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The Text Transition.

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If you’re practising the standard Daygame model, your journey will consist of the initial interaction with the girl and two dates (day two and day three). The ideal scenario ends with sexual consummation at the end of the second date.

Sandwiched in-between these three physical interactions is a non-physical phase where you communicate via text message. The initial interaction is your street game, the two dates are your seduction game and the filling is your text-game.

There are two main reasons for you to text the girl once you’ve acquired her number:

  1. To keep yourself and your previous interaction at the front of her mind.
  2. To seed and request the next date.

What you should not be doing in the text game phase is trying to get more rapport with the girl. This is a mistake that beginners often make to try and patch up inefficiently executed street game.

Don’t Overdo It

If you’re having issues with girls not agreeing to dates when you’re texting them, it’s because of a lack of solid rapport in the conversational (comfort) stage of your initial interaction on the street. Trying to fix this in text game is like trying to build a house on sand without first digging deep foundations.

In addition, having long back-and-forth text conversations with a girl you’ve not even kissed yet, let alone fucked is just going to push you into the friend zone. Why would you want to waste valuable time texting a girl all night when she hasn’t given you any tangible value yet?

Sometimes you have to play a long game (in time and distance) with a girl because before you can meet up with her, she leaves your city or country for a length of time. This post isn’t about that. We’re talking about girls who are available to meet you. If you’re doing long game, you’ll still need to keep in touch with the girl for the first reason I mentioned above, but there is more to it than simple text game.

Do the Bare Minimum

A lot of more experienced PUAs will tell you that “text game is easy”, and in a sense they are correct. What they’re guilty of though, is over-simplification.

I’ll explain.

It’s easy to do too much texting. Despite calling it ‘text game’, you’re not trying to game the girl during the texting phase. You’re just trying to make sure you don’t fuck up. Although it can be really hard, (after all it is a transitional part of your journey with this girl), try to do the minimum.

Even if you don’t have a busy life, it must appear that you have. Of course the best way to do this is to actually have a busy life. Be meeting friends, participating in activities, spending time with other quality women and working on improving your knowledge and station in life.

Then when a girl texts you, you’ve not been sitting over your phone waiting for the message. You missed the message because your phone was in your bag while you were at your martial arts class. Your day is full of stuff to do, so you literally don’t have time to text a girl for more than a couple of minutes per day. You’re the one with an full life and options and she is the one wondering whether the cool guy who stopped her on the street is going to get in touch.

After the initial interaction, I’ll text the girl a few hours later with a feeler text to gauge her interest levels and if she replies, I won’t send another text until the next day. I’ll then have two or three back-and-forth exchanges on different days with her before sending a date request.

I’m not going to go into detail regarding the content of the messages themselves here. My aim is to convey to you that you don’t want to be investing too much at this stage. Once you’ve banged her and decided you want to keep her around, sure, have an hour long chat with her, but not until then.

What to Text Her

The following isn’t a hard and fast rule as each girl is different, so you should adapt. During your first text game phase, you should send (and receive) no more than a couple of texts per day and you don’t even have to text every day. Sometimes it’s good to leave a day without communication between exchanges. When sending texts to the girl, you shouldn’t be asking questions, you should be making observations.

Three types of messages you can send are:

  1. A message that gives her an insight into your life.
  2. A call-back message.
  3. A funny picture message.

In the insight message, you should be telling her something interesting or fun that happened to you that day. If nothing fun or interesting happens to you, either make it up or even better, change your life so that it is fun and interesting.

The call-back message is something that reminds her of an experience you shared with her during your previous interaction.

The funny picture message is usually a picture you took of some amusing event that happened during your day. You can save these up and send them weeks or months after they actually happened.

When she replies to your message, you should either not reply until the next day or try and have some fun with what she says. Try to skew what she said to make it appear like she was trying to come on to you. Tease her for spelling mistakes. Just be fun and keep it light.

The rule is not to reply immediately. Leave it a while before replying. Also, on occasion, break that rule and reply straight away.

Be unpredictable.

Date Request

When the time comes to send a date request, be decisive and don’t ask her for her opinion or what she wants. Hopefully you won’t have much time free because you are a busy guy, but if not, pretend that you don’t have much time.

Give her a couple of days when you can meet her and ask her which one she prefers. She’ll usually pick one, but if she can’t make either, don’t immediately try to make other plans. Just keep pinging her texts and try again in a couple of days.

