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Can You Become Financially Independent by Investing in the Stock Market?

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I’ve been working for someone else ever since I was twenty-one.

I didn’t ever feel like I was a slave or that I was being exploited at any point, because going to work every day was just a normal thing to do. The majority of people in the world work for someone else. I never crosses their mind to do things any differently.

But I’ve never thought that I was meant to be like everybody else. I’ve always thought that there was something special about me. That I was meant for some kind of greatness. But I never knew what it was. And guess what? I never achieved anything truly great.

Every day, I’d go into the office and do just enough not to get sacked. I didn’t care about working hard, because I didn’t care about any of the companies that I worked for. Then 2008-2009 happened and with that big recession, a lot of people lost their jobs, including me.

I had been in the highest paying job that I’d ever had and I was living a relatively enjoyable life. That disappeared after I got made redundant and I was out of work for nine months. Living on the breadline is no joke. At one point I even had to go to a charity for financial assistance, otherwise I’d have been homeless. Once I’d finally extricated myself from that mess, I told myself that I would never let myself get into that situation again.

Luckily, a couple of months before my extended unemployment, I’d enrolled on an evening class that upon completion, would give me the necessary qualifications to get onto a degree programme. I finished the course with distinction. I scored a total of more than 90% in the coursework and exams. I chose an I.T. degree, because I knew it would be the one industry that would always have a demand for employees, even in a recession. When I graduated, I graduated with distinction again. I scored more than 90% in my coursework and exams.

Work for Others and You’ll Achieve Little or Nothing

I’m not trying to big myself up here, I’m just trying to prove a point. When I worked for other people, I didn’t give a fuck about working hard, I was just there to earn a wage and go home to concentrate on whatever pursuit I was following in my free time. As soon as it became almost a life and death situation (no job or job prospects), I worked super-hard and achieved great things.

Since I graduated, I’ve concentrated the vast majority of my spare time on learning game and getting as good at it as I can. Guess what? I didn’t really care that much about my I.T. job. I just did enough not to get sacked. Sounds familiar? Now guess what happened a month ago? I got fucking made redundant again!

Luckily, my plan worked and I managed to get a new job within three weeks, but I wasn’t as much in demand as I thought. The reason is that I.T. is a fast-moving industry and you have to be constantly learning new technologies. That’s why most computer guys are called geeks. They spend most of their time on computers learning new computer stuff. When I finished my degree, I was determined that nobody would be able to call me a geek. Bad idea.

Don’t live your life doing or not doing things because of what other people may think about you.

Anyway, I learned game, started to dress in a classy way and met and fucked lots of hot girls. The only the only time that I spent doing I.T. related stuff was at work. A few weeks ago when I was forced to start looking for another job, I got a shock. I knew that guys in my industry were in demand and I literally had hundreds of agencies call me up to talk about my CV. The problem was that most of the jobs that they were touting required skills that I didn’t have. My current skill set was out of date.

So the thing I learned from this debacle is that if you want to be good at something, you can’t learn it and then sit on your skills. You need to be constantly learning and evolving. This matters as much with game as it does with your job.

Money is Important, Don’t Let Anybody Tell You Otherwise

Which brings me onto the next point I wanted to make.

If you’re not earning money, you’re in a tonne of shit.

I was worrying about paying rent on time. I was wondering if I’d get a job at all. It took me back to those nine months of poverty and I got scared for a while, before my training kicked in and I started looking at the situation positively.

Then I started making plans. I attacked the problem. I updated my CV, called every agency back, went to interviews, argued about how quickly I could learn new technologies and what a hard worker I was. Of course I could back this up with my college and university scores. I made contingency plans in case I was out of work for an extended period of time. I was so glad that I had the foresight to eradicate my debts, which would mean my survival if I had to resort to unemployment benefits.

Eventually I got a job. I start in three weeks. I’m not going to sit on my arse playing video games though. I’m going to be working hard on my own money making schemes.

I was fucking annoyed with myself for having slipped into the same trap twice though. I’d told myself that I’d never get in this situation again and I felt like I’d let myself down. Also, I was still stuck in that cycle of being an underachiever. But that’s not to say that I’ve been absolutely complacent. I realised more than a couple of years ago that I needed to start doing something to earn money on the side. I knew that if I relied solely on my job as my only source of income that I’d soon find myself in the shit again. So I had decided to think about investments.

