Assumption Stacking is one of the most misunderstood sections of the Daygame Blueprint. It occurs after you have stopped the girl and delivered your opener. The point of this section is to initiate the conversation and at the same time, to try to distinguish yourself from all the rest of the guys who have ever approached her as a potential mate.

The reason the first thing you will say to her after the opener is an assumption, is because every other guy out there asks a question. Do not ask a question.

The average guy will ask:

• Where are you from?
• What are you doing?
• What job do you do?
• Why were you walking so fast?
• Why are you carrying all those bags?

This isn’t supposed to be the Spanish Inquisition. If you do the same thing as the average guy, you’ll just blur into a Beta mist in her mind. She will blow you off and continue doing what she was previously doing, like going to meet her friends for tea and cakes or getting her hair or nails done, or buying new clothes to impress potential Alphas.

How to Make Assumptions

What you will do is mention three things you noticed about her and then make an assumption. Here are three different girls:

1. “What I noticed about you was the dark hair, the feminine way of dressing and how skinny you are. I think you’re from China.”
2. “What I noticed about you was the warm furry jacket, the tight jeans and the wellies you’re wearing. I think you work on a farm.”
3. “When I first saw you, the first things I noticed were your classy-looking suit, your perfect make-up and the smoke coming off your heels. I think you’re a lawyer training for the 100 metres sprint.”

Obviously you don’t have to use the “I noticed…” style of assumptions with every girl you see, it’s just a training wheel.

So, what am I doing here? I’m naming two things that made me decide what it is I’m assuming about her and another thing that is a mild push / tease / joke. When you first meet a girl, she’s going to be a little cautious, so you need to warm her up. Making her laugh or showing that you’re not a suck-up is key.

When you do your opener, you usually deliver a compliment (“I think you look nice”, etc), so this little tease helps to offset that. When it comes to this first assumption, I usually try to think of what I’m going to say as I’m approaching before stopping her. Then I have my assumptions ready when it’s time to say them.

You can make them up on the spot, but this is something that you’d be doing when you have a lot more composure and experience. What will usually happen next is that that she’ll reply to your assumption:

1. “No, actually I’m from Japan.”
2. “Uh!? Boots like these are in fashion now!”
3. “Ha ha! I am a lawyer, but I’m late for a meeting.”

What really matters at this point is that you’re not thinking what to say next. The important thing is that you’re totally focussed on what she is saying and listening very carefully. What she says at this point will give you all the material you need to really get this conversation going. Your next step is to deliver an Assumption Story based on the information you just gathered.

Stacking Those Assumptions

But what to do if this is the answer you get to your assumption:

“No.”

This is why it’s called Assumption Stacking, because you can stack another assumption on top, but only if you don’t get any information from the first assumption.

Sometimes the reason you don’t get a decent answer from her is because she doesn’t like you. If that’s the case, she will start to walk away very soon afterwards, so don’t worry about that.

More often than not, the reason she didn’t say anything was because her brain was befuddled. There will have been a lot of situations in her life that she has experienced before and she will have a default way of reacting to them, but if she’s never had an Alpha guy stop her in the street and give her a compliment before, she’ll be dazed and shy for a few seconds.

Therefore, take a moment and either look her up and down or cast your mind back to your first memory of seeing her and make another assumption. There are only a few basic areas about her on which you can make a decent assumption. These include:

• What her job is.
• Where she is from.
• What she’s doing or about to do.

So, pick another from the list and make an assumption on that in the same way as your first one. Usually by this time she’ll have come to her senses and will have something to say. Make sure you listen and then go into your Assumption Story.

Whatever you do, don’t fall into the trap of making assumption after assumption for no reason as you’ll just end up seeming like some weird fortune telling cold-reader dude. The Assumption Stack is just a tool to enable you to get a morsel of information about her which you can use to start a conversation, without you having to ask her boring questions.