If you can’t come to an agreement within a couple of weeks, it probably isn’t going to happen.

After the first date you should do exactly the same thing. You’ve got more material for call-back messages and you can be a little more flirty with her, as you should have kissed her, or at least tried to kiss her. You’ve displayed intent physically so you can afford to continue that subtly through text.

Again, the key is minimalism. Avoid over-investment. Until you’ve fucked her this is still a game of cat and mouse.

And you’re the cat.

Rules of Thumb

If you eventually get into a relationship with the girl, you can have longer text exchanges with her and you can call her, IM (instant-messenger) her (WhatsApp, etc) and Skype her, but not before.

Either way, don’t overdo it; always try to be the one who ends the interaction first and try to balance your pulls (compliments, praise, etc) with pushes (teases, criticism, etc).

Don’t call a girl straight after you get her number. You could probably do this ten or fifteen years ago, but nowadays girls will find that uncomfortable. She’s only going to be happy to take a call from someone she knows well, i.e; her parents, close friends and lovers (you, after you’ve fucked her).

After the Number Close.

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If you’ve been practising Daygame with enough focus, eventually you will manage to get all the way through the blueprint and get a girl’s number. The amount of approaches this requires depends on who you are. You could get your first number on your first approach, or it may take three months.

If you keep working, putting in the time and approaches, it will happen. It’s inevitable, like death and taxes. When you do eventually get your first number close, you can look back at the hard work you put in and give yourself a big pat on the back.

But what happens after you start getting those digits?

You should split your strategy. What I mean is, that you should continue to work on your street game and you should begin to work on your seduction game. I call the part of the game between getting the number and laying the girl seduction, so if you see that term in this post, you’ll know what I mean.

The mistake a lot of guys make when they get a handful of numbers is to either drop or neglect their street game. In fact, you should still be putting the same focus into your street game as you did before you started getting numbers. There are many reasons for this. The two main ones are:

  1. When you start getting numbers, a high proportion of these will be low quality.
  2. You need to have a conveyor belt of prospects.

Number Quality

In the early stages of your journey in learning to seduce women, when you text a girl whose number you obtained, you will likely get no response or at best a limited response. This is because although the quality of your game is sufficient to build enough interest in the girl for her to give you her number, it’s not good enough for her to respond to your efforts to go further.

There are a number of different reasons for this, which I’ll go into in a future post, but usually it boils down to either not enough attraction or not enough rapport. The point is that you should still be going out regularly, walking the street and talking to girls. Yes, you now know how to push an interaction through the blueprint and get a number out of it, but now you need to start fine-tuning each section so that when you start texting girls, they will give you better responses.

Sixty Years of Challenge (I know, weird name, but great seducer) calls this your magic number. When you’re out on the street, you will meet three different types of girl:

  • Yes girls,
  • Maybe girls and
  • No girls.

No girls are the best because they don’t waste your time.

Yes girls are pretty awesome because when you meet them, all you have to do is not fuck up and you’ll get laid.

Maybe girls will make up the majority of the girls you talk to and this is where the game is played. The higher your skill level is, the lower your magic number will be. For example at the moment, I average one number for every two maybe or yes girls that I talk to. A newbie will have a ratio of one number for every 250 girls. He’s still getting girls’ contact details; they’re just a lower quality, hence his magic number is higher.

Numbers Game

After you’ve been gaming a while, it becomes clear that it’s a numbers game. You’re just trying to change the odds. Even if you didn’t have any game at all, you would get laid eventually, if you just talked to enough girls. The good thing about knowing your magic number is that you know approximately how many women you need to talk to, to get laid.

This is because you will also know how many numbers you need to get a date and how many dates you need to lay a girl. Then, if you know how many approaches you do per week, you know how often you’ll lay a new girl.

It doesn’t always work exactly like this because what usually happen is that you’ll fuck a number of girls in a short period and then have a dry patch. These are the peaks and troughs of your game roller-coaster and are one of the things that build up your emotional control.

Conveyor Belt

Then we come on to having a conveyor belt of prospects. What I mean by this is trying to have a constant flow of girls that you can use to work on your post-number game.

It’s easy to get over-enthusiastic about getting your first numbers. Like I said in this post, getting a number in itself has no meaning; it’s just another link in the chain of events that lead from meeting a girl to fucking her.

