So what is winging? The word “wing” comes from “wing-man”, the aviation term. Wikipedia calls a wing-man “a pilot who supports another in a potentially dangerous flying environment”.
Now, contrary to what some people may think, there is nothing dangerous about supporting another would-be-womaniser in the field. You’re not going to get killed, arrested, dismembered, etc. The absolute worse that will happen is that she ignores you and walks past. I once had a girl punch me on the ear but that was after I fucked her and then told her I wanted to see other women. Anyway, we’re not talking about flying in this post, we’re talking about one guy helping another guy get laid.
When to Wing
A lot of guys, especially those whom have a background in night-game will use a wing most of the time, regardless of their experience level. Many guys that do Daygame will use a wing for the first few months and then mostly go out solo. Let’s have a look at common practices and find out in what situations you should and should not wing.
After I’d been doing Daygame in Nottingham for a couple of years, I moved to London to seek a larger number of high quality girls. In Nottingham, the city pretty much died in terms of hot girls during the summer, when all of the students went home.
Being a tourist city, I thought that this issue would be resolved in London, as summer is the biggest time for holiday-makers. However I found that the hot students just get replaced by large groups of school-kids, couples and families. Not many solo girls.
There are girls in pairs and groups though, and this is where winging can be useful.
Winging for Clubs and Night-Game
In a club, girls also hang around in groups and pairs, so finding a quality solo girl is quite rare. I don’t do clubs anymore because I hate them, but the method that is used is as follows:
- You see a girl you like, you tell your wing which one you want and then go up to her and do your approach.
- Your wing comes up to you and your set shortly afterwards and starts talking to the girl’s friend.
Obviously, there is a little more to it than that, but the point is that girls are not very independent creatures like guys. They feel intimidated by guys because guys are more powerful physically. This can work to your advantage because this intimidation causes a thrill of attraction to a girl, but I am digressing…
A girl will rarely go to a club on her own, so she will be with a friend or group of friends as there is protection in numbers. In addition, girls have trouble making up their own minds about anything, so when they have to decide whether they like you or not, they will often put as much emphasis on their friends’ opinion as their own.
Winging in a club works because your wing is occupying your target’s friend’s attention, so you can run your attraction material on her and get her into you without any outside interference. Then you can isolate her whilst your wing does the same with her friend.
This is good for you, but unless the friend is hot, your wing may be doing you a massive favour by seducing an ugly or fat chick, so you need a good wing.
Street and Daygame Winging
The same style of winging can also be done on the street and it is effective as you can take the girls on insta-dates as a group, or just number close them.
Hopefully both girls will have had a good interaction because they have been given so much individual attention you’re likely to get a date out of it. However, it’s not necessary, and it can take up your wing’s time for no reason.
When it comes to Daygame, the basis behind this style of seduction is what we call “direct” game, where an emphasis is put on self-development and masculinity, self-empowerment and self-reliance. So it can be seen that after a while doing street approaches, a wing can be a hinderance more than a benefit.
When you’re a beginner, it can be very benefitial indeed to have a wing. Especially if you have approach anxiety and are unable to make yourself go up and talk to girls on your own.
In this situation, the wing’s role is to keep you in state (IE make sure you are in a social frame of mind and not too introspective) and push you into approaches.
As you get more experience, you become more self-reliant and have better state-management, so having a wing becomes less necessary. You are able to push yourself to approach, you have evolved various tactics to keep yourself happy and motivated and you are less prone to being affected by setbacks.
In this beginning stage it can be easy to procrastinate and fail to push your wing into sets. It can also be easy to enjoy your camaraderie so much that you forget to be looking for girls to approach. So, it is important to stop each other making excuses for not approaching and it is essential to remember that you’re there to approach hot girls, not have a nice chat.
After a while, you’ll encounter the problem that you and your wing want to approach the same girl.
In my experience, it can be useful to have a rule that the first guy to see the girl and do the approach gets to talk to her. This stops procrastination but can cause resentment. Alternatively, you can set a rule that each time both of you like a girl, you take it in turns to have priority to approach.
Both ways work. In then end though, you’ll become more independent and just start going out on your own. You can approach 100% of the girls you like, you don’t need support and you find that you manage to approach more girls, which results in more numbers farmed.
So does this mean that if you’re going solo, you can only approach girls who are on their own?
In a big city, it is actually possible to spend a whole day meeting girls and never have to do a two-set or a group, but sometimes it’s not. Either that or you see a girl you really like and she happens to be in a group.
If this is the case, you can approach a group of girls on your own.
Gaming Two-Sets Solo
From my point of view, if you see a girl you like in a two-girl set, it is often best to go up to them and address both of them.
Open your arms wide and talk to both, by shifting your eye-contact from one to the other as you do your opener. Then you can alternate between talking to one then the other.
For attraction, you can play one off the other, putting them into boxes and assigning them roles. Girls love being told what to think and do, they hate having to make decisions and take responsibility for anything.
After you can sense that you are a welcome diversion, you can slowly start to pay more attention to the target and eventually number close her. Alternatively, you can end your seduction by telling them that you like them both and would like to meet up them, meaning that they can decide whose number to give you.
Usually if you’ve done your job right, you’ll get the number of the one that you like. If you don’t, invite the one whose number you got out and tell her to bring her friend.
Gaming Sets with Multiple Girls Solo
It pays to be able to tell who is the leader of the set. Usually she is the hottest girl, but more often than not she is physically leading the others (she walks in front or she walks in the middle of the group) and she is talking the most.
If the girl you want is the leader, you can just go up to her and talk to her, ignoring the other girls. They will allow you to do what you want and often just pull away to talk among themselves. If the one you like is not the leader, you will have to entertain them all as you did in the two set. You can divide them into groups and put them into boxes then play one set against each other. You should usually put the one you like most in the group that you appear to like least.
Approaching groups of more than one girl is no more challenging than talking to a solo girl, it is just a different skillset. Don’t let it intimidate you. After all, you are a man. Act like one, be dominant and lead.