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Never Run Out Of Things To Say

3rd May 2015 By Mort Leave a Comment

 

When you’re beginning the process of learning Daygame, it really helps that there is a set structure. I hear intermediate and experienced Daygamers telling novices to forget structure and just freestyle. I just think they’re forgetting how they got where they are. It’s like sitting a learner driver behind the wheel and saying, “Okay, just freestyle. You’ll learn how to drive eventually.”

Sure, you’ll learn. This is how Yad, Mystery, and all the pioneers started. They knew nothing and just experimented until they came up with something that worked. But you don’t have to. I’ve there’s a structure, learn it and then modify it to your needs and your personality. Then you’ll cut down the time required to learn how to meet and seduce girls to something which is manageable. Instead of taking six years, you can start seeing results in six months to a year.

The structure of the standard Daygame set is: Approach, Opener, Assumption stack, Rapport / Attraction, Number close / Instadate.

After a few months of going out regularly to meet girls, you can take a split second to ask yourself where you are in the structure and what you need to do to get yourself to the next stage. Along the way, you’ll learn the different gambits, techniques and mindsets required to optimise each stage and every time you go out, you will fine-tune your skills.

Most of the stages have specific mechanisms that you can use to increase your chances of getting a positive response from the girl. You mix these mechanisms with spontaneity and inspiration to create an interesting and fun storyline to your interaction. Daygame requires you to use the logical and creative sides of your brain simultaneously.

How To Fix Your Rapport Failings

One of the things that many guys struggle with initially is what to talk to the girl about during the rapport stage. The answer is to make sure that you’re listening to what she is saying. That’s why we make assumptions about her after the opener. We’re looking for an insight into her interests and passions so we can weave a story about them.

Once you spoken to enough girls, you’ll find that there becomes a pattern. You’ll think, “Ah, this is an X girl” or “This is a Y girl” and you can bring up topics from previous sets to get rapport. Every girl has her own unique slant on life and you use your experience to tell stories about when you were in a similar situation and what happened.

But what happens when you don’t have any experience with the threads that she brings up? For example, what if you met a tanned dark haired girl and you tell her that you admire her Mediterranean looks? She smiles shyly and tells you she’s from Barcelona. What do you say next?

Personally, I’ve been to Barcelona. I can tell her how I went to the Sagrada Familia cathedral and spent the whole day there. How I went up the top of one of the towers and saw the extent of the city. How I got vertigo crossing a small bridge from one tower to another. I can tell her how much I like Chorizo Sausage or how I prefer Chicken Paella to Seafood Paella. She’s going to have an opinion on what I said: “Oh the Sagrada Familia is such a waste of money, it’s just a tourist trap”, “Gaudi is overrated”, “What? You don’t like seafood?”, etc, etc.

If you know something about what she’s talking about, rapport becomes much easier. After speaking to a few hundred girls, you’ll be able to spot trends. You’ll find yourself approaching one type of girl more than another. This is fine. Everyone has their own taste in women. Use this to your advantage.

Do Your Homework

If you find that you like Italian women, but you’ve never been to Italy, get yourself on a plane and go visit Rome, Milan, Venice and Naples. Rapport will be so much easier when you actually have an opinion based on experience. You can take the piss out of her native customs, you can tell her your favourite and least favourite things about her country.

If you can’t visit your favourite girls’ countries, you’ll eventually get stories and assumptions that you can give by spending time with these girls and asking questions about their homelands. You can then use these stories with other girls. For example, I really like native Chinese girls, but I’ve never been anywhere near China. If I meet one and she tells me that’s where she’s from, I often give her a fictional story about a friend of mine who visited and told me about his experiences.

I’ll tell her, “I have a friend who went to China a couple of years ago. He went to Beijing, Shanghai and Hong Kong, but he liked Hong Kong best because it’s still a little bit English. They still have double-decker busses and stuff.”

The information about the double-decker buses is something I found out from a girl I met on the street who was from Hong Kong. I don’t know how many times I’ve told a variation of that story. In fact it’s been getting a little stale recently. To end that problem, I’ve booked myself a holiday to China in August. That will give me a lot more to talk about and relate to with the girls I meet.