Investing Whilst Working at Your Day Job

When I was eleven years old, my parents emigrated to Spain and took me with them. I was never a big fan of the country and didn’t make many friends. I ended up spending most of my time on my own, playing with computers, swimming in the sea and reading. One of the companies that my Dad worked for had a library for other expats to read English books. I read all sort of books, most of them not for kids. I’m glad of this time, because you can learn anything from reading. Whatever goal you want to pursue, someone else has already done it and written a book about it. You’ve just got to buy it, read it and copy their actions.

One of the books that I read was ‘Kane and Abel‘ by Jeffrey Archer. In it, the character Kane is the son of a banker and he grows up living in a world of investments. I know it’s a book but I always remember one thing that happened in the story. Kane is due to get a one million dollar endowment from his father’s estate at the age of twenty one. However, he is was so financially savvy that he had makes more than a million dollars himself, through investments, before he reaches that age. Ever since then I’d held the idea that one day I’d start investing money in the stock market and I’d make millions.

That would mean that I’d have freedom and not have to work for someone else ever again.

After I moved to London a couple of years ago, I finally had some disposable income every month after years of debt. I opened an account with a broker and started investing. I’d been reading about investing for years and decided to follow the route of Warren Buffett. After all, if he could become a billionaire from investing, then surely I could become a millionaire?

After a year I’d done pretty well. None of the stocks I’d bought had lost money. I’d actually made money, but not much. In the whole year, I made a total of £60.00 for my efforts. I’d had big dreams of harnessing the power of compound interest and living off the dividends paid by the companies I’d invested in. Those dreams were shown to be false.

So I had to rethink my plans entirely. I actually did some maths and worked out how long it would take for me to achieve financial independence by investing in the stock market. Here are my calculations:

  • Living in London, what are my monthly outgoings? They’re a little less than £2,000 per month.
  • What is the average return on the stock market at the moment? Let’s be generous and say 10%.
  • How much of my spare income would I be able to invest every month? Let’s say £800.00 per month.
  • Let’s assume that inflation doesn’t stay at 0% forever and that it follows the last 25 years’ historical average of 2.75%.

So, how long would it take me to accumulate enough stocks that I would be able to live off the dividend returns?

The answer is fifteen years. In fifteen years I’ll be almost 55 years old.

I want to be financially independent in the next two or three years, not fifteen years. So I sold my investments and went on a series of holidays instead. I had a really good time, but that wasn’t the most clever of ideas either.

Now, let me state right here and now that I still believe that investing in the stock market is a great idea. It is possible to live off the dividends from your stocks or the interest from your bonds, but you need to have a massive amount invested. For me to be able to pay my inflation-adjusted living costs, I’d have to own approximately £410,000.00 in stocks. And that is a return of 10%. You’d have to be invested in some pretty risky businesses to get that return.

So how long would it take and how much money would you have to have invested, if you only expected an average return of 5% (which is reasonable)? 

The answer is 45 years. I’d be almost 85 years old (so statistically I’d probably already be dead) and I’d have invested £1,800,000.00.

Work for Yourself and You Can Achieve Anything

So what is the answer?

How can you become financially independent and go off travelling the world while living on the returns of your investments? Well obviously the answer is to invest in the market or some other income producing asset, such as property, after you have already made a small fortune.

Of course, how you achieve that is another question entirely.

The strategies I’m currently working on involve two things:

Geo-arbitrage, as discussed in Tim Ferriss’ book, ‘The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich‘, and owning my own business.

It’s entirely possible to earn the £1,800,000.00 I’d need within three years, by working on my own business.

That’s what I’ve been doing for the last year and if you haven’t started yet, I suggest you begin right now.

Some suggested reading, to get you started:

Always Be Closing.

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That clip is from the film Glengarry Glen Ross. If you’ve not seen it, see it. The clip above is part of the most famous scene in the film, where Alec Baldwin’s character admonishes the sales team responsible for selling property on the Glengarry and Glen Ross estates on their failures.

That brings about one of the things that I want to talk about in this article.