Assumption Stories

After this, you need to tell an Assumption Story based upon what she just said:

1. “I went to Japan last year, to Tokyo. It was so crowded everywhere. I walked around a place called Shibuya and there were grown-up girls standing around dressed like schoolgirls. It was kind of hot but at the same time kind of wrong!”
2. “Well, to me it looks like you’re ready to go feed some pigs or milk some cows. I can just imagine you with a straw in your mouth, pumping away at those udders!”
3. “I don’t know what it’s like being a lawyer, but I imagine it’s really fun and challenging, like a courtroom drama. You have to save the life of your client, so you present the case, cross-examine the witnesses and shout “Objection, your Honour” to everything your opposition have to say!”

This fun little story warms the girl up because you’re talking about her and her life. It works because everybody is interested in themselves. She can relate to this.

You’re also either displaying knowledge of her background or painting a fun picture of what you imagine her life to be like. These are attractive qualities in a man. This is conversational bait and you can continue from here with some normal chit-chat, spicing it up with attraction when the opportunity arises.

So what is winging? The word “wing” comes from “wing-man”, the aviation term. Wikipedia calls a wing-man “a pilot who supports another in a potentially dangerous flying environment”.

Now, contrary to what some people may think, there is nothing dangerous about supporting another would-be-womaniser in the field. You’re not going to get killed, arrested, dismembered, etc. The absolute worse that will happen is that she ignores you and walks past. I once had a girl punch me on the ear but that was after I fucked her and then told her I wanted to see other women. Anyway, we’re not talking about flying in this post, we’re talking about one guy helping another guy get laid.

When to Wing

A lot of guys, especially those whom have a background in night-game will use a wing most of the time, regardless of their experience level. Many guys that do Daygame will use a wing for the first few months and then mostly go out solo. Let’s have a look at common practices and find out in what situations you should and should not wing.

After I’d been doing Daygame in Nottingham for a couple of years, I moved to London to seek a larger number of high quality girls. In Nottingham, the city pretty much died in terms of hot girls during the summer, when all of the students went home.

Being a tourist city, I thought that this issue would be resolved in London, as summer is the biggest time for holiday-makers. However I found that the hot students just get replaced by large groups of school-kids, couples and families. Not many solo girls.

There are girls in pairs and groups though, and this is where winging can be useful.

Winging for Clubs and Night-Game

In a club, girls also hang around in groups and pairs, so finding a quality solo girl is quite rare. I don’t do clubs anymore because I hate them, but the method that is used is as follows:

1. You see a girl you like, you tell your wing which one you want and then go up to her and do your approach.
2. Your wing comes up to you and your set shortly afterwards and starts talking to the girl’s friend.

Obviously, there is a little more to it than that, but the point is that girls are not very independent creatures like guys. They feel intimidated by guys because guys are more powerful physically. This can work to your advantage because this intimidation causes a thrill of attraction to a girl, but I am digressing…

A girl will rarely go to a club on her own, so she will be with a friend or group of friends as there is protection in numbers. In addition, girls have trouble making up their own minds about anything, so when they have to decide whether they like you or not, they will often put as much emphasis on their friends’ opinion as their own.

Winging in a club works because your wing is occupying your target’s friend’s attention, so you can run your attraction material on her and get her into you without any outside interference. Then you can isolate her whilst your wing does the same with her friend.

This is good for you, but unless the friend is hot, your wing may be doing you a massive favour by seducing an ugly or fat chick, so you need a good wing.

Street and Daygame Winging

The same style of winging can also be done on the street and it is effective as you can take the girls on insta-dates as a group, or just number close them.

Hopefully both girls will have had a good interaction because they have been given so much individual attention you’re likely to get a date out of it. However, it’s not necessary, and it can take up your wing’s time for no reason.

When it comes to Daygame, the basis behind this style of seduction is what we call “direct” game, where an emphasis is put on self-development and masculinity, self-empowerment and self-reliance. So it can be seen that after a while doing street approaches, a wing can be a hinderance more than a benefit.

For Beginners

When you’re a beginner, it can be very benefitial indeed to have a wing. Especially if you have approach anxiety and are unable to make yourself go up and talk to girls on your own.

In this situation, the wing’s role is to keep you in state (IE make sure you are in a social frame of mind and not too introspective) and push you into approaches.

As you get more experience, you become more self-reliant and have better state-management, so having a wing becomes less necessary. You are able to push yourself to approach, you have evolved various tactics to keep yourself happy and motivated and you are less prone to being affected by setbacks.