Because for months after you start getting numbers, you will get a lot of flakes (girls who lose interest), you will exhaust all of the numbers you collected very quickly. You will also make mistakes in text game and in your dates and lose the girls that way, so you need a flow of new girls to practice your seduction game on in order to improve your chances of getting laid sooner rather than later.

I’ll go into text game and the seduction of phase in future posts, but for now, make sure you keep going out and talking to girls.

In the future, once your overall magic number gets really low, you can transition from going out all day at the weekend to just talking to girls whilst doing your shopping or on your lunch break. That’s not going to happen in your first couple of years though. You need to fine tune your game first.

Public Speaking is a Cure for Social Anxiety.

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After I’d been practising Daygame for six months, I joined a Toastmasters club and participated in their programme once a week until I left Nottingham for the bright lights of London. For those of  you who don’t know about Toastmasters, it is an international public speaking group.

I think any beginner to pick-up will benefit vastly from joining and regularly participating in a Toastmaster group.

The way you get better at game is to approach many girls and get the skill-set down. An interaction grows like a tree from the approach to the number close, with each decision made a branch or a twig in your tree. But the approach is the root of your game tree and if you get that right, it makes the rest of your interaction easier.

As I mentioned in my posts Back to Basics, Notes for Beginners and The Importance of Posture, there are a few basic things that you need to be doing rather than saying on your approach which are absolutely essential to get the root of your interactions to be solid.

The Root of Your Game

I’ve covered posture and I’ve covered eye contact, but what about vocal tonality, projection, timing, storytelling and composure?

All of these are skills taught in Toastmasters.

It has been often quoted that for most people; public speaking is a scarier proposition than dying. In actual fact, the feeling that public speaking gave me when I first started was the closest I’ve come to approximating the feeling I got when I started cold approaching women. And it’s for the same reason. Your Ego is scared of being hurt.

When you approach a woman or when you talk in front of a group of people, you are scared that they will scorn and reject you.

This is where Toastmasters can improve your public speaking and get rid of approach anxiety. Every time you stand up to speak at a meeting, you are given full attention and after you sit down, everybody applauds warmly. Soon, you look for more and more opportunities to do a speech because facing your fear and being rewarded for it become addictive. It’s a positive feedback loop.

Toastmasters is more than just a forum for encouraging its members to speak, it is a structured programme. You’re given two books; the “Competent Speaker” and the “Competent Leader”.

Structured Learning and Improvement

The Competent Speaker book has ten speeches for you to do.

They start you off by simply speaking about your background for a couple of minutes. Subsequent speeches emphasise preparation, timing, vocal projection, eye contact, storytelling and all of the skills you need to be able to seduce an audience and a woman.

The Competent Leader book gives the meeting’s non-speakers evaluation and leadership roles to accomplish.

Every meeting there is a Toastmaster who chairs the meeting. Think of this role like a chat-show host. You stand up and open the meeting and then introduce each speaker during the evening. Many people are daunted by this role, but it used to be my favourite, because of the amount of times during a night that I had to push through my fear.

There are other roles such as Grammarian (evaluating use of grammar), Timekeeper (ensuring that speeches don’t over-run) and Ah-counter (counting “um”s and “ah”s used as filler-words).

Then there is the Evaluator role where you have to take notes on a speech, talk about what the Speaker did well and what they could improve on. This helps the Speaker improve their speeches and gives them the ability to take constructive criticism and it also helps the Evaluator to think critically and give balanced praise and criticism.

One other section of every meeting is what Toastmasters call Table-Topics, which is impromptu speaking.

Half a dozen speakers are chosen at random to speak for a minute on a completely unrehearsed topic. This is massively nerve-wracking, but has a fantastic effect on your ability to speak off the top of your head.

You can see how this would benefit your interactions with women, as for example, during the Assumption Story stage of the Daygame Blueprint, you are thrown a subject to talk about and you have to quickly recall or create an amusing or interesting story to enable you to get into rapport with the girl.

Call to Action

All of these roles provide skills which are enormously helpful in your career and social-life, as well as in the seduction of women. If you’ve not been to a Toastmasters meeting before, I recommend that you go.

You can attend for free as a guest for as long as you like before committing to join and even then, the subscription costs are ridiculously low. There are
clubs in almost every country in the world and the UK and the US have hundreds of clubs.

If you’re still suffering from social anxiety and you’ve done lots of approaches but don’t feel like you’re improving, try Toastmasters.