You don’t have to have experience at all. You can just make assumptions about her origin. This is some that Jon Matrix does a lot. If she tells you she’s from Australia, you can say something like:

“I’ve never been to Australia before, but I imagine that the weather is always sunny. You spend all of your time drinking beer and barbecuing on the beaches. Girls wear bikinis 24/7 and everyone travels to work by surfboard.”

This is just taking a bunch of stereotypes and mashing them together. She’ll either get indignant or laugh out loud. Either way you’ve received a reaction from her which will give you more to talk about.

As an exercise, after a day on the street talking to girls, ask yourself what information you found out about where they’re from and write it down. Watch videos about these places and the people that live there. Try and find out amusing facts or embarrassing stories that you can relay to girls in the future. Or better still, go and visit these places.

One thing that a lot of guys forget is that knowledge is one of the attraction devices (the others being push/pull, teasing, challenging, domination, sexual vibe, etc) that you weave into your interactions. If you have strong general knowledge, the girls is going to be impressed and attracted to you. If you have specific knowledge about her home town or country, she’ll be even more attracted.

Filed Under: Outer Game Tagged With: Knowledge, Rapport, Travel

Don’t Be Too Available

21st April 2015 By Mort Leave a Comment

Too Available

As I alluded to in my previous post: Always be Closing, game is a sales process. You’re selling yourself to the girl.

If you’ve ever had to buy a new Television, Washing Machine or Car you’ll have come across professional salesmen.

I bet you can remember things that they did or said to put you off. For example, they were far too pushy, too needy, they tried to sell you something you didn’t want to buy. Maybe you just didn’t like the way they looked.

When it comes to selling yourself to a girl, the same applies. She will react to your game depending how polished it is, how well you tailor your interaction to suit her personality and how well you present yourself.

One of the biggest things that turns a girl off is if the guy is too available.

What I mean is, that when you communicate or sub-communicate that you’ve got no options, you’re going to repel her. A girl wants a guy who has options. Unlike men, girls place a lot of emphasis on the judgement of other people.

If you can demonstrate that other people like you and want to be with you, this will make the girl that you’re interested in more interested in you.

Watch this video, it’s from Swingers, one of my favourite films. This is an example of what not to do.

Obviously, we don’t call girls after we get their number anymore, this isn’t the 90’s. We send a text message. However, inexperienced guys will always want to get into a conversation over text with the girl once they’ve gotten those digits.

NO!

Keep texting minimal. Be unpredictable. Leave long gaps before replying to her messages.

Imagine that instead of sitting in front of your phone waiting for her to reply to your text message, you have a far more interesting life.

Imagine that you’ve got half a dozen girls texting you all the time to come over and spend time with them.

Imagine you’re out with your friends and don’t want to be disturbed, so you’ve got your phone on silent.

Imagine you’re busy working on your business or you’re in the gym.

If all of this were true, you’d finish what you were doing and see a bunch of messages and missed calls on your phone from girls. You’d quickly send replies to the ones who interest you and then forget about it and do other stuff.

Now, if you’re not in that situation, act as if you were.

This will sub-communicate to the girl that you have interesting stuff going on in your life which is taking up all your time. You’re in demand. This is exactly the kind of guy she’s looking for. Not some lonely loser who devotes all his waking hours to her and dotes on her.

The same applies to all of your interactions with girls. Don’t be too available.

When you’re talking to the girl after you first meet her, always give a time constraint:

“I can’t talk for too long because I’m supposed to be going to meet my friends.”

When you’re on a date:

“I can’t hang out for too long tonight because I’ve got stuff to do before I go to bed.”

When you’re seeing a girl:

“I can’t come over on Saturday, I’ve got a big meet-up with my old buddies from college.”

Be elusive. Don’t be too available. Have (or appear to have) an abundant lifestyle.

If you follow this rule, you soon will have.

Filed Under: Outer Game Tagged With: abundance, availability, fake it until you make

New book: ‘How to Meet Girls’.

12th April 2015 By Mort Leave a Comment

If you’ve been reading my recent posts, you will have seen the announcement I made a few weeks ago saying that I was in the process of writing a book. Well I’ve finished the book and it has been released internationally on Amazon for Kindle readers.

I’ve titled it ‘How to Meet Girls‘.

The main purpose of the book is to help guys get over what is usually the most common stumbling block:

The approach.

