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Expand Your Comfort Zone.

25th January 2015 By Mort Leave a Comment

Us humans like to be comfortable. There’s huge industry devoted to making our lives fluffy and soft.

At one time, our descendants had a hard life. They struggled to find food, let alone somewhere to lie down and fall asleep without fear of being mauled and eaten by wild animals. They had to rely on their cunning, their hunting and survival skills, the strength and speed of their bodies. The constant danger kept their wits sharp.

In our present age, the closest we come to danger is crossing the road during rush hour.

There is no threat. Society keeps us safe and comfortable.

This is why the population is overweight and overindulgent. Whenever we have a problem, we escape to excess of food, drink, drugs or World of Warcraft instead of facing the problem and overcoming it.

But you and I have taken the pill and we’ve woken up to the truth. If we want to experience more in our lives than our masters and overlords want us to, we have to experience discomfort and peril like our ancestors did.

We push beyond our boundaries, take risks stake our claim to a better life.

Nobody’s saying that we have to go back to the wilderness and live like savages. What I’m saying is that in order to truly experience life and struggle beyond the limitations that the average man is unconsciously held to, we need to feel fear and discomfort on a regular basis. We need to become friends with it.

When you feel that fear, it means that you’re working in unknown territory. When you face the unknown, you grow and become greater than you were before. You gain experience, knowledge and confidence in your ability to push further into the unknown. That first initial foray out of your comfort zone can in time become an expedition, during which you find great wealth and power.

Let’s do an exercise. Close your eyes and imagine each of the following things in as much detail as possible:

Riding a rollercoaster
Doing a bungee jump
Jumping out of a plane with a parachute
Giving a speech in front of fifty people
Joining a boxing gym or a martial arts dojo
Talking to an attractive girl with her friends on the street
Moving to another country
Quitting your job and starting your own business
Contacting a celebrity or personal hero and asking them to lunch

If any of those give you butterflies in your tummy, make you want to throw up or just scare the living shit out of you, then you might consider actually doing them. All of them.

In fact, don’t consider them. Do them.

To make it easier, you can do them in order of the least scary one first and the most scary last. If you can think of other things that scare you, add them to the list.

Once you start meeting that fear instead of avoiding it, you’ll find your life changes in an unprecedented manner.

You will change. You will become more of a man, and a man can do anything.

You can do anything.

If you’re comfortable, you’re not living your life, you’re just existing.

Experimenting with Relationships.

20th January 2015 By Mort Leave a Comment

Before I started my PUA journey, I had three long-term monogamous relationships with two different girls.

The first girl I lived with for almost three years. I knew after six months that she wasn’t right for me but I stayed with her because I wanted regular sex. Even then, after a while, the sex got boring and I would imagine fucking other girls whilst fucking her. I couldn’t leave her though because I had no other options and no trust in my ability to find a suitable replacement.

I find this pretty pathetic now.

The second one I lived with for a couple of years, I let her go and then four years later, met her again, lived with her again and let her go again.

I let her go the first time because it was obvious that we weren’t compatible; in many things, but most of all sexually. The rationale for getting back with her was a massive dry spell I had and a promise from her to be more available sexually. I let her go again for the second time for the same reason as before. We started living together and the sex dried up. And she annoyed the fuck out of me.

Learning Game Gives You Options

After our first break-up I discovered Game, but was mostly unable to approach, so I spent most of my time reading and keyboard-jockeying. I think most guys go through this phase of too much reading and not enough action. Luckily, I was interested in a direct style of game which had an emphasis on inner-game, so in the four years between our relationships, despite having no actual game, I had become a lot more solid as a man. I think this is one of the things that attracted her to me the second time.

After this third failed relationship, I decided that the main problem was that I didn’t have enough choice of women.

Sure, I came into contact with hundreds of women every day, and some of them were attractive enough for me to want to fuck, but I was frozen from taking the action necessary to turn that desire into a reality. It didn’t help that at this time I decided to quit drugs, smoking and drinking. In the end this helped a lot, but not going to pubs and clubs anymore made it difficult to meet women in a socially acceptable way.