Some Guys Are Just Not Trying Hard Enough

The number one reason that anybody who has become good at game got where they are is persistence. If you go out every week and practice hitting on girls, it is almost certain that you’ll get laid sooner or later, because it’s a numbers game. The more girls you talk to, the more likely it is that you’ll find one who likes you, whatever you do to fuck it up.

But that’s not the point of game. Numbers game isn’t a game, it’s just bull-headed persistence and luck.

You need to combine that persistence with a desire to improve.

You have to go out regularly and you have to analyse your game to work out where you made mistakes. Then the next time you go out, you have to ensure that you have a game plan for that day. Let me give you examples from my own beginnings.

When I started, out I knew that game was just a skill. In order to learn that skill, I had to find resources that would help me learn it and I needed to take massive action to put into practice what I learned from those resources.

I didn’t want to go on a bootcamp, because I knew from past experience that although the bootcamp experience gets you approaching and gives you that feeling of confidence with women for the weekend, unless you keep that momentum going, the effects fade quite quickly.

One of the reasons I chose to concentrate on Daygame is because there is a blueprint which takes you from zero to hero. You’ve just got to internalise it and implement it. They have plenty of free videos which explain almost every stage of the process and a bunch of products that you can buy to give you more in-depth information should you need it.

Be Methodical

So, I knew that I wouldn’t be able to run before I could walk, so I concentrated on taking baby-steps. I looked at the Daygame blueprint and said to myself, “Okay, what is the Attention Snap?”

The Attention Snap is the first stage of the Daygame blueprint, and the most vital to get right. I worked out from watching Yad approaching that in his case, the Attention Snap was doing a Yad Stop on a girl and saying “Excuse me, can I say something really quickly?”

So, I went out on the street and practiced the Attention Snap over and over again until I could consistently get a girl to stop.

At first I’d freak the girls out. I analysed my actions and realised that I was doing two things wrong:

  1. I was literally jumping in front of them. I modified this to be more a more smooth jog so that I came into their line of sight gradually.
  2. I was getting far too close during the stop. I modified this so that as I was jogging around in an arc as I passed her, I held out my arm to stop her and used that as a guide to keep me at the right distance.

There were a few other things to improve, such as making sure I was smiling, speaking slowly and loudly, giving direct eye contact, having good posture, etc. but eventually I was satisfied with that part of my game. Then I started working on the next part, the Prehistory.

As you can see, I gradually built my game bit by bit, making sure the foundations were solid first before progressing. I knew that eventually I would get to closing and that I just needed to be patient, methodical and analytical.

So to reiterate my point, don’t just go out every week, do exactly the same thing and expect to get different results. You’ve got to work out where you are going wrong and adjust what you do then next time you go out.

Also, don’t have a big list of things to modify the next time you go out. Pick one thing and work on getting that one thing right. If you’re trying to fix multiple issues at once, you won’t know what modification has had which effect. Make one change and try it on multiple girls, then you will be able to pin-point where you’re going wrong and think of other things you can do to try to fix it.

Closing is Fucking

Now we come to the main point of the article, closing. Check out this clip from Boiler Room, a great film about stock market brokers selling dodgy investments by cold-calling clients.
Two things come up from this clip. First of all, what is closing?
In sales, closing a deal is convincing the prospect to buy whatever it is that you’re selling. But, further than that, it is the exchange of the buyer’s cash for the product or service being bought.

If you compare this to game, closing is fucking the girl. Let me say that again, but using a bold font.

In game, closing is fucking the girl.

Many guys think that taking the girl’s number (number close) or kissing her in the street (kiss close) is a close, but it’s not. The only close that matters is the fuck close. If you don’t have sex with the girl, you didn’t close her.

A kiss close is pointless unless you’re then going to instant-date her and take her home, because it raises her buying temperature too much and buyer’s remorse is almost inevitable. See all that sales terminology? You make her want it too much, but you’re making her want it now-now-now, so you’ve got to pull the trigger now-now-now and get her to your bedroom as soon as possible, to do a real close.