Six Things You Can Do To Increase Your Success Rate.

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In the real world, things are messy. They’re multi-levelled with many variables and convolutions.

The same is true of seducing women.

I’ve been interested in languages for a while now. I’m learning Mandarin Chinese at the moment. Before Chinese, I was studying Japanese (both for the purpose of meeting and talking to Asian girls).

When I was attempting to acquire proficiency in Japanese, I read a great book called How to Learn Any Language – Quickly, Easily, Inexpensively, Enjoyably and On Your Own by Barry Farber. Barry recommends that you attack a language from as many angles as possible. He said you should fully immerse yourself in the language by listening to audio courses, reading grammar and vocabulary books, watching films and listening to audio in the language of your choice.

For the most success in learning how to seduce women, you should do a similar thing.

Immerse Yourself

Firstly (at least in the beginning), you should try to immerse yourself as much as possible. One thing that I noticed all of the really good Daygamers say is that their first couple of years were very intense. They either had no job and went out every day all day to game or like myself, they had a job and went out all day both weekend days. Once you have your skill level up, you can calm down a little, but immersion is a key element.

Secondly, you need to attack the problem from many angles. Here are five areas which you can work on simultaneously to increase the success rate you will have with women.

Get Better at Game

This is obvious really. To get better at seducing women, you need some game. There are plenty of different systems out there which will give you a framework to progress with. Daygame is one of them. You can find out why I personally do Daygame here.

For a beginner, I think it is important that you have a structure that you can follow. It’s like the training wheels (we call them stabilisers in the UK) you had on your bike when you were a kid. You learn to ride the bike with the stabilisers on, then when you have mastered the technique, you take them off and after a period of adjustment, you can ride on two wheels.

It’s the same with game. The structure of your seduction methodology (like for example, the Daygame Blueprint) is your training wheels, and when you can work through it from approach to fuck without thinking about it, it’s time to slowly drop it and become more natural.

Move To a Place Where There Are More Girls That You Like

When it comes down to it, any seduction philosophy involves a certain amount of chance. Anyone who tells you otherwise is a liar. Not every girl you meet will want to fuck you, no matter what super-powers you may possess. In essence it’s a numbers game, but the odds are weighted by the things I am discussing in this post.

As the odds of you getting laid increase with the number of girls you talk to, it can sometimes simply be a case of speaking to as many girls as you can before the inevitable happens. But you’re not attracted to all of the girls you see on the street.

So, the solution is to either go to a larger city in your country, maybe the capital city, where there is more choice of girls. Alternatively, go to a large city in a foreign country which has the girls you like.

In my case, I like Asian girls. There are almost none in my home city (Leicester in the UK), so I moved to London where there are many. Eventually when I’ve learned Chinese well enough and my business is doing sufficiently well, I’ll move to Shanghai, Beijing or some other large city in China.

Dress Better

In reality, you can dress however you want within reason and still have a good chance of getting a girl if you have covered the other areas in this post. But we’re all about incremental increase, so even a small improvement might improve your results dramatically.

I used to be a baggy jeans, t-shirt and trainers (sneakers) guy. In fact when I first started going out to meet girls, this is what I wore. What I noticed was that most of the girls who gave me their numbers tended to dress like me.

The problem was that I wanted girls who dressed a little bit more classily. The kind of girl who would shop at Zara for example; a feminine but smart style. So, I began to look around at current fashion trends and also looked at classic actors like Clarke Gable or James Stewart.

I decided a smart but casual style was the way to go and got myself a blazer (smart sports jacket), some slim fit jeans, a smart shirt and some shiny shoes. Now, I walk down the street and get IOIs (indicators of interest) from many girls who dress exactly the way I like them to.

Look Better

There are a lot of good looking guys out there who don’t have any game and can get girls into bed just because of their looks and their physique.

Most PUAs aren’t that lucky though.

Many of us tend to be skinny and geeky looking, as we’re mostly the intelligent introverted type. This means that this area can give you a vast increase in your allure and attractiveness to women.

I have bad eyesight, I used to have really bad acne and I was really skinny without any muscles.

When I was in my late teens I went to the doctor about the acne and eventually after trying many different pills and creams, he put me on Roaccutane (Accutane). A course on these pills cured my acne for life.

I’m really short-sighted. I either have to wear glasses with really thick lenses or I have to wear contact lenses. I’ve been doing the latter since I was sixteen years old. When my business starts to make more money, I’m going to get laser treatment.