This is where Daygame came in. I could just meet women as I went about my daily life.

After getting a wing, I was able to start approaching and after eight or nine months, got my first lay from a cold approach on the street. Not long after, I got two other lays (they always seems to come in bunches). I was having casual sex with three different women in rotation.

Having a Rotation Stops You Getting Bored

I found this situation to be very enjoyable. I was getting regular sex from three hot young girls, but the most important thing to me was that I wasn’t bored.

I’d fuck one girl and then not really care if I fucked her again, but then I’d fuck another girl and the desire for the first girl would come back. It was like fucking more than one woman made both women far more desirable to me than just fucking one would have done. It kept sex exciting and fresh.

The main problem with this scenario was that none of the girls knew that I was fucking other girls.

I like to think that I have integrity and this duplicitous behaviour was bothering me. I knew that I had to do something. I looked for advice and saw a video by a London PUA who went by the name of ‘Skeletor’. He said to be honest with women and tell them you’re seeing other girls. I decided to try it and told one of the girls that I wanted to see other women.

She punched me on the ear.

So I was down to two girls. I told both of the other girls that this wasn’t going to be monogamous, but that I liked them and wanted to keep seeing them. One accepted it and the other had a major strop and didn’t see me for three weeks. But eventually she texted me to say she’d thought about it and wanted to come back to me.

Girls Can’t Handle Polygamy for Longer Than a Few Months

This carried on for a couple of months, then the girl who had originally accepted the situation started to behave weirdly. She send me texts saying “FML”. I was thinking “what the hell does FML mean”, so I looked it up and it means “fuck my life”. I could see that she was a little bit disturbed below the surface and decided to break it off with her.

This left me with one girl, but I was still going out and meeting and dating other women to try to get my rotation back. After a couple of months this girl also began to crack.

She was one of those girls who accepted me seeing other women but didn’t want to know the details. From my experience, girls in rotation are either like this or they want to know everything about the other girls that I’m seeing. I can see the pros and cons of both. If the situation were reversed, I’d prefer to know nothing but at the same time I’d like to know sexual details through fear of STDs. I guess things like this cross your mind when you’re a girl whose guy is seeing other women.

Anyway, she slowly became more and more remote and eventually stop returning texts. I saw her a few days later in public and she just ignored me.

I went through this cycle a few times, meeting new girls, fucking them and adding them to the rotation. I became better at managing the girls, enabling me to lengthen the amount of time that they’d stick around until they slipped off the radar, but in the end, they all disappeared, one by one.

About a year ago, I met a really awesome girl.

Return to Monogamy

I didn’t actually expect us to be anything more than a one night stand, as she lives hundreds of miles away and was just visiting London for the weekend. I didn’t bother telling her that I was seeing other girls because I never expected to see her again. But she came back down and we did some stuff together and then it became a regular thing. We went on holidays together and we were seeing each other for a whole weekend every two or three weeks. We still are.

Two things make this relationship awesome.

Firstly, I really like her. I went through more than three thousand girls before I met one who ticks all the boxes for me. She’s loyal, she’s good looking and sexy. We have a matching libido and good polarity, because I’m masculine and she’s feminine. She’s creative, she likes to cook for me and mend ripped clothes. She makes the bed. She allows me to make videos of us engaged in obscene acts. She pays for us to eat out and go on holidays. She has a great sense of humour, she dresses well, she buys clothes and lingerie that she thinks I’ll like. I could go on.

Secondly, because we only see each other every two or three weeks, we have time to be away from each other. It stops the relationship becoming too stifled and keeps us both on our toes. By the time the waiting is done and she’s taken the train down to London, we’re overjoyed to see each other again and we fuck like rabbits all weekend. For a long time it was far from boring.