A number close is a good thing to learn, and should be a part of your game arsenal, but it’s not a real close. It’s just a way to enable you to re-engage with the girl at a later point. You should use it for any of the following reasons:

  • Because you don’t have time to attempt to lay her that day.
  • Because she is too busy or unwilling to spend more time with you at that moment.
  • Because you’re out number farming and are concentrating on getting as many numbers as possible to play with.
  • Because you’re still not experienced enough yet in the dating and seduction stages of the game and want to learn those step-by-step before trying for same-day lays.
  • The girl isn’t hot enough for you to invest an extended period of time in seducing her.

There’s probably a couple more that I’ve not thought about, but on the whole, you should always be thinking about the lay. You’re not going out with the aim of taking a girl’s number. You’re not going out with the aim of having a nice chat or a cup of coffee with a girl. You’re not going out to stroke your ego. You’re going out with the aim of having sex with a hot girl. Everything else you do is a tool to aid you in the pursuit of that goal.

Persistence and Frame Control

The second thing that came to me from the clip is persistence. Most guys I take out just let the girl dominate the frame.

Towards the end of that clip, Ben Affleck’s character tells the group “Either you sell the client some stock or he sells you a reason why he can’t”.

The same applies to your game. If you’re talking to a girl and the girl’s still standing there, keep pushing the interaction towards the close. I’ll be out with a protege and he’ll see a girl he likes so I tell him “Go and speak to her then”, so he’ll jog over and open her. Then a few seconds later, I’ll see him jogging back and I say to him, “She looked like she was into you, how come the interaction was so short?” It’s usually one of two things. Either:

  • The girl said something that the guy took to be a rejection, but in actual fact was just her testing his resolve.
  • The girl was still a little shocked at being stopped and wasn’t able to think of something to say, so her mind made her blurt out a standard reply like “I have a boyfriend” or “I’m late to meet my friends”.

Kudos, well done. Most guys can’t even approach. But when you’ve got over that initial approach anxiety, there’s no reason for you to eject from an interaction unless she physically walks away. And even then, there are a few things you can do to try and save the set.

If you’re talking to her and she’s still standing there with her legs crossed and she comes out with some reason to discontinue the interaction, take it with a pinch of salt and continue with your conversation. A woman is looking for a leader. She expects you to lead the interaction and ignore any token objections that she throws at you.

Write this rule indelibly in your mind: Judge a woman by her actions, not her words.

Now before anyone tells me that this is harassing women, you’re wrong.

You’re not grabbing her wrist and forcing her to talk to you. You’re just ignoring objections and pressing on with your agenda. If she walks away, let her. She’s showing with her actions that you’re not doing a good enough job of seducing her. Let her go, learn from the experience and resolve to do better with the next girl.

If she’s still standing there, she’s giving you permission to continue gaming her. Stay calm and unflustered and progress through the blueprint towards the close. And as I’ve said before, if you have the opportunity, escalate to your bed. Take a number only if there’s no way of taking her straight to a coffee shop. Always be closing.

That’s it, I’m done.

How to Avoid Common Relationship Mistakes.

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The vast majority of guys who get good at game eventually get to a point where they meet a girl that they really like. So much so that even if they had previously made a solemn vow to remain a playboy for their remaining years, this girl makes them at least consider a return to monogamy.

I’ve been in relationships before learning game and I’ve been in relationships since learning game. With each girl that I spend time with, I’ve learned more about how to get what I want from the relationship.

With this article, I aim to spell out two things that I do now that I didn’t do before, which have made a massive impact on the quality of my relationships. In a future post I’ll go over a few of the others, but these are two of the most important.

Abundance

The main problem that guys who are not regularly meeting and fucking new women have is a lack of abundance. “No shit”, you may say. And I agree with you because from the outside, it’s obvious.

If you don’t have a woman and you don’t have game, the answer is also obvious: Learn game.

However, if you learned some game and settled down into a monogamous relationship, your number one problem is how to keep that feeling of abundance.

Why is it so important?

Let me run a scenario past you. Answer ‘yes’ or ‘no’.

If you were in a relationship and for one reason or another, that relationship stopped right now and you never saw your woman again, would you be confident of being able to fuck one or more completely different women within one month?

If you answer ‘no’, you don’t have abundance.

If you answer ‘yes’, you do. Now, if you’re in a monogamous relationship, you’ve basically made an agreement, spoken or unspoken, with your woman that you will not sleep with or have romantic liaisons with other women. Can you see how making this agreement is like tying a noose around your neck, swinging the rope over a tree branch and giving the end to your woman?

