As I alluded to in my previous post: Always be Closing, game is a sales process. You’re selling yourself to the girl.
If you’ve ever had to buy a new Television, Washing Machine or Car you’ll have come across professional salesmen.
I bet you can remember things that they did or said to put you off. For example, they were far too pushy, too needy, they tried to sell you something you didn’t want to buy. Maybe you just didn’t like the way they looked.
When it comes to selling yourself to a girl, the same applies. She will react to your game depending how polished it is, how well you tailor your interaction to suit her personality and how well you present yourself.
One of the biggest things that turns a girl off is if the guy is too available.
What I mean is, that when you communicate or sub-communicate that you’ve got no options, you’re going to repel her. A girl wants a guy who has options. Unlike men, girls place a lot of emphasis on the judgement of other people.
If you can demonstrate that other people like you and want to be with you, this will make the girl that you’re interested in more interested in you.
Watch this video, it’s from Swingers, one of my favourite films. This is an example of what not to do.
Obviously, we don’t call girls after we get their number anymore, this isn’t the 90’s. We send a text message. However, inexperienced guys will always want to get into a conversation over text with the girl once they’ve gotten those digits.
Keep texting minimal. Be unpredictable. Leave long gaps before replying to her messages.
Imagine that instead of sitting in front of your phone waiting for her to reply to your text message, you have a far more interesting life.
Imagine that you’ve got half a dozen girls texting you all the time to come over and spend time with them.
Imagine you’re out with your friends and don’t want to be disturbed, so you’ve got your phone on silent.
Imagine you’re busy working on your business or you’re in the gym.
If all of this were true, you’d finish what you were doing and see a bunch of messages and missed calls on your phone from girls. You’d quickly send replies to the ones who interest you and then forget about it and do other stuff.
Now, if you’re not in that situation, act as if you were.
This will sub-communicate to the girl that you have interesting stuff going on in your life which is taking up all your time. You’re in demand. This is exactly the kind of guy she’s looking for. Not some lonely loser who devotes all his waking hours to her and dotes on her.
The same applies to all of your interactions with girls. Don’t be too available.
When you’re talking to the girl after you first meet her, always give a time constraint:
“I can’t talk for too long because I’m supposed to be going to meet my friends.”
When you’re on a date:
“I can’t hang out for too long tonight because I’ve got stuff to do before I go to bed.”
When you’re seeing a girl:
“I can’t come over on Saturday, I’ve got a big meet-up with my old buddies from college.”
Be elusive. Don’t be too available. Have (or appear to have) an abundant lifestyle.
If you follow this rule, you soon will have.