In this beginning stage it can be easy to procrastinate and fail to push your wing into sets. It can also be easy to enjoy your camaraderie so much that you forget to be looking for girls to approach. So, it is important to stop each other making excuses for not approaching and it is essential to remember that you’re there to approach hot girls, not have a nice chat.

Problems

After a while, you’ll encounter the problem that you and your wing want to approach the same girl.

In my experience, it can be useful to have a rule that the first guy to see the girl and do the approach gets to talk to her. This stops procrastination but can cause resentment. Alternatively, you can set a rule that each time both of you like a girl, you take it in turns to have priority to approach.

Both ways work. In then end though, you’ll become more independent and just start going out on your own. You can approach 100% of the girls you like, you don’t need support and you find that you manage to approach more girls, which results in more numbers farmed.

So does this mean that if you’re going solo, you can only approach girls who are on their own?

In a big city, it is actually possible to spend a whole day meeting girls and never have to do a two-set or a group, but sometimes it’s not. Either that or you see a girl you really like and she happens to be in a group.

If this is the case, you can approach a group of girls on your own.

Gaming Two-Sets Solo

From my point of view, if you see a girl you like in a two-girl set, it is often best to go up to them and address both of them.

Open your arms wide and talk to both, by shifting your eye-contact from one to the other as you do your opener. Then you can alternate between talking to one then the other.

For attraction, you can play one off the other, putting them into boxes and assigning them roles. Girls love being told what to think and do, they hate having to make decisions and take responsibility for anything.

After you can sense that you are a welcome diversion, you can slowly start to pay more attention to the target and eventually number close her. Alternatively, you can end your seduction by telling them that you like them both and would like to meet up them, meaning that they can decide whose number to give you.

Usually if you’ve done your job right, you’ll get the number of the one that you like. If you don’t, invite the one whose number you got out and tell her to bring her friend.

Gaming Sets with Multiple Girls Solo

It pays to be able to tell who is the leader of the set. Usually she is the hottest girl, but more often than not she is physically leading the others (she walks in front or she walks in the middle of the group) and she is talking the most.

If the girl you want is the leader, you can just go up to her and talk to her, ignoring the other girls. They will allow you to do what you want and often just pull away to talk among themselves. If the one you like is not the leader, you will have to entertain them all as you did in the two set. You can divide them into groups and put them into boxes then play one set against each other. You should usually put the one you like most in the group that you appear to like least.

Approaching groups of more than one girl is no more challenging than talking to a solo girl, it is just a different skillset. Don’t let it intimidate you. After all, you are a man. Act like one, be dominant and lead.

Although I’ve been doing Daygame for a few years, when I have a break from it, I will still find that I’ve gotten rusty after I return. I don’t believe in completely dropping game at any point in your life. After all, once you’ve taken the red pill it is hard to go back. Repeated experiences with mini-relationships have given me the understanding that you must have options.

Relationships and game.

For the past few months I’ve been seeing one particular girl who has stood out from the rest. Sometimes you find one who just fits really well. I used to go out every Saturday and many Sundays to meet women on a strict basis, every week for years without fail. After meeting this girl, as she is from out of town and has to travel to see me, I gave up every other weekend to spend time with her, meaning that I had a lack of momentum on Approach Weekends and a lot less desire to actually go out and meet other women. About three or four weeks ago, she left the country to return home for the summer. I was happy with this as I could see my level dropping, plus I really don’t think I’m a one girl man. So, this is where I’ve been at since then.

Rusty.

Before meeting this girl, I’d regularly be farming around twenty numbers over a weekend and having four or five days twos per week. During the month that I met her, I banged her plus three other girls in the space of four weeks. The first weekend I went out after she left the UK, I got no numbers, the second weekend I got three, and last weekend I got six. I was rusty. If you’ve been doing this a while, the structure of a seduction is ingrained in your mind and you can just flow through on auto-pilot from the approach to the number close, even if you’ve been away. But your numbers will be bad quality. Girls won’t respond to your feeler texts.

Comeback King.

The problem really is two-fold. Your game is not sharp and you’re not in the moment. So what approach do I take to getting back into shape with my game? The first thing to do is go back to basics. Everybody starts from the approach. As a beginner, you learn each part of the seduction process step-by-step, from the approach forwards. The same applies when you come back from a relationship, although your progression is quicker.