I don’t know the exact statistics, but if I were to take an educated guess, I’d say that nine out of ten guys who try Daygame fail to even approach a girl. I know from personal experience how hard it can be to get over that initial Approach Anxiety and I want guys who are still stuck there to be able to learn from my experience.

The book is a comprehensive guide to overcoming AA and perfecting your approach. It covers inner game, outer game and the techniques necessary to approach a girl in any given situation. Not only that, but it has illustrations outlining key concepts. It’s not aimed at pick-up artists per-se, so I’ve avoided using any game terminology to make it accessible to as many guys as possible. However, it does teach you everything necessary to get you from that point of being scared of girls to being able to talk to any girl you want.

I’ve released it on Amazon in Kindle format, at a very reasonable price. There will also be a print-on-demand paperback version in the next couple of days, also from Amazon.

If you’re still having problems with this area of your game, I recommend picking up a copy, as it goes into depth on the skills and mindset you need to get out there talking to girls. Once you’ve overcome Approach Anxiety once, you will know that you can do it again. Then, every time you talk to a girl thereafter, it becomes easier and easier. It’s key to learn and perfect this part of your game, because it is the base upon which you will build the rest of your skills. Once you can approach, all you have to do is put in some time and effort and you are almost guaranteed to get laid.

Here is the link to get your copy of the book: How to Meet Girls: Meet and Talk to Attractive Girls Without Fear or Hesitation.

Filed Under: General Tagged With: Approach, Book

How to Approach a Girl

5th April 2015 By Mort Leave a Comment

There were days when approaching a girl in the street wasn’t ‘possible’ according to game-lore. If you wanted to meet a new girl, it had to be done in socially-acceptable venues such as bars and clubs. Even then, you had to stand in front of the girl, twist your head to look over your shoulder at her and then give her your opener. Since then, game has evolved. Guys aren’t so scared to be direct any more. Now we’re approaching on the street, in shops and in other not-so socially-acceptable places.

But I still see guys doing this:

Angled-Stop

Don’t do it! Don’t approach girls from an angle. If you approach from an angle, she’s just going to walk past you. Why? Because she can see your lack of conviction and therefore knows that you don’t have any balls. What heterosexual girl wants to date a guy with no balls? If you approach from an angle, you’re weak. If you approach from the side when you have the option of approaching from the front, you’re weak. If you approach from behind, you’re just a creep. If you want to appear to the girl to be an actual man, you approach like this:

Front-Stop

This way, you are totally blocking the girl’s path. I can see some of you guys squirming in your chair as you read this. You’re the ones I’m talking to. The point of being a guy is to be dominant and decisive. If you don’t walk right up to her, directly from the front, she’s not going to respect you. This is the mindset you should have: You see the girl and you damn well go up to her and claim her.  There’s no chance of escape for her. She’s your prey.

I’m going to link to a video from one of my favourite films below; ‘Swingers‘. The main character, Mikey has just made a half-arsed attempt at number-closing a chick at the bar. He’s walking back to his table in defeat, when we join him:

As you see, the quality of your approach depends on your mindset. If you go up and don’t believe you have the right to talk to that girl, you’re not going talk to her. She’s just going to walk on by. So, understand, you’re a big wolf and she’s just a little frightened bunny. You go up to her directly from the front and dominate the interaction. No excuses.

This is why a lot of guys give up after they’ve tried direct game a few times. “It’s too hard!”

Damn right it’s hard, being a man is hard. It’s not about learning a bunch of techniques, it’s about strengthening your mind. After all, that’s what a woman wants; a strong man. Strong inside and out. Build your body and build your mind, or preferably both at the same time.

Did you know that the mind and the body are linked? There are stories of guys lifting cars away from injured passengers because in the immediate aftermath of the accident, their minds were no longer limiting their real strength. There’s a truth that lifting weights builds your confidence. In order to constantly increase the weight that you can lift, you have to first tell your mind that you can do it. If you don’t believe that you can lift a heavier weight, your mind stops your body from being able to do so. Mind affects body, body affects mind.

So, believe that the girl will stop and you’ll automatically approach from the front.

When you do that, she’ll stop and wait to hear what you’ve got to say.

Filed Under: Inner Game, Outer Game Tagged With: Approach, Mindset

Can You Become Financially Independent by Investing in the Stock Market?