I still went out ever weekend that she wasn’t visiting to Daygame and meet other girls, but the more I saw this one girl, the less enthusiastic I became about going on dates with the girls whose numbers I’d taken. I was beginning to fall for her, despite my solid belief that monogamy doesn’t work.

But now I’m starting to get itchy again.

Polygyny

For the last couple of months, I’ve started to imagine fucking other girls while she’s sucking me. There are only so many new things you can think of to do together. There are only so many places to go. Only so many different ways to fuck someone. I’m beginning to run out of ideas and I’m beginning to stop caring.

I’ve been thinking to myself: “If only I could see two or three real quality girls on a monogamous basis who all know about each other and even like each other.”

Now I know that it’s possible to meet “the one”, and I know that seeing more than one girl at a time will stop you getting bored of each girl, so I think a possible solution to a man’s relationship problems is Polygyny.

In fact after I came up with this idea, I found out that it had been thought of before. A classic example is the relationship that the three main characters (Javier Bardem, Scarlett Johansson and Penelope Cruz) have in Woody Allen’s film ‘Vicky Cristina Barcelona‘. All three members of the relationship live together, fuck each other and like each other immensely.

I know some people are obsessed with the concept of “the one” and some people think it impossible. Personally, I think there are many girls in the world who would be “the one” for me. In my case, it is one girl in every three thousand.

Now, if only I could meet another “one” and somehow magically see both at the same time on a monogamous basis. I know monogamous means “one at a time” but I’m talking about them seeing me and each other exclusively. A relationship triptych.

I Have Hope

I wasn’t surprised to find that I’m not the first person my current woman has been in a relationship with. I’m the second. However, I was pleasantly surprised to find out that the first one was a girl.

“Zoiks! This is perfect!” I thought. “I’m going out with a bi-sexual girl.”

Maybe I can find another “one” and we can explore my ideal scenario. Over a period of time I jokingly and sometimes not so jokingly made suggestions to the effect that we could find another woman and have fun together, but every time, the idea was refuted. After pressing her on the matter, it seems that her first relationship was just a phase of her life where she was finding out who she was and she’s not bi-sexual after all.

This dashed my dreams and I wished that I’d told her straight away that I was seeing other women. I did tell her after six months that I’d fucked other women since I’d met her, but she was kind of okay with it because it was only at the point that she was becoming really attached to me.

So, now I’m stuck. I’m in a monogamous relationship with the most awesome girl I’ve ever met, but I can feel the primal polygamy rearing up again.

Unresolved Ending

I keep Daygaming but I don’t text the girls I meet. I think it’s important to keep practising because I think a split is inevitable at some point. I don’t believe men and women are meant to be together for their entire lives. I won’t ever get married. Besides, still meeting other women keeps me from becoming needy and keeps my flirting and social skills sharp. This is undoubtedly one of the things that keeps her attraction levels high.

I’m not sure what’s going to happen, but I suspect I’m going to be single again at some point, whether it’s weeks, months or years from now, I don’t know.

Maybe then I can give Polygyny a try.

Self Amusement.

8th January 2015 By Mort Leave a Comment

Often guys tell me that they have a real problem with the attraction phase of the Daygame Blueprint.

When I was starting out, I had the same problem. I’m a logical, introverted guy, so being playful and social were close to impossible for me. I didn’t even understand the concept of attraction until I gained more experience and saw other guys gaming women.

I’d approach a girl and just have a conversation with her. No wonder I got no numbers, or I got a number but got no replies to my texts. I wasn’t portraying attractive qualities.

Methods of Attraction

There are many ways to attract a woman to you, but the main ones are:

Teasing
Challenging
Push-Pull
Knowledge

The first one of these that I started to get a grasp of was Knowledge. Through talking to more and more women, I’d learn more about their lives, their values and the places they came from.

I also took it upon myself to travel more and experience new cities and cultures. This gave me more to talk about.

So, when I met a girl from Barcelona, I could talk about my impressions of the city, having spent a week there. When I met a girl from Shanghai, I could talk about things that other girls from the city had told me.