You start from the approach.

So, there are a number of things that make up an approach, which I’ve mentioned before. Make sure you have good posture and a clear voice. Ensure that you are the right distance away before stopping her, use an appropriate opener, make sure you are smiling before you approach. Another important aspect is good eye contact. What is good eye contact, when do you do it and how much?

Eye contact.

I read a really good book during the knowledge-gathering phase of my development; How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships, by Leil Lowndes. There are many good pointers on how to socialise and communicate with people in this book, but one of the main things that stuck with me was a technique that she calls “Sticky Eyes”. She says that you should never take your eyes off the other person when they are talking and when you do, you should break contact very slowly, as if your eyes are stuck to the girl’s with chewing gum.

When I approach a girl, the first thing I do before I even put my hand up, or open my mouth to say my opener is to pick one of her eyes and begin to look very directly right into the pupil, as if I’m trying to look into her soul. Don’t squint! Then I stop her, deliver my opener and go through the assumption phase without breaking eye contact. It’s important to practice looking right into the pupil and then once you feel like you’re getting somewhere, you can use sticky eyes to slowly look away now and then. Don’t do it for too long at a time as it loses its effect and can become a little uncomfortable for her.

Listen.

Once you’ve got your posture and eye contact right, with each approach you do, continue doing those correctly and make sure the other constituents of your approach are spot on. You’ll notice your approach has improved and you can go on to later parts of the seduction; the assumptions, stories, teasing and attraction, comfort, close or insta-date, etc. This leads us to the second part of this process of removing the mental cobwebs from your game, you must start to listen again.

When you’re concentrating on the minutiae of the structure of your game, you’re not really listening, you’re not in that flow-state that you need for a really good interaction. Once you’ve cleaned out your technique, you must let go of it and make sure you’re just focusing on being in the moment, being spontaneous, and above all, listening to what the girl is saying. You can get so much material to explore just by listening to what she says.

This will sharpen your attraction and story-telling skills and get your game back on track.

The first ten seconds speaking to a girl is the most important part of a seduction. The impression that she gets of you during those first ten seconds will colour all of the interactions you will ever have with her. If things go well, she will tell you years later about that first ten seconds and will be able to recall in high-definition exactly what happened and how you made her feel.

Stand up straight.

A large proportion of the way you convey yourself to a girl depends not on what you say, but how you deliver what you say. This can come in a number of forms. Vocal tonality, voice projection, eye-contact and posture are the most important. In this post, I will concentrate on the latter.

It is easy to see the difference between good posture and bad posture.

Bad posture.

Stand in front of a mirror. Round your back, push your shoulders forward, cross your hands in front of your groin, lower your head toward the floor. Now look up with your eyes at yourself in the mirror. Like what you see? I guess not. Nor will a girl.

Good posture.

Now, stand in front of a mirror, imagine that there is a rope attached to your spine at the base of your neck and someone is pulling up on that rope, straightening out your back. Pull back your shoulders and your chest will push out. Don’t tuck your stomach in, leave it relaxed and natural. If you’re carrying weight, it doesn’t matter. Own your belly. Let your arms dangle loosely at your sides and have a gap between your feet of a couple of foot-widths. Lastly, tilt your head so that your chin is slightly above horizontal. Look directly at your own eyes in the mirror. Looks better? You bet it does.

When you approach a woman, you need to look like the you in the second example. She will see a man who is proud of himself. A man who exists in the world without apology. A man who can sweep her off her feet. She’ll never forget you as long as she lives.

How to keep good posture.

One tip you can use to try to maintain this posture in your normal day-to-day life is, whenever you walk through a door, look up at the lintel. This does two things.

1. It stretches and straightens your back.
2. You may or may not have consciously noticed, but when someone walks through a door and enters a room, unless they are utterly engrossed in what they’re doing, the majority of the room’s inhabitants will look around to see who has entered. When you walk through that door with your awesome posture, you will be someone that they will want to meet.

Lastly, there is a science behind good posture and it is taught by instructors of the Alexander Technique. If you’re dead serious about improving your posture and you want to get professional help, these are the people I would suggest.