This article is a follow-up to ‘Never Run Out Of Things To Say‘, which I wrote a few weeks ago. Click the link to read it, however the long and short of it was that if you have travelled a lot and you meet a girl from a place that you’ve been to, you’ll have plenty to talk about.
The problem that most blue-pill guys have is that they don’t know how to have an interesting conversation with a girl. They might summon the balls to go and talk a girl, but after a minute of pleasant chit-chat, she will make an excuse and wander off, never to be seen again. To be able to have a stimulating conversation is one of the key skills a guy should learn to keep a girl interested.
Maybe you’re a really social guy and conversation comes naturally to you. Bully for you, but you’re in a minority. It’s more likely that you stumble through conversations with the girls that you approach. You often eject from interactions because you can’t think of anything to say. If this happens to you quite a lot, then this article will solve your problems.
Questions, Questions, Questions
The issue is that you’re asking too many questions. This is okay in moderation, but if your conversation consists entirely of questions, the girl is going to get tired of being interviewed by you and leave. If all you do is ask her questions, you’ve got two dilemmas:
Firstly, you appear to have nothing to say. When you first meet a girl, you can’t expect her to carry the conversation by doing all of the talking. If you’re just asking her questions, you’re trying to force her to make more of an effort than you. Until you’ve convinced her that she wants to get to know you, she isn’t going to want to put any effort into the interaction. She just wants to get rid of you so she can continue with her shopping. So she’ll give you a number, be it real or fake to get rid of you. Either that, or she’ll just make some excuse and walk away.
Secondly, you appear needy. If all you’re doing is asking questions, you’re sucking value from her. You’re an energy-sucking vampire. Nobody wants to spend time with an energy-sucking vampire. They want to spent time with someone who gives them energy and makes them feel good. A girl will gravitate to you if you’re not needy and you’re giving her value.
So, how do you do it properly? Well, I hinted at the solution in ‘Never Run Out Of Things To Say’. You have to do the talking. At least at the beginning while she’s still unsure of whether she really wants to be spending her time talking to you or not.
You Do The Talking
After you’ve been through the assumption stacking phase of the Daygame Blueprint, you will have a topic of conversation. Let’s say you told the girl that she looks like she’s from somewhere in the Mediterranean because she’s got dark hair, she has tanned skin and she’s wearing a pair of those massive Italian sunglasses that make her look like she’s hiding a pair of black eyes.
She will probably laugh and say that yes, she’s from Greece. Boom! That’s your topic of conversation.
This is the magic trick:
You make a statement about what she said. Either that, or you make a statement and then you ask a question.
So the conversation used to be something like this:
Her: “I’m from Greece.”
You: “What’s Greece like?”
Her: “It’s okay.”
You: “Um, bye!”
After implementing the magic trick, the conversation becomes something like this:
Her: “I’m from Greece.”
You: “Ah Greece. I’ve never been there before but I heard that the weather is super-nice and sunny, the men are really fat and ugly and the women are very sexy and feminine.”
Her: “Yes, I love the weather in my country. England is so grey and rainy all the time.”
You: “It’s not so bad. We do have a really short summer here. All the English guys try to make the most of it by taking off their shirts and wandering around topless. The problem is we’re so white that a day in the sun turns us red like beetroots and we spend the rest of the summer recovering from sunburn.”
Her: “Haha! That’s funny.”
You: “I guess you’ll be staying indoors during the summer. Seeing so many topless guys will make you horny all the time. Do you prefer Greek guys or English guys?”
Her: “I think English guys are more charming and sweet.”
You: “Maybe some of them, but behind our sweet exterior is a passionate interior.”
Listen And Make Statements
You can see how the conversation continues from here. You’re taking what she said and running with it. In addition, you’re being a bit cheeky and turning the conversation in a sexual direction. You’re pushing the frame to be fun and flirty, not boring and formal. This is what makes the girl want to go on a date with you after you take her number.
If you find yourself interviewing her, stop right now!
Use the conversational thread she gives you. Search your memory for something related to what she said and tell her about it. If you can’t think of anything, make something up. In the example above, I’d never been to Greece, so I made up three things about her country and told her them. They that could be right or wrong, who cares? She’ll make a comment about what you said and that will give you another thread to make a statement about.
As long as you’re listening, you’ll never run out of things to say.
Once you’ve got the statement / statement-question conversational skill practiced and internalised, you can start to throw in attraction. This is when your interactions will skyrocket. Attraction is the spice in a conversational stew. But I’ll leave that article for another day.
Go out and practice!