26th March 2015 By Mort Leave a Comment

I’ve been working for someone else ever since I was twenty-one.

I didn’t ever feel like I was a slave or that I was being exploited at any point, because going to work every day was just a normal thing to do. The majority of people in the world work for someone else. I never crosses their mind to do things any differently.

But I’ve never thought that I was meant to be like everybody else. I’ve always thought that there was something special about me. That I was meant for some kind of greatness. But I never knew what it was. And guess what? I never achieved anything truly great.

Every day, I’d go into the office and do just enough not to get sacked. I didn’t care about working hard, because I didn’t care about any of the companies that I worked for. Then 2008-2009 happened and with that big recession, a lot of people lost their jobs, including me.

I had been in the highest paying job that I’d ever had and I was living a relatively enjoyable life. That disappeared after I got made redundant and I was out of work for nine months. Living on the breadline is no joke. At one point I even had to go to a charity for financial assistance, otherwise I’d have been homeless. Once I’d finally extricated myself from that mess, I told myself that I would never let myself get into that situation again.

Luckily, a couple of months before my extended unemployment, I’d enrolled on an evening class that upon completion, would give me the necessary qualifications to get onto a degree programme. I finished the course with distinction. I scored a total of more than 90% in the coursework and exams. I chose an I.T. degree, because I knew it would be the one industry that would always have a demand for employees, even in a recession. When I graduated, I graduated with distinction again. I scored more than 90% in my coursework and exams.

Work for Others and You’ll Achieve Little or Nothing

I’m not trying to big myself up here, I’m just trying to prove a point. When I worked for other people, I didn’t give a fuck about working hard, I was just there to earn a wage and go home to concentrate on whatever pursuit I was following in my free time. As soon as it became almost a life and death situation (no job or job prospects), I worked super-hard and achieved great things.

Since I graduated, I’ve concentrated the vast majority of my spare time on learning game and getting as good at it as I can. Guess what? I didn’t really care that much about my I.T. job. I just did enough not to get sacked. Sounds familiar? Now guess what happened a month ago? I got fucking made redundant again!

Luckily, my plan worked and I managed to get a new job within three weeks, but I wasn’t as much in demand as I thought. The reason is that I.T. is a fast-moving industry and you have to be constantly learning new technologies. That’s why most computer guys are called geeks. They spend most of their time on computers learning new computer stuff. When I finished my degree, I was determined that nobody would be able to call me a geek. Bad idea.

Don’t live your life doing or not doing things because of what other people may think about you.

Anyway, I learned game, started to dress in a classy way and met and fucked lots of hot girls. The only the only time that I spent doing I.T. related stuff was at work. A few weeks ago when I was forced to start looking for another job, I got a shock. I knew that guys in my industry were in demand and I literally had hundreds of agencies call me up to talk about my CV. The problem was that most of the jobs that they were touting required skills that I didn’t have. My current skill set was out of date.

So the thing I learned from this debacle is that if you want to be good at something, you can’t learn it and then sit on your skills. You need to be constantly learning and evolving. This matters as much with game as it does with your job.

Money is Important, Don’t Let Anybody Tell You Otherwise

Which brings me onto the next point I wanted to make.

If you’re not earning money, you’re in a tonne of shit.

I was worrying about paying rent on time. I was wondering if I’d get a job at all. It took me back to those nine months of poverty and I got scared for a while, before my training kicked in and I started looking at the situation positively.

Then I started making plans. I attacked the problem. I updated my CV, called every agency back, went to interviews, argued about how quickly I could learn new technologies and what a hard worker I was. Of course I could back this up with my college and university scores. I made contingency plans in case I was out of work for an extended period of time. I was so glad that I had the foresight to eradicate my debts, which would mean my survival if I had to resort to unemployment benefits.

Eventually I got a job. I start in three weeks. I’m not going to sit on my arse playing video games though. I’m going to be working hard on my own money making schemes.

I was fucking annoyed with myself for having slipped into the same trap twice though. I’d told myself that I’d never get in this situation again and I felt like I’d let myself down. Also, I was still stuck in that cycle of being an underachiever. But that’s not to say that I’ve been absolutely complacent. I realised more than a couple of years ago that I needed to start doing something to earn money on the side. I knew that if I relied solely on my job as my only source of income that I’d soon find myself in the shit again. So I had decided to think about investments.

