The first ten seconds speaking to a girl is the most important part of a seduction. The impression that she gets of you during those first ten seconds will colour all of the interactions you will ever have with her. If things go well, she will tell you years later about that first ten seconds and will be able to recall in high-definition exactly what happened and how you made her feel.
Stand up straight.
A large proportion of the way you convey yourself to a girl depends not on what you say, but how you deliver what you say. This can come in a number of forms. Vocal tonality, voice projection, eye-contact and posture are the most important. In this post, I will concentrate on the latter.
It is easy to see the difference between good posture and bad posture.
Bad posture.
Stand in front of a mirror. Round your back, push your shoulders forward, cross your hands in front of your groin, lower your head toward the floor. Now look up with your eyes at yourself in the mirror. Like what you see? I guess not. Nor will a girl.
Good posture.
Now, stand in front of a mirror, imagine that there is a rope attached to your spine at the base of your neck and someone is pulling up on that rope, straightening out your back. Pull back your shoulders and your chest will push out. Don’t tuck your stomach in, leave it relaxed and natural. If you’re carrying weight, it doesn’t matter. Own your belly. Let your arms dangle loosely at your sides and have a gap between your feet of a couple of foot-widths. Lastly, tilt your head so that your chin is slightly above horizontal. Look directly at your own eyes in the mirror. Looks better? You bet it does.
When you approach a woman, you need to look like the you in the second example. She will see a man who is proud of himself. A man who exists in the world without apology. A man who can sweep her off her feet. She’ll never forget you as long as she lives.
How to keep good posture.
One tip you can use to try to maintain this posture in your normal day-to-day life is, whenever you walk through a door, look up at the lintel. This does two things.
- It stretches and straightens your back.
- You may or may not have consciously noticed, but when someone walks through a door and enters a room, unless they are utterly engrossed in what they’re doing, the majority of the room’s inhabitants will look around to see who has entered. When you walk through that door with your awesome posture, you will be someone that they will want to meet.
Lastly, there is a science behind good posture and it is taught by instructors of the Alexander Technique. If you’re dead serious about improving your posture and you want to get professional help, these are the people I would suggest.