection between the both of you. In effect, you are increasing your masculinity and her femininity at the same time, and it is this polarity that creates attraction between you, like a magnet. So, in a nutshell:
- Know what you want in a woman.
- Give her a great sexual experience.
- Be the dominant partner in the relationship.
- Discipline her for her misdemeanours.