If you don’t have abundance, you’re not in charge of the relationship, the woman is. If she knows or even senses that you don’t have access to other pussy, she’s going to make you pay for the pussy that you get from her, because all of a sudden, it’s a scarce resource. And whether they know it consciously or not, women know deep down that what we want most from them is regular sex.

So, what’s the solution? There are many.

Most guys faced with this situation just decide to live with it. They have no game nor any knowledge of the red pill so they think that their only option is to live in a world where pussy is a reward for expensive gifts, dinners at restaurants, holidays, marriages and children.

Some guys have less integrity and tell their women that they’re monogamous but in fact meet and fuck other girls on the side. These guys also have little or no game and either meet these girls by chance or pay for the pussy. Either way, these guys have absolutely no self-respect. Don’t let this be you.

Then there are guys who never become monogamous. They have game, they have pussy on demand and have plenty of abundance. This is a charmed life to live, but all of the guys I know of, or have read about who live like this complain of regular periods of burn-out or game-revulsion. They get sick of chasing pussy and have to spend a couple of months at a time away from game, doing something else entirely.

There is also Polygyny, but that’s so rare, that it’s like seeing a unicorn.

The final alternative is to see the woman monogamously and have some game, but keep that game sharp by still gaming other women. I don’t mean gaming other women, dating and fucking them. I just mean gaming them. Approach attractive women in your day-to-day life, run game on them and take their number. Maybe send the initiator text to make sure your game is good, but go no further.

This way, you are faithful to your woman, but you are keeping your skill-set fresh and you are getting enough validation from other women to know that if and when your relationship cracks apart, you have immediate options. You can even occasionally flirt with other attractive women when your own woman is present.

When you do this, she will often surprise you by picking up a new pair of semi-transparent underwear to tempt you with or even spontaneously unzipping you for a crafty blow-job in a semi-public place. Abundance is extremely important.

Leadership

The second thing that you have to be in a relationship is the leader. In every relationship, there is always one person who is in charge. There is no democracy in relationships. Sure, the leader consults with with follower, but in the end, someone is always wearing the trousers. Make sure it’s you.

Here are some examples of things that you should be doing to ensure that you’re the one in charge, not her.

When she asks you where you want to go to eat, you tell her which restaurant. Picking a restaurant that she likes will please her, but you make the decision.

What will please her more is that she is relieved of the burden of having to make a decision. Women hate having to make decisions. They hate taking responsibility.

This is why part of learning to be a man is to make it normal to make decisions and be responsible for your life and to some extent, the life of your woman.

If she asks you what film you should go to see at the cinema together, tell her. She will probably have mentioned at some point that she likes the look of one film or another. You should have been listening and made a mental note. If you’re memory’s shit like mine, keep a notebook and write the name of the film down, so you can remember.

It doesn’t matter that you’re not necessarily going to see a film that you want to see, what matters is that you’re making the decision. And she’ll be extra passionate when the time comes for her to spread her legs later that night.

If you’re walking with her in the street, trying to get to some arbitrary location, you should never allow her to walk in front of you. Always keep her at your side or behind you. If she wanders in front, call her back. If she asks why, tell her “I’m in charge here” and hold her hand or her wrist.

The only time I let my women walk in front is when I tell her to. And that’s usually when she’s wearing a particularly nice skirt, so I can see the way her arse moves while she’s walking. And I tell her that. I like to see her blush.

Lead her physically as well as mentally.  Put your palm in the small of her back and push her softly to direct her where you want her to go. Occasionally hold her elbow when you cross the road. Don’t overdo the physicality, be laid back. Just show her that you have concern for her welfare and that you’re there to lead her safely to wherever it is that you’re going to.

Lead her in the bedroom. When you’re tired of one position and want to do something else, move her or tell her to move. If you want to do the missionary position, put your hands between her thighs and spread her legs. If you want to change to doggy style, grab her legs, twist her over on to her belly and tell her to get on all fours. If you want her to suck your cock, push down on her shoulders and tell her to get down on her knees.

You’re leading. She is following.

These two things will make a relationship a lot more pleasant. Try them and you’ll see.