There were days when approaching a girl in the street wasn’t ‘possible’ according to game-lore. If you wanted to meet a new girl, it had to be done in socially-acceptable venues such as bars and clubs. Even then, you had to stand in front of the girl, twist your head to look over your shoulder at her and then give her your opener. Since then, game has evolved. Guys aren’t so scared to be direct any more. Now we’re approaching on the street, in shops and in other not-so socially-acceptable places.
But I still see guys doing this:
Don’t do it! Don’t approach girls from an angle. If you approach from an angle, she’s just going to walk past you. Why? Because she can see your lack of conviction and therefore knows that you don’t have any balls. What heterosexual girl wants to date a guy with no balls? If you approach from an angle, you’re weak. If you approach from the side when you have the option of approaching from the front, you’re weak. If you approach from behind, you’re just a creep. If you want to appear to the girl to be an actual man, you approach like this:
This way, you are totally blocking the girl’s path. I can see some of you guys squirming in your chair as you read this. You’re the ones I’m talking to. The point of being a guy is to be dominant and decisive. If you don’t walk right up to her, directly from the front, she’s not going to respect you. This is the mindset you should have: You see the girl and you damn well go up to her and claim her. There’s no chance of escape for her. She’s your prey.
I’m going to link to a video from one of my favourite films below; ‘Swingers‘. The main character, Mikey has just made a half-arsed attempt at number-closing a chick at the bar. He’s walking back to his table in defeat, when we join him:
As you see, the quality of your approach depends on your mindset. If you go up and don’t believe you have the right to talk to that girl, you’re not going talk to her. She’s just going to walk on by. So, understand, you’re a big wolf and she’s just a little frightened bunny. You go up to her directly from the front and dominate the interaction. No excuses.
This is why a lot of guys give up after they’ve tried direct game a few times. “It’s too hard!”
Damn right it’s hard, being a man is hard. It’s not about learning a bunch of techniques, it’s about strengthening your mind. After all, that’s what a woman wants; a strong man. Strong inside and out. Build your body and build your mind, or preferably both at the same time.
Did you know that the mind and the body are linked? There are stories of guys lifting cars away from injured passengers because in the immediate aftermath of the accident, their minds were no longer limiting their real strength. There’s a truth that lifting weights builds your confidence. In order to constantly increase the weight that you can lift, you have to first tell your mind that you can do it. If you don’t believe that you can lift a heavier weight, your mind stops your body from being able to do so. Mind affects body, body affects mind.
So, believe that the girl will stop and you’ll automatically approach from the front.
When you do that, she’ll stop and wait to hear what you’ve got to say.