Over the last couple of years I’ve been sporadically going to the gym. I’m going more regularly now and am starting to fill out and gain more muscle, but already I am noticing more IOIs from women. It seems that just a small amount more muscle will raise you above the average and make a difference to those eagle-eyed women.

I was lucky to have a good dentist when I was a kid, so my teeth are straight, but for those of you who have crooked teeth, go to the dentist and get them sorted out. Don’t worry about having to wear a brace for a few months. It’s better to have to go through that than to live with fucked-up teeth.

Masculinity / Inner Game

When it comes to women, the most attractive thing a man can have is masculinity and self-confidence. This is the basis for all direct game seduction systems. No tricks or routines, just pure, honest masculinity.

You have to learn to be unapologetic about your desires. You have to know what you want in a woman and know how to deal with them. You have to be a guy who sets and achieves goals and is in a constant state of self-improvement. You need to be trying to improve your station in life and push your boundaries, facing fear head on.

Much of this can be learned from simply putting your balls on the line and going out to try and meet women, but there are many other ways of learning to embrace your masculinity:

Extreme sports, building a business, public speaking and travel are a small list of things that you can do to increase your confidence and make you feel like a man. The key is to examine your life and make a list of the things that scare you. Areas of your life that you are weak at and are constantly trying to avoid. Then one by one, push yourself to engage each of these things.

So, if you want to get better with women, don’t focus on just one thing; work on all of the above and you will soon notice that the rate of improvement in your results will increase dramatically.

Action vs. Reaction.

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One thing that you’ll notice about most non-achievers is that they are consumers. They work at a nine-to-five job, five days per week for years. They money they earn is spent. In early years, it goes on music, games, entertainment, socialising and technology. Later, it is spent on cars, houses, holidays, more technology, marriages and children. People take everything they earn and spend it on something.

One thing you’ll notice about most high-achievers is that they are producers. They are always creating something new. They are the ones who create the objects that the consumers devour. Don’t get me wrong, there are people who are non-achievers who also produce. Just think of the bedroom musician who writes for a hobby, or the backyard potter who makes ceramics for fun and gives them to friends.

High-achievers however, will create something of value to a consumer and find a way to deliver that object to them. They either create something completely new or modify something existing to make it better. Then they offer it to market for the consumers to buy.

Break the Habit

It can be difficult to become a producer if you have spent your whole life as a consumer. But, if you want to try, put your mind to it for thirty days, and you will find that it becomes a habit. The same applies to bad habits. Abstain for thirty days and you will break the habit.

An analogy can be made to pickup. That is, acting as opposed to reacting. In actual fact, by acting, we are producing, as you will see.

Action is Essential in Game

If we see a girl we like, and we know a little game, the first thing we will do is go and talk to her. We take action, because by doing so, we have a chance to achieve what we want. Whilst pushing forward the interaction through its various stages, we are putting the seduction framework into action.

For example, when we’ve portrayed our personality to the girl and she is relaxed and enjoying the interaction, we will eventually close her in some way. We as men, have to take action to make sure that happens. The girl will not do it. Do you think she’ll number close you, kiss you, take you home and lay you? No. You take action. She reacts to the action you take.

If you want to be good at game, you need to be aware of what you’re doing throughout an interaction with a girl. You need to be asking yourself:

“Am I taking action, or am I reacting?”

If you’re reacting, you’ll get nowhere. As a leader, you need to be taking action, forcing the issue, moving forward. If however, you don’t want abundance with women, you should remain reactive. Wait until someone else makes a move.

Move Forward in Your Life

Maybe you can see why learning game improves your life as a whole. By learning to be a man of action, you are also learning the skill at the root of achievement in life. Action is a form of creation. You are making a connection with a girl that did not exist before. Simply by taking action. Sure, on many occasions, the interaction will lead to nothing, but sometimes your effort will result in a prize.

Maybe, instead of surfing the internet, reading blogs, you could write a blog. Maybe instead of checking out eBay or Amazon for cool gadgets to buy, you could make your own and sell it on those same websites. One is action, one is reaction. One is production, the other is consumption.

One final analogy. Cattle consume. They eat all day long and wander around in their field oblivious to the fact that they’re just being fattened up for slaughter. The farmer feeds the cattle and one day reaps the reward of his work. Would you rather be the cattle or the farmer?