Investing Whilst Working at Your Day Job

When I was eleven years old, my parents emigrated to Spain and took me with them. I was never a big fan of the country and didn’t make many friends. I ended up spending most of my time on my own, playing with computers, swimming in the sea and reading. One of the companies that my Dad worked for had a library for other expats to read English books. I read all sort of books, most of them not for kids. I’m glad of this time, because you can learn anything from reading. Whatever goal you want to pursue, someone else has already done it and written a book about it. You’ve just got to buy it, read it and copy their actions.

One of the books that I read was ‘Kane and Abel‘ by Jeffrey Archer. In it, the character Kane is the son of a banker and he grows up living in a world of investments. I know it’s a book but I always remember one thing that happened in the story. Kane is due to get a one million dollar endowment from his father’s estate at the age of twenty one. However, he is was so financially savvy that he had makes more than a million dollars himself, through investments, before he reaches that age. Ever since then I’d held the idea that one day I’d start investing money in the stock market and I’d make millions.

That would mean that I’d have freedom and not have to work for someone else ever again.

After I moved to London a couple of years ago, I finally had some disposable income every month after years of debt. I opened an account with a broker and started investing. I’d been reading about investing for years and decided to follow the route of Warren Buffett. After all, if he could become a billionaire from investing, then surely I could become a millionaire?

After a year I’d done pretty well. None of the stocks I’d bought had lost money. I’d actually made money, but not much. In the whole year, I made a total of £60.00 for my efforts. I’d had big dreams of harnessing the power of compound interest and living off the dividends paid by the companies I’d invested in. Those dreams were shown to be false.

So I had to rethink my plans entirely. I actually did some maths and worked out how long it would take for me to achieve financial independence by investing in the stock market. Here are my calculations:

  • Living in London, what are my monthly outgoings? They’re a little less than £2,000 per month.
  • What is the average return on the stock market at the moment? Let’s be generous and say 10%.
  • How much of my spare income would I be able to invest every month? Let’s say £800.00 per month.
  • Let’s assume that inflation doesn’t stay at 0% forever and that it follows the last 25 years’ historical average of 2.75%.

So, how long would it take me to accumulate enough stocks that I would be able to live off the dividend returns?

The answer is fifteen years. In fifteen years I’ll be almost 55 years old.

I want to be financially independent in the next two or three years, not fifteen years. So I sold my investments and went on a series of holidays instead. I had a really good time, but that wasn’t the most clever of ideas either.

Now, let me state right here and now that I still believe that investing in the stock market is a great idea. It is possible to live off the dividends from your stocks or the interest from your bonds, but you need to have a massive amount invested. For me to be able to pay my inflation-adjusted living costs, I’d have to own approximately £410,000.00 in stocks. And that is a return of 10%. You’d have to be invested in some pretty risky businesses to get that return.

So how long would it take and how much money would you have to have invested, if you only expected an average return of 5% (which is reasonable)? 

The answer is 45 years. I’d be almost 85 years old (so statistically I’d probably already be dead) and I’d have invested £1,800,000.00.

Work for Yourself and You Can Achieve Anything

So what is the answer?

How can you become financially independent and go off travelling the world while living on the returns of your investments? Well obviously the answer is to invest in the market or some other income producing asset, such as property, after you have already made a small fortune.

Of course, how you achieve that is another question entirely.

The strategies I’m currently working on involve two things:

Geo-arbitrage, as discussed in Tim Ferriss’ book, ‘The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich‘, and owning my own business.

It’s entirely possible to earn the £1,800,000.00 I’d need within three years, by working on my own business.

That’s what I’ve been doing for the last year and if you haven’t started yet, I suggest you begin right now.

Some suggested reading, to get you started:

  • ‘The Millionaire Fastlane: Crack the Code to Wealth and Live Rich for a Lifetime‘ by M.J. DeMarco
  • ‘The $100 Startup: Reinvent the Way You Make a Living, Do What You Love, and Create a New Future‘ by Chris Guillebeau.
  • ‘Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth‘ by T. Harv Eker.
  • ‘What I Learned Losing a Million Dollars‘ by Jim Paul.

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