Having knowledge and experience is an attractive quality in a guy. You don’t lack topics upon which to talk and you can often frame the interaction in such a way that you are the teacher and she is the student, or you are the father figure and she is the little girl.

This way, you’re creating attraction through authority.

Challenging

Challenging is fairly simple, in that you’re just trying to remain present and when the girl says something particularly ridiculous, you need to stamp down on her.

For example you’ll be talking and she’ll tell you that Lady Gaga is far more talented than Beethoven ever was. This is where you tell how wrong she is.

The key with challenging is to choose your battles wisely, not do it too often and not get overly emotional about it. Try to do it like a big brother teaching his young and naive sister.

Knowledge and challenging are probably the least effective of the four areas that I mentioned above though.

The two others, Teasing and Push-Pull, require you to have a playful vibe to you and if you’re in a very logical frame of mind, it’s going to be very difficult to do these well.

This is where self-amusement comes in.

Vibe is Key

Walking the streets of your city for hours on end can sometimes become a little dispiriting, especially if you’re still new to approaching attractive women and you’re not getting very positive responses to your attempts. Your vibe can plummet and it’s a downward spiral as the girls pick up on your low emotional state and decide that they don’t want to be part of it.

As you get more experienced, it becomes easier to remain in a good state no matter what gets thrown at you. This is mainly due to having experienced hundreds of blow-outs. You just don’t care any more if some random girl ignores you or finds some reason not to talk to you. But it’s partially due to learning new methods to keep your vibe positive.

Self-amusement is just approaching each girl with the frame of mind where you’re just trying to see how much fun it is to spend time with her. This not only asserts a positive, fun atmosphere on the interaction from the beginning, but it also means you’re qualifying her and not dependent on a positive outcome, both of which are attractive characteristics.

You can do all those fun things that made you laugh over the years. I like to do things like:

Pointing to her chest and telling her that she spilled food on her blouse, then when she looks down, tickling her chin with my fingers.
Asking really random questions like what kind of ice-cream she likes or whether she’s ever walked a tight-rope.
Kicking her lightly on the leg.
‘Accidentally’ bumping into her.

Even if these don’t make her laugh, they’ll make you crack up and increase your vibe. I’ve said many times before, the girl is a mirror. She will duplicate your vibe and as she has a very high affinity towards good emotions, she’ll like you more.

Positive Emotions

I remember being surprised when after I’d just fucked a girl, pulled out and ejaculated on her chest, she told me that she loved giving me pleasure.

I used to think that unless a girl had an orgasm herself whilst you fucked her, she’d be dissatisfied with your sexual abilities. Obviously you have to learn to give her orgasms also, but more often than not, a girl loves to make a man ejaculate. She loves the good feelings that he gets through sexual ecstasy.

So anyway, even if the girl doesn’t find your dumb jokes funny, she’ll still like you more because you feel good about yourself for doing them.

Teasing comes naturally when you’re in this state of mind.

You can tell her that her pony-tail reminds you of a bratty little girl at your school when you were five.

You can pick bits of fluff off her clothes and accuse her of being too messy to make a good girlfriend.

You can tell her she looks like a scientist because of her geeky glasses.

Push-Pull becomes easier too because you’re less bothered what the girl thinks about you, so you can push the boundaries a little.

You can tell her you love her this much (and hold up your hand which has the first finger and thumb an inch apart) and then tell her you hate her this much (by holding your arms far apart like a guy exaggerating on the size of his fishing catch).

You can tell her how you love her style, but you’re not sure if her boots go with her coat.

You can tell her that her glasses make her look like a secretary. A sexy secretary.

Put it into Practice

Attraction becomes much easier when you’re feeling good vibes and going into an interaction with a girl from a frame of self-amusement helps push your vibes in a positive direction.

Give it a try and you’ll see a dramatic improvement in your enjoyment of